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Best sex toys for couples to use together, tried and tested by Mumsnet users

Looking to elevate your bedroom game with a long term partner? Got that early relationship spark and and want to keep the fire burning? Here are the best sex toys for couples.

By Rebecca Roberts | Last updated Aug 31, 2023


If you’re wanting to add a little extra oomph to your sex life, you’re not alone. In fact, it’s a common question on our sex Talk board by Mumsnet users in search of ways to reconnect with or revamp their sex lives with their partner. The good news? There’s a whole realm of couples sex toys available to choose from out there that are specifically designed to help you both reach Mt. Orgasm together.

Let’s be clear, though: these toys are not meant to replace intimacy, but rather amplify it. Picking out the best vibrator, sex swing or dildo is a great way to build trust, strengthen intimacy and add excitement to your romance.

“We use toys on each other all the time. Power tools get the job done!”


Now, if the two of you haven’t used sex toys before, you might be wondering where to start and which ones you should buy. Researching and shopping the best couples sex toys together is part of the fun, so grab your partner and read on to discover our roundup of the best couples sex toys, all tried and tested by Mumsnetters themselves.

Don’t forget protection - here’s the best condoms you can try, and of course, lube! Here’s our guide to the best lube to help you find the right one for you.

Best couples sex toys: at a glance

1. Best overall couples sex toy: LELO Picobong Transformer

LELO Picobong Transformer

RRP on writing: £85 | Buy now from Amazon

Key specs

Size: 4.9cm L x 22.0cm H x 21.6cm W | Material: Body safe silicone, ABS plastic | Colour: Black

What we like

  • Flexible

  • Artfully designed

  • Doubled ended

  • Great for both partners

What we don’t like

  • On the small side

  • Our verdict

What Mumsnet users say

“Our Lelo is my number one favourite of our little collection. Quality is superb in every way with a really tight powerful buzz and a good range of settings. Charge lasts absolutely ages.” MightyFine79

Our verdict

This versatile toy features a body that can be bent, twisted, and shaped into various forms - however you like it. It can be used as a dual-action vibrator, offering simultaneous clitoral and internal stimulation, or it can be transformed into a G-spot vibrator, among other things.

With its powerful motor and multiple vibration patterns, the Picobong Transformer delivers intense pleasure. Made from body-safe silicone and fully waterproof, it is easy to clean and can be enjoyed in the bath or shower.

2. Best cock ring sex toy for couples: Ann Summers Rampant Rabbit Cock Ring

Ann Summers Rampant Rabbit Cock Ring

RRP on writing: £38 | Buy now from Ann Summers 

Key specs

Size: 1.25” diameter | Material: Soft silicone | Colour: Blue

What we like

  • 10 vibration settings

  • Good to start out with

  • Recharges quickly

What we don’t like

  • Ring can swivel round at times

  • Vibration to clitoris only occurs on penetration

What Mumsnet users say

“Rampant rabbit every time!” Willowmartha1

Our verdict

Many a Mumsnet user cited a Rampant Rabbit as a must have in the bedroom. Usually in the form of a vibrator, Ann Summer's Rampant Rabbit range also offers this alternative option for couples to try. With vibrations for the clitoris and the penis, this cock ring is sure to bring mutual pleasure. However, some have reported that the ring doesn’t always stay in place, which can mean the vibrations aren’t always accurate on the clitoris.

3. Best clitoral sex toy for couples: Womanizer Starlet Snow

Womanizer Starlet Snow

RRP on writing: £48 | Buy now from Womanizer

Key specs

Size: 85 x 50 x 60mm | Material: ABS, Soft Touch | Colour: White | Special feature: Suction

What we like

  • Variety of suction heads

  • Good to start out with

  • Recharges quickly

  • noisy

What we don’t like

  • Very small

What Mumsnet users say

“Bought a Womanizer clitoral stimulator last week. Have used it a couple of times and it's fab.” shouldnthavedonethatshouldi

Our verdict

This miniature version of the popular Womanizer is lightweight, compact, and the perfect toy for any couple who are curious about Womanizer’s innovative tech. The Starlet Snow offers four intensity levels, complete with alternating waves of air pressure pamper. So, there’s plenty of room to explore this toy with your partner.

