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Our guide to the best vibrators of 2023, according to Mumsnet users

Shopping for a vibrator can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never bought one before. To help you find the right one for you, we’ve tapped into the collective wisdom of our Mumsnet users to bring you this roundup of the best vibrators.

By Rebecca Roberts | Last updated Sep 20, 2023

Best vibrators

From Victorian medical tools, vibrators have evolved into versatile pleasure devices with modern variations designed to enhance sexual experiences and overall wellness. These days, masturbation is a crucial self-care practice, providing pleasure and health benefits like endorphin release, improved self-esteem, stress reduction, and better sleep - making the choice of vibrator pivotal for heightened satisfaction. Celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow and Dakota Johnson have even contributed to the sexual wellness revolution by launching their own intimate gadgets.

Amid the rise of sexual well-being in self-care routines, the sex toy industry has transformed considerably. However, the number of products can make selecting the ideal vibrator a daunting task. "The most important thing is that you actually like the look and feel of it", shares Lucy Rowett, Sex Coach at The Lowdown. "I believe it's important for you to choose your own vibrator rather than it be given as a gift, because only you know what you like."

To help, we’ve tapped into the collective wisdom and first-hand experiences of our Mumsnet users, who’ve all been there, done that and got the O when trying out the below vibrators. Keep reading to find our roundup of the best vibrators. Using your vibrator during intercourse with your partner? Stock up on some of the best condoms. Oh, and don't forget to enhance the experience with the right lubricant - here’s our guide to the best lubes for you.

Top 5 vibrators, quick glance


Best overall vibrator

What we like
  • Stimulate either the clitoris or G-spot

  • Different vibration and pulsating settings

  • Suitable for solo and/or partner use

What we don't like
  • It’s advised to use water-based lubricant

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Type: Clitoral and internal | Power: Rechargeable with USB charging cable | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Three vibrations and 12 pulsating intensities

What Mumsnet users say
applepineapple · Recommended
Expensive but Womanizer.
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JenNtonic · Tried & Tested
OP GET THE WOMANIZER! Definitely agree with you about cost per use! It PAYS FOR ITSELF! I just wish they made a more mobile one…
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7thlevelofthecandycaneforest · Tried & Tested
Haha I was going to suggest Womanizer too! Definitely worth the money.
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thebrollies · Tried & Tested
Womanizer! It takes a little getting used to, but omg it’s life changing.
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Our verdict

Tried and tested: read our in depth review of the Womanizer OG, tested by our own MNHQ editor, Rebecca.

With plenty of recommendations from Mumsnet users on our Talk boards, it’s easy to see why the Womanizer is a favourite. This vibrator is crafted to tantalise both your clitoris and G-spot, and boasts an array of features.

There’s three vibration levels, complete with suction technology as well as 12 pulsating sensations that resonate throughout your erogenous zones. Whether you decide to enjoy the Womanizer OG vibrator solo or invite a partner to join you, the key is to start leisurely and gradually escalate the intensity to reach climax.


Best USB rechargeable

What we like
  • High-powered for intensified external stimulation

  • Eight speeds and patterns to choose from

  • Crafted from body-safe silicone and soft ABS plastic

What we don't like
  • One hour usage with each charge (but quick charging)

Key specs

Material: Silicone and soft ABS plastic | Type: Clitoral wand massager | Power: Rechargeable USB battery (one hour user time, one hour charge time) | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Eight intensity speeds and patterns

What Mumsnet users say
nonflirtinghusband · Recommended
I also like the Unbound Ollie wand. It's USB rechargeable and waterproof so it can go in the shower. Unfortunately I burnt the motor out on mine recently (lockdown overuse!) but they were very good and have sent me out a new one as it was within its year warranty.
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Our verdict

This magic wand is designed to take your stimulation to new heights, offering a remarkable selection of eight intensity speeds and patterns. Crafted from velvety-smooth, body-safe, soft silicone and soft ABS plastic, it ensures a luxurious and comfortable experience.

This vibrator comes with a convenient magnetic USB charger, allowing for easy and hassle-free recharging of the built-in battery. With a quick charge of just one hour, it’s worth mentioning that the batter will only last for one hour of user time.

