Our guide to the best vibrators of 2023, according to Mumsnet users

From Victorian medical tools, vibrators have evolved into versatile pleasure devices with modern variations designed to enhance sexual experiences and overall wellness. These days, masturbation is a crucial self-care practice, providing pleasure and health benefits like endorphin release, improved self-esteem, stress reduction, and better sleep - making the choice of vibrator pivotal for heightened satisfaction. Celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow and Dakota Johnson have even contributed to the sexual wellness revolution by launching their own intimate gadgets.

Amid the rise of sexual well-being in self-care routines, the sex toy industry has transformed considerably. However, the number of products can make selecting the ideal vibrator a daunting task. "The most important thing is that you actually like the look and feel of it", shares Lucy Rowett, Sex Coach at The Lowdown. "I believe it's important for you to choose your own vibrator rather than it be given as a gift, because only you know what you like."

To help, we’ve tapped into the collective wisdom and first-hand experiences of our Mumsnet users, who’ve all been there, done that and got the O when trying out the below vibrators. Keep reading to find our roundup of the best vibrators. Using your vibrator during intercourse with your partner? Stock up on some of the best condoms. Oh, and don't forget to enhance the experience with the right lubricant - here’s our guide to the best lubes for you.

Top 5 vibrators, quick glance

• Best overall vibrator: Womanizer OG Vibrator, £180

• Best realistic vibrator: Realistic Thrusting Rampant Rabbit, £70

• Best bullet vibrator: Moregasm+ Bullet Vibrator, £48

• Best mains powered vibrator: Doxy Extra Powerful Wand Massager, £100

• Best rampant rabbit vibrator: Swivelling Rampant Rabbit, £42

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How to choose the best vibrator

According to Sex Coach Lucy Rowett, the look and feel of a vibrator are the two most important factors when choosing one. "The material of your vibrator is also really important", she says. "I recommend a vibrator made of medical grade silicone, not hard plastic, and avoid at all costs any sex toys made of materials like jelly or cyber skin.

"This is because not only do they degrade over time and so leak into your bloodstream, but they harbour bacteria too."

Here are some other factors to keep in mind:

• Types of stimulation: what do you enjoy? Are you seeking clitoral, G-spot, or dual stimulation?

• Size and shape: consider what appeals to you. Some prefer smaller, more discreet vibrators - whereas others may enjoy larger or more curved designs.

• Materials: pay attention to the materials used. Body-safe silicone is a popular choice as it’s hypoallergenic and easy to clean. Avoid porous materials that can harbour bacteria.

• Power and settings: decide on the intensity and vibration patterns you like. Choose a vibrator with adjustable speeds and multiple patterns.

• Noise level: if discretion is a priority, opt for vibrators known for their quiet operation.

• Budget: Determine your budget and explore options within your range. Remember that higher priced vibrators often offer more advanced features, better quality and are long-lasting.

By considering these factors and conducting research, you can choose a vibrator that aligns with your preferences and provides the best possible pleasure and satisfaction. Remember, the right vibrator for you may be different from someone else, so trust your instincts and enjoy exploring the exciting world of pleasure products.

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What are the different types of vibrators available?

When it comes to exploring the world of vibrators, there is a wide variety of options to suit different preferences and desires. Here are some of the different types of vibrators available:

Bullet vibrator

Small and discreet, bullet vibrators are perfect for targeted clitoral stimulation.

• Moregasm+ Bullet, £48

• Ann Summers' Sleek Rechargeable Bullet, £32

• Ann Summers' Speed Bullet Vibrator, £12

Wand vibrators

Known for their powerful vibrations, wand vibrators are larger in size and designed for intense external stimulation.

We recommend trying the Ann Summers' Self Love Wand Massager, tried and tested by our own MNHQ editor, Rebecca.

Rabbit vibrators

Designed for dual stimulation, targeting both the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. Mumsnet users rate the Swivelling Rampant Rabbit (£42) from Ann Summers, and also their Realistic Thrusting Rampant Rabbit (£70).