4. Best vibrator for couples: We-Vibe Unite Remove Control Couples Vibrator

We-Vibe Unite Remove Control Couples Vibrator

RRP on writing: £80 | Buy now from Ann Summers

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Colour: Purple | Special feature: Remote control

What we like

  • Very quiet

  • Fast charging

  • Easy to use

  • Versatile

What we don’t like

  • Can move around during intercourse

What Mumsnet users say

“I bought the We-Vibe on Thursday… Absolutely amazing.” Janie143

Our verdict

This versatile toy is designed to enhance pleasure for both partners. Its unique "C" shape allows for simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. The We-Vibe is made from high-quality body-safe materials and offers various vibration modes and intensities that can be controlled easily with the one-button remote control, making it perfect for playful exploration.

5. Best novelty sex toy for couples: Lovehoney Position of the Week Dice

Lovehoney Position of the Week Dice

RRP on writing: £5.99 | Buy now from Lovehoney

Key specs

Material: Hard plastic | Colour: Turquoise, white, pink

What we like

  • Cost effective

  • Spontaneity

  • 200 position outcomes

What we don’t like

  • Sometimes not the best positions

Our verdict

Providing random suggestions for different sexual positions to try, this novelty sex toy from Lovehoney is perfect for couples looking to spice up their intimate moments. The dice encourage couples to explore and experiment, plus they’re compact and discreet, making them easy to incorporate into your love life, whether at home or on a romantic getaway.

6. Best strap-on sex toy for couples: Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap

Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap-on Dildo Vibrator

RRP on writing: £70 | Buy now from Lovehoney

Key specs

Size: circumference: 4.25 inches, insertable length: 5 inches, internal length: 4.5 inches | Material: Silicone | Colour: Purple | Waterproof: Yes

What we like

  • Adjustable

  • Two different sizes in one

  • Easy to clean

  • Strong vibrations

What we don’t like

  • Depends on one partners kegel muscles to be held in place

Our verdict

This innovative toy offers the excitement of strap-on play without the need for harnesses or straps. With its ergonomic design and powerful vibrations, it provides both internal and external stimulation for both partners simultaneously. The rechargeable feature ensures long-lasting enjoyment without the need for batteries. The dildo is made from body-safe silicone, offering a smooth and comfortable experience.

7. Best couples sex toy gift set: Ann Summers Couple’s Weekend Toy Set

Ann Summers Couple’s Weekend Toy Se

RRP on writing: £55 | Buy now from Ann Summers

Key specs

Materials: Body-safe ABS,TPE & PVC | Includes: Nine-piece toy set

What we like

  • Batteries included

  • Variety of toys for customised play

  • Great for discovering new toys together

What we don’t like

  • Noisy vibrations

  • Anal beads are silicone so bend easily

What Mumsnet users say

“DH and I have some which we exclusively use together. We/I have a favourite which I often use during sex as additional clit stimulation during piv.” hiphiphorray

Our verdict

For couples who are new to sex toys, this couples weekend toy set from Ann Summers is a great starter set. With nine toys included, couples can experiment and explore together as they enjoy fun-filled pleasure. The set includes a classic vibrator, a textured sleeve, a rabbit vibrator, mini bullet, a wired egg, a rabbit sleeve, anal beads and a choice of cock rings to try.

8. Best love egg for couples: Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator

Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator

RRP on writing: £150 | Buy now from Lovehoney

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Size: 4.5 inches circumference, 3.5 inches insertable length | Power: Rechargeable battery | Settings: 300 minutes run time, three speeds, four patterns | Waterproof: Yes

What we like

  • Great for marathon pleasure fests

  • App-controlled, so, great for long distance relationships

  • Near-silent vibrations

  • Waterproof

What we don’t like

  • Quite expensive compared to other love eggs on the market

What Mumsnet users say

“Lovesense Lush is good fun. Having it on music setting so it responds to music works well. There are whole playlists of the best songs for it. or your partner can control it manually.” Seapoint2002

“Lovense has one of the best mobile apps, if not the best, and all products are made of body-safe materials. I recently bought the Lush, and the toy is incredible. The app gives several options, and the toy can be controlled from anywhere.” PennyKane

Our verdict

Do you or your partner work away frequently? Have a long-distance relationship? Elevant your sex life with the Lush 3, the ultimate wireless wearable vibrator. Its rumbly vibrations simultaneously thrill your G-spot and clitoris, while being sound-activated and music-synced.