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Best clitoral sucking vibrator

What we like
  • It’s remote controlled

  • 2-in-1 design covers all bases

  • Fully waterproof

What we don't like
  • Takes up to 2.5 hours to charge (for around 50 minutes of use)

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Type: Clitoral with suction and G-spot | Power: Rechargeable USB battery | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: 10 vibration patterns to choose from

What Mumsnet users say
StylishMummy · Tried & Tested
Anyone debating Tracy's Dog... just buy it. I nearly slipped a disc.
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Our verdict

This exceptional 2-in-1 stimulator combines the power of suction and vibration with 10 patterns to awaken every nerve ending you have. On one side, it offers a sucking and pulsating sensation against the clitoris, while the opposite ends slips into the vagina, nestling against the G-spot and the surrounding sensitive tissues. With a range of intensities that span from gentle to exhilarating, it caters to your desires, whether you prefer a soft and gentle touch or a faster, more intense experience.

The Tracy’s Dog vibrator is equipped with a convenient remote control, too, which allows you or your partner to easily adjust the speed and rhythm at the touch of a button. Although, it's worth mentioning that the remote can't be used for long distance play. It also comes with a high-performance, rechargeable battery and lasts for up to 50 minutes once fully charged.


Best wand massager

What we like
  • Soft, flexible silicone design

  • Can be used alone or with a partner

  • Stimulate any part of your body

What we don't like
  • Not as powerful as other wands

  • Tricky to use the vibration settings

  • Not waterproof

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Waterproof: No | Diameter: 1.75” | Function settings: 3 x intensity, 8 vibration patterns | Power: Rechargeable, USB cable included | Suitable for internal use: No | Suitable for external use: Yes, on all body parts 

What Mumsnet users say
Rebecca, MNHQ · Tried & Tested
For those seeking clitoral stimulation, the Self Love Massage Wand is a worthy contender.
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bigchris · Recommended
The cordless wand is what you need, expensive but worth every penny.
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Our verdict

For those who enjoy clitoral stimulation only, a wand massager will do just the trick. Ann Summers' Self Love Massage Wand is a great, affordable option on the market - and has been designed by the company to help users learn about themselves, connect with their mind, and with their own sexuality.

Our own MNHQ editor, Rebecca, put one to the test, and you can see her full review here.

The wand vibrator offers 24 diverse speeds and patterns to choose from, and while our tester found it tricky to find a pattern at first, it didn't take too long until it was effective. Plus, out of the sheets, the Self Love Wand Massager transforms into a tension-relieving tool, too!


Best mains powered vibrator

What we like
  • Ultra powerful as it’s mains powered

  • Large button for easy settings change during play

  • Ergonomic body for complete control

What we don't like
  • It’s not waterproof

  • Although lengthy, having a cable may restrict usage

Key specs

Material: Silicone  | Type: Clitoral wand massager | Power: Mains powered (lengthy 2.8 metre cable included) | Waterproof: No | Settings: Multiple speeds and extra powerful

What Mumsnet users say
MaryJean87 · Tried & Tested
Would have to be a Doxy Wand and some under bed restraints to add to the fun.
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FabalaTheGreenGirl · Tried & Tested
Welcome to the wonderful world of female ejaculation. I also did this the first time I used my Doxy wand.
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Our verdict

This exceptional 2-in-1 stimulator combines the power of suction and vibration with 10 patterns to awaken every nerve ending you have. On one side, it offers a sucking and pulsating sensation against the clitoris, while the opposite ends slips into the vagina, nestling against the G-spot and the surrounding sensitive tissues. With a range of intensities that span from gentle to exhilarating, it caters to your desires, whether you prefer a soft and gentle touch or a faster, more intense experience.

The Tracy’s Dog vibrator is equipped with a convenient remote control, too, which allows you or your partner to easily adjust the speed and rhythm at the touch of a button. Although, it's worth mentioning that the remote can't be used for long distance play. It also comes with a high-performance, rechargeable battery and lasts for up to 50 minutes once fully charged.

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Best rampant rabbit vibrator

What we like
  • Swivel head massages the G-spot

  • Made from a body-safe silicone

  • Waterproof

What we don't like
  • Battery powered

Key specs

Material: Silicone | Type: Clitoral and G-spot | Power: Battery powered (4 x AAA batteries not included) | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Three oscillating speeds and 10 vibration settings

What Mumsnet users say
EmilyGilmoresSass · Tried & Tested
I have a LoveHoney Jessica Rabbit, though I much prefer the Ann Summers range. The swivelling one is amazing.
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PinotPony · Recommended
If you like penetration and clit stimulation, then a rabbit would be a good first toy.
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Our verdict

If there’s one thing everyone thinks of when they hear vibrator, it’s probably the rampant rabbit. This swivelling version from Ann Summers has been specially crafted to explore the depths of your pleasure, and targets clitoral stimulation with internal G-spot massage... So, you can enjoy both internal and external stimulation at the same time. Its unique swivelling tip is designed to rotate and massage your G-spot, unlocking the potential for mind-blowing orgasms.