G-spot vibrators

These have a curved shape specifically designed to target the G-Spot. They are often smaller in size, and feature various vibration settings to enhance pleasure.

When it comes to targeting your G-spots, the Womanizer OG Vibrator is the one.

Clitoral vibrators

These are designed specifically for clitoral stimulation. They come in various shapes and sizes, from small discreet ones to larger, more ergonomic ones.

Clitoral vibes in our roundup include:

• Unbound Ollie Wand Vibrator, £65

• Doxy Extra Powerful Wand Massager, £100

• Satisfyer Pro 2 Vibrator, £40

Couples’ vibrators

These are designed to be used during intercourse for shared pleasure. They can be worn by one or both partners. You can find our guide to the best couples' sex toys here.

Remote-controlled vibrators

These can be controlled remotely, either by a partner or through a smartphone app. They allow for hands-free play.

Anal vibrators

Designed for anal play, these vibrators have a tapered shape and often come with a flared base for safety.

Remember to choose a vibrator that matches your preferences and comfort level. Exploring different types of vibrators can add new dimensions of pleasure to your intimate experiences.

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How do I clean and maintain my vibrator?

Proper cleaning and maintenance of your vibrator are essential for ensuring its longevity and hygienic use. Here are some steps to effectively clean and maintain your vibrator:

• Read the instructions: start with the manufacturer’s instructions, they’ll probably provide specific cleaning recommendations tailored to your particular vibrator.

• Use mild soap and water: for most, mild soap and warm water are sufficient for cleaning. Gently wash your toy, paying attention to any textured areas or crevices where dirt or lubricant can accumulate. Avoid submerging any battery compartments or electronic components unless the vibrator is explicitly labelled as waterproof.

• Toy cleaner: if you prefer, you can use a specialised sex toy cleaner instead of soap and water, which are specifically designed to disinfect and sanitise your toy.

• Rinse thoroughly: after cleaning, make sure to rinse your vibrator thoroughly to remove any soap residue.

• Dry completely: let your vibrator to air dry completely before storing it. Ensure all moisture is removed to prevent any potential damage.

• Storage: store your vibrator in a clean, dry place.

• Batteries and charging: if your vibrator is battery powered, remove the batteries when not in use to prevent corrosion. For rechargeable ones, follow the instruction manual for proper charging and storage to maximise battery life.

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How we chose our recommendations

Recommendations from real Mumsnet users

Mumsnetters have certainly put vibrators through their paces when in the bedroom, with many Mumsnet users sharing experiences (both good and bad) of the vibrators they’ve personally tried and tested.

First up, we sought out the trusted opinions of Mumsnet users to get their feedback on their favourite vibrators, as well as the models that they have tried, rated, and would recommend to their friends.

We also looked out for any negative reviews, where Mumsetters highlighted products that they felt were poor quality, ineffective, broke or simply failed to do the job.

Expert opinions

We then cross-checked our recommendations with the vibrators praised by sex experts to ensure we were bringing you the best products that are rated across the board.

Authentic consumer reviews

Finally, to bring you our definitive list of the best vibrators, we thoroughly investigated genuine, in-depth customer reviews on retailer sites such as Ann Summers, Boots, LoveHoney, and Amazon, and independent sites to get broader consumer experiences regarding the products on our shortlist.

Why you should trust us

We work hard to provide unbiased, independent advice you can trust. We do sometimes earn revenue through affiliate (click-to-buy) links in our articles. This helps us fund more helpful reviews like this one.

About the expert

Lucy Rowett is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women let go of sexual shame and hangups. She uses a combination of mind-body tools with evidence-based sexuality education. Her speciality is working with people who come from faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable relationships again.

About the author

Rebecca Roberts is a writer, editor, and content marketing expert hailing from Leeds. Here at Mumsnet, she commissions, writes, and edits to bring parents content designed to make life easier. After birthing and breastfeeding two babies in two years, Rebecca knows first-hand how hard it can be to reignite intimacy. From condoms, to lubricants, to sex toys - she’