With enhanced battery life and a fixed external tail for intensified pleasure, this upgrade from Lovense is a game-changer. Charging is effortless with its magnetic point, and improved Bluetooth connectivity adds to the allure. And guess what? It's whisper-quiet at only 43 dB. But the real delight? Giving your partner control through the app for unlimited vibration possibilities. Waterproof and ready for pleasure anywhere.

9. Best couple’s massager sex toy: The Doxy Original

The Doxy Original

RRP on writing: £90 | Buy now from Boots

Key specs

Size: 37cm length, 6cm head diameter, 16cm body circumference | Weight: 500g | Material: Body safe silicone, cast metal head | Colour: White

What we like

  • Strong vibrations

  • Long lasting

  • Strong orgasms

What we don’t like

  • Can be a bit too much if sensitive

  • Not very discreet

What Mumsnet users say

“I have a Doxy wand and it is incredibly good.” ItsNachoCheese

“I've got a Doxy wand and it's one of my favourite toys. DP runs it up my thighs and over my vulva, teasing me with the vibrations. He'll move on to holding it against my clit whilst his fingers are inside me, stroking my G spot. Sometimes I'll move it over my clit while he's fucking me. He likes it on his balls and perineum too. It's quite intense especially at the higher speeds so we usually build up the intensity by just lightly brushing it over body parts.” PinotPony

Our verdict

As you can see from above, the Doxy Original wand massager receives rave reviews from Mumsnet users, and it’s easy to see why. Made in the UK, the Doxy’s original massager is a powerful sex toy that delivers intense penetration power, just where you need it. Many have said they have never had an orgasm like it!

Beware the strength of the vibrations, though. Lots of people use fabric to slightly dampen down the sensation, which can be a little overwhelming if you’re new to sex toys. But overall, this one is a stone cold classic, and would be a great choice for exploration with a partner.

10. Best wearable sex toy for couples: Ann Summers Vibrating Nipple Clamps

Ann Summers Vibrating Nipple Clamps

RRP on writing: £18 | Buy now from Ann Summers

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Colour: Black | Power: 4 x LR44 batteries included

What we like

  • Adjustable

  • Inexpensive

What we don’t like

  • Plastic may slide off

What Mumsnet users say

“<tightens nipple clamps>” cybilliberty

“My DW1 could often have orgasms from breast and nipple play. Not as intense as clitoral orgasms but a nice build up during foreplay.” Anotherblokelurking

Our verdict

The Ann Summers Vibrating Nipple Clamps are a great accessory for those seeking to explore nipple play. These clamps are made with smooth silicone, for maximum comfort as you stimulate sensitive nerve endings. Whether you're a beginner or experienced in nipple play, these clamps can enhance your sensual experiences. The durable and well-crafted construction ensures longevity, and their size makes them suitable for discreet storage or travel.

11. Best hands-free couples sex toy: Dame Eva II

Dame Eva II

RRP on writing: £88 | Buy now from Cult Beauty

Key specs

Material: Medical grade silicone | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Three speed vibrations, hands-free, strap-free | Power: Rechargeable USB battery

What we like

  • Hands-free orgasms

  • Wings tuck under your labia

  • Waterproof

What we don’t like

  • Can slide out if skin is too slippery

  • Expensive compared to other vibrators

Our verdict

A sex toy with a difference - the Dame Eva II is designed to be entirely hands-free, and suitable for both solo and partner play. The flexible wings sit inside your labia, while the vibrator itself is placed on top of your clitoris. However, while this innovative technology sounds promising, there are some issues that users have reported. Including if your skin is too slippery, it can move out of place. It’s also quite large in size and doesn’t come in different sizes to suit different labias.