With 10 sensational vibration patterns and three adjustable speeds, all conveniently controlled with a user-friendly panel on the front, it’s easy to see why this is a Mumsnetter favourite vibrator. It’s crafted from body-safe silicone, and is also fully waterproof, so you can indulge in play while in the bath or shower.


Best silent vibrator

What we like
  • Pressure wave and touch-free clitoral stimulation

  • Waterproof

  • 11 pressure wave settings to choose from

What we don't like
  • Makes no contact with your body

Key specs

Material: Silicone head | Type: Clitoral | Power: Rechargeable Li-ion battery with magnetic USB charging cable | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: 11 intensity settings

What Mumsnet users say
ReginaTheEvilQueen · Tried & Tested
Tried it last night before I went to bed, it was worth every penny! Best toy ever! Started on the lowest setting and worked my way up, didn't even last a minute.
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freckles999 · Recommended
I have one. Sometimes cum in literally seconds.... Amazing toy!
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Our verdict

This remarkable clitoral toy combines pressure waves and tingling pulsations to help you climax - without ever actually touching you. This innovative toy is designed for easy handling, allowing you to adjust the intensity level easily with a click of a button. Its touch free design means that this massager makes no direct contact with your body, and lets the pulsations do all the work. Once the hollow head is in place, you can simply relax and let the Satisfyer Pro work its magic.

Read next: Find the best sex toys for women here


Best vibrator to use after birth

What we like
  • Discreet and quiet when in use

  • Lipstick-shaped vibrator specifically designed for the clitoris

  • Ultra-smooth, flexible silicone for a gentle touch

What we don't like
  • There’s not a lot of speeds/pulsations to choose from

Key specs

Material: Vegan silicone | Type: Clitoral | Power: Rechargeable | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Three speeds and two pulsation

What Mumsnet users say
Mumsnet tester · Tried & Tested
I thought that the soft feel of it was good. Much more pleasant than some other sex toys I’ve used, which are a lot harder.
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Mumsnet tester · Recommended
The sensations were gentle, so much so that at the start I struggled to find the right spot, but when I did, it was definitely obvious! Definitely a nice way to build up these sensations again following a difficult childbirth.
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Our verdict

Don't miss: our tried and tested review of Smile Makers’ The Whisperer

Admittedly, we might be slightly biased to include this one in our roundup. The Whisperer was born of a Mumsnet collaboration with Smile Makers, and is a lipstick-shaped vibrators that has been thoughtfully designed for clitoral stimulation, incorporating insights from mums who have recently given birth.

The Whisperer’s patented design optimises pleasure with a curved tip and rounded edges. Its flexible, silicone construction provides a gentle touch, allowing for comfortable and pleasurable experiences. With three speeds and two pulsation modes, you have the freedom to explore and find the perfect fit for your body and desires.

Discretion is key, and The Whisperer delivers. Its compact size and quiet operation ensure a discreet experience, allowing you to indulge in pleasure without worry. Additionally, the vibrator is fully waterproof and rechargeable.


Best vibrator for a beginner

What we like
  • Small and discreet

  • Ideal for foreplay

  • Soft, velvet-like smooth surface

What we don't like
  • It’s not rechargeable

Key specs

Type: Clitoral bullet massager | Power: Battery powered (1 x AAA battery included) | Waterproof: Yes

What Mumsnet users say
StarlightLady · Tried & Tested
The small purple Durex Bullet, is very effective and gently purrs. It is very discreet, soft and warm to the touch, fits in a makeup bag (I have one that goes everywhere with me!) and waterproof for bath times. It works with one AAA battery.
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Our verdict

This small and powerful sensual massager is designed to enhance your intimate moments. With its soft, velvet-like smooth surface, this bullet vibrator by Durex provides sensational stimulation to your most sensitive areas.