Nevertheless, if you’re up for trying something new with your partner, trying the Dame Eva II could be a great way to go.

12. Best anal plug for couples: Vibrating Anal Plug

Ann Summers Vibrating Anal Plug

RRP on writing: £28 | Buy now from Ann Summers

Key specs

Material: Body safe silicone | Size: 3 inch insertable length, 1 inch diameter | Power: 3 x LR41 batteries included | Settings: 10 speed removable bullet

What we like

  • The bullet is removable

  • 10 different speeds to try

  • Great for foreplay

  • Wide base for safe and comfortable removal

What we don’t like

  • Some customers didn’t receive batteries when purchasing

What Mumsnet users say

“My partner and I sometimes use them and we insert them at an early stage as part of our foreplay…”  xpc316e

Our verdict

Experience mind-blowing pleasure with this silicone anal plug from Ann Summers. Ideal for beginners, it offers intense, targeted vibrations. The soft silicone and tapered shape ensure easy insertion, while the wide base guarantees safe and comfortable removal. Plus, the removable bullet with 10 speeds provides thrilling clitoral stimulation during foreplay.

13. Best couples sex toy for Dyspareunia: Ohnut Soft Buffer Rings

Ohnut Soft Buffer Rings

RRP on writing: £54 | Buy now from Amazon

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Dimensions: L50 x W50 x H50 millimetres | Quantity: Four rings included

What we like

  • Suitable for women experiencing Dyspareunia (painful sex)

  • Feels like full penetration for the wearer

  • Customise how deep penetration goes

What we don’t like

  • They’re squishy, so being too forceful can reduce their effectiveness

  • Tendency to slide off if too slippery

Our verdict

Dyspareunia is a condition that a handful of Mumsnet users experience, seeking advice and recommendations for managing symptoms and treatments on our Talk boards. As MixedBag873 shares, “it seems like such a common issue for women at all stages of life, but we’re not talking to each other about it enough.” One of the biggest issues for women with the condition is experiencing painful, penetrative sex. The good news is that there are sex toys designed to help relieve this pain, making it more comfortable overall. These soft buffer rings from Ohnut are a great one to start with. They’re customisable, so the wearer can choose however many rings they’d like to find the right penetration depth that’s comfortable for both involved.

14. Best sex positioning pillow for couples: Liberator Jaz Motion Rocking Sex Position Cushion

Liberator Jaz Motion Rocking Sex Position Cushion

RRP on writing: £90 | Buy now from Lovehoney

Key specs

Material: Velvet | Length: 19 inches | Fastening: Zip, easy to clean

What we like

  • Dual-sided cushion

  • Specially designed to support two bodies

  • Micro velvet case is removable and machine washable

What we don’t like

  • Best used on a flat surface only

  • Expensive for a cushion

What Mumsnet users say

“It makes the "angle" more pleasurable. I'm surprised he hasn't ever come across this before.” KatandKit

Our verdict

Take your pleasure to new heights with this dual-sided, micro velvet sex position cushion. Designed to support two bodies in the heat of passion, it's time for the best sex of your life. With Liberator's 'Responsive Core' and two versatile surfaces, this wedge-shaped pillow offers unbeatable support during intense encounters. Its tapered shape lifts you and your partner into the perfect position for direct erogenous zone contact, guaranteeing mind-blowing finales. Whether you prefer flat surface stability or see-saw-style excitement, this cushion has got you covered.

15. Best wrist cuffs for couples: Ann Summers Icon Buckle Handcuffs

Ann Summers Icon Buckle Handcuffs

RRP on writing: £18 | Buy now from Ann Summers

Key specs

Material: PU and metal | Restraint type: Buckles and a dog clip

What we like

  • Opulent finish design

  • Buckles for comfortable and secure fit

  • Dog clip together or around a bed frame

  • Adjustable buckles on cuffs

What we don’t like

  • They can’t be individually attached to a bedpost, for example

What Mumsnet users say

“I agree. I would (did!) start off with a good quality pair of comfortable but sturdy wrist cuffs. I agree that they shouldn't be metal but they should have a buckle so they can be adjusted.” Blokenamechangesexboard

Our verdict

Indulge in exquisite submission with these cuffs by Ann Summers. Luxurious faux leather in jewel tones meets brushed gold hardware for an opulent touch. With adjustable buckles, these restraints offer a comfortable and secure fit around the wrists. Connect them together or to a bed frame using the dog clip for tantalising bondage adventures.

If you don’t fancy cuffs, bondage tape might be easier and more comfortable.

What are some of the benefits of using sex toys for couples?

The most compelling argument in favour of using sex toys with your partner is that it makes sex better! Sex toys offer variety but also targeted stimulation, which can be great if you struggle to orgasm naturally. Some argue that sex toys actually increase intimacy in the bedroom - because it gets you to express your likes and dislikes.

Why should couples use sex toys together?

Sex toys offer a range of benefits, including increased pleasure, exploration of new sensations, and the opportunity to fulfil shared fantasies. By incorporating sex toys into their bedroom activities, couples can discover new ways to pleasure each other and break free from routine.

“Me and my DH love using toys - both as part of sex and I also use them alone.”


These playful tools can spark open conversations about desires, boundaries, and preferences, fostering deeper communication and understanding between partners.

Additionally, using sex toys together can create a sense of excitement, adventure, and intimacy, ultimately strengthening the bond and keeping the spark alive in the relationship.

How can couples use sex toys together?

When using sex toys with a partner, the first and most important thing you need to establish is consent. Using toys with a partner can open up a wealth of possibilities, especially for things that need another pair of hands. Shopping for a toy with your partner can be an erotic experience in itself, enjoy yourselves - talk about what you like and don’t like. You can use toys during penetration or as part of foreplay.

What makes a good sex toy for couples?

A good sex toy for couples is one that offers several benefits for both users, including:

  • Enhanced intimacy, pleasure and communication between partners

  • Is versatile for various activities and positions

  • Is easy to use, comfortable, and safe

  • Is made of high-quality materials, an ergonomic design, and has intuitive controls

  • Discreet, low noise level for privacy and shared living spaces

  • Promotes connection, pleasure, and mutual satisfaction

How we chose our recommendations

Recommendations from real Mumsnet users

Mumsnetters have certainly put sex toys through their paces when in the bedroom, with many Mumsnet users sharing experiences (both good and bad) of the sex toys for couples they’ve personally tried and tested.

First up, we sought out the trusted opinions of Mumsnet users to get their feedback on their favourite sex toys they use with their partner(s), as well as the models that they have tried, rated, and would recommend to their friends.

We also looked out for any negative reviews, where Mumsetters highlighted products that they felt were poor quality, ineffective, broke or simply failed to do the job.

Expert opinions

We then cross-checked our recommendations with the couples sex toys praised by sex experts to ensure we were bringing you the best products that are rated across the board.

Authentic consumer reviews

Finally, to bring you our definitive list of the best sex toys for couples, we thoroughly investigated genuine, in-depth customer reviews on retailer sites such as Ann Summers, Boots, LoveHoney, and Amazon, and independent sites to get broader consumer experiences regarding the products on our shortlist.

Why you should trust us

We work hard to provide unbiased, independent advice you can trust. We do sometimes earn revenue through affiliate (click-to-buy) links in our articles. This helps us fund more helpful reviews like this one.

About the author

Rebecca Roberts is a writer, editor, and content marketing expert hailing from Leeds. Here at Mumsnet, she commissions, writes, and edits to bring parents content designed to make life easier. After birthing and breastfeeding two babies in two years, Rebecca knows first-hand how hard it can be to reignite intimacy. From condoms, to lubricants, to sex toys - she’s on a quest to find the best ones, with the help of Mumsnet user recommendations.

Beyond her role as an editor here at Mumsnet, Rebecca can be found balancing life as a working mum of two toddlers and when she’s not at her desk, you’ll likely find her at a local playgroup, in a nearby coffee shop, walking the dog, or hiding from her neighbour as she attempts to buy condoms during her weekly “Big Food Shop”.