It offers powerful vibrations while remaining whisper quiet, ensuring ultimate discretion and uninterrupted pleasure. Its compact size makes it ideal for clitoral stimulation and can be used to explore and arouse the entire body, igniting exciting foreplay experiences with your partner.

Read next: Need a new toy? Find the best Ann Summers sex toys here


Best bullet vibrator

Moregasm+ Bullet Vibrator, £48

What we like
  • Super-soft tip is ridged

  • Easy-to-use touch button

  • Great for beginners

What we don't like
  • Quite strong, so start off slow

Key specs

Material: Silicone |  Type: Clitoral bullet massager | Power: Rechargeable battery | Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Five speeds and patterns for a customised play

What Mumsnet users say
Mrsmummy90 · Recommended
A bullet is a really good one to start with. It's small and can be used anywhere on each other.
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Our verdict

This small yet mighty bullet vibrator is designed to deliver intense sensations, thanks to Ann Summers’ exclusive Climax Technology housed within a layer of the softest silicone. The Moregasm+ Bullet takes pleasure to new heights by sending strong, low-frequency vibrations throughout the body. The flexible tip of the bullet gently moulds to your body, providing a comfortable fit, while the ridges along the length of the shaft offer additional stimulation for an all-encompassing orgasmic pleasure.

With the easy-to-use single control button, you can effortlessly explore the five increasing speeds and vibration patterns. Hold the bullet against your clitoris for direct stimulation, or if you prefer a gentler touch, explore the surrounding areas. The choice is yours.


Best realistic vibrator

What we like
  • Soft ripples give a realistic feel

  • Designed to mimic realistic thrusting motions

  • Helps give blended orgasms

What we don't like
  • 5” insertable length might be smaller than some would like

Key specs

Waterproof: Yes | Settings: Three thrusting speeds and seven vibration settings

What Mumsnet users say
MarieG10 · Recommended
The Rabbit delivers very direct stimulation to the clitoris. If you struggle to orgasm that may be a good thing…
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Our verdict

With soft ripples along the shaft and a life-like tip, this rampant rabbit from Ann summers has been designed to mimic realistic thrusting motions - with the added pleasure of the ears vibrating against your clitoris.

Complete with a 5” insertable shaft, three thrusting speeds and five vibration settings, enjoy blended orgasms over and over again.

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How to choose the best vibrator

According to Sex Coach Lucy Rowett, the look and feel of a vibrator are the two most important factors when choosing one. "The material of your vibrator is also really important", she says. "I recommend a vibrator made of medical grade silicone, not hard plastic, and avoid at all costs any sex toys made of materials like jelly or cyber skin.

"This is because not only do they degrade over time and so leak into your bloodstream, but they harbour bacteria too."

Here are some other factors to keep in mind:

  • Types of stimulation: what do you enjoy? Are you seeking clitoral, G-spot, or dual stimulation?

  • Size and shape: consider what appeals to you. Some prefer smaller, more discreet vibrators - whereas others may enjoy larger or more curved designs.

  • Materials: pay attention to the materials used. Body-safe silicone is a popular choice as it’s hypoallergenic and easy to clean. Avoid porous materials that can harbour bacteria.

  • Power and settings: decide on the intensity and vibration patterns you like. Choose a vibrator with adjustable speeds and multiple patterns.

  • Noise level: if discretion is a priority, opt for vibrators known for their quiet operation.

  • Budget: Determine your budget and explore options within your range. Remember that higher priced vibrators often offer more advanced features, better quality and are long-lasting.

By considering these factors and conducting research, you can choose a vibrator that aligns with your preferences and provides the best possible pleasure and satisfaction. Remember, the right vibrator for you may be different from someone else, so trust your instincts and enjoy exploring the exciting world of pleasure products.

Read next: Best sex toys for couples for added fun

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What are the different types of vibrators available?

When it comes to exploring the world of vibrators, there is a wide variety of options to suit different preferences and desires. Here are some of the different types of vibrators available:

Bullet vibrator

Small and discreet, bullet vibrators are perfect for targeted clitoral stimulation.

Wand vibrators

Known for their powerful vibrations, wand vibrators are larger in size and designed for intense external stimulation.

We recommend trying the Ann Summers' Self Love Wand Massager, tried and tested by our own MNHQ editor, Rebecca.

Rabbit vibrators

Designed for dual stimulation, targeting both the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. Mumsnet users rate the Swivelling Rampant Rabbit (£42) from Ann Summers, and also their Realistic Thrusting Rampant Rabbit (£70).

G-spot vibrators

These have a curved shape specifically designed to target the G-Spot. They are often smaller in size, and feature various vibration settings to enhance pleasure.

When it comes to targeting your G-spots, the Womanizer OG Vibrator is the one.

Clitoral vibrators

These are designed specifically for clitoral stimulation. They come in various shapes and sizes, from small discreet ones to larger, more ergonomic ones.

Clitoral vibes in our roundup include:

Couples’ vibrators

These are designed to be used during intercourse for shared pleasure. They can be worn by one or both partners. You can find our guide to the best couples' sex toys here.

Remote-controlled vibrators

These can be controlled remotely, either by a partner or through a smartphone app. They allow for hands-free play.

Anal vibrators

Designed for anal play, these vibrators have a tapered shape and often come with a flared base for safety.

Remember to choose a vibrator that matches your preferences and comfort level. Exploring different types of vibrators can add new dimensions of pleasure to your intimate experiences.

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How to use a wand vibrator

How do I clean and maintain my vibrator?

Proper cleaning and maintenance of your vibrator are essential for ensuring its longevity and hygienic use. Here are some steps to effectively clean and maintain your vibrator:

  • Read the instructions: start with the manufacturer’s instructions, they’ll probably provide specific cleaning recommendations tailored to your particular vibrator.

  • Use mild soap and water: for most, mild soap and warm water are sufficient for cleaning. Gently wash your toy, paying attention to any textured areas or crevices where dirt or lubricant can accumulate. Avoid submerging any battery compartments or electronic components unless the vibrator is explicitly labelled as waterproof.

  • Toy cleaner: if you prefer, you can use a specialised sex toy cleaner instead of soap and water, which are specifically designed to disinfect and sanitise your toy.

  • Rinse thoroughly: after cleaning, make sure to rinse your vibrator thoroughly to remove any soap residue.

  • Dry completely: let your vibrator to air dry completely before storing it. Ensure all moisture is removed to prevent any potential damage.

  • Storage: store your vibrator in a clean, dry place.

  • Batteries and charging: if your vibrator is battery powered, remove the batteries when not in use to prevent corrosion. For rechargeable ones, follow the instruction manual for proper charging and storage to maximise battery life.

Read next: Find affordable fun with our guide to the best cheap sex toys

How we chose our recommendations

Recommendations from real Mumsnet users

Mumsnetters have certainly put vibrators through their paces when in the bedroom, with many Mumsnet users sharing experiences (both good and bad) of the vibrators they’ve personally tried and tested.

First up, we sought out the trusted opinions of Mumsnet users to get their feedback on their favourite vibrators, as well as the models that they have tried, rated, and would recommend to their friends.

We also looked out for any negative reviews, where Mumsetters highlighted products that they felt were poor quality, ineffective, broke or simply failed to do the job.

Expert opinions

We then cross-checked our recommendations with the vibrators praised by sex experts to ensure we were bringing you the best products that are rated across the board.

Authentic consumer reviews

Finally, to bring you our definitive list of the best vibrators, we thoroughly investigated genuine, in-depth customer reviews on retailer sites such as Ann Summers, Boots, LoveHoney, and Amazon, and independent sites to get broader consumer experiences regarding the products on our shortlist.

Why you should trust us

We work hard to provide unbiased, independent advice you can trust. We do sometimes earn revenue through affiliate (click-to-buy) links in our articles. This helps us fund more helpful reviews like this one.

About the expert

Lucy Rowett is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women let go of sexual shame and hangups. She uses a combination of mind-body tools with evidence-based sexuality education. Her speciality is working with people who come from faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable relationships again.

About the author

Rebecca Roberts is a writer, editor, and content marketing expert hailing from Leeds. Here at Mumsnet, she commissions, writes, and edits to bring parents content designed to make life easier. After birthing and breastfeeding two babies in two years, Rebecca knows first-hand how hard it can be to reignite intimacy. From condoms, to lubricants, to sex toys - she’s on a quest to find the best ones, with the help of Mumsnet user recommendations.

Beyond her role as an editor here at Mumsnet, Rebecca can be found balancing life as a working mum of two toddlers and when she’s not at her desk, you’ll likely find her at a local playgroup, in a nearby coffee shop, walking the dog, or hiding from her neighbour as she attempts to buy condoms during her weekly “Big Food Shop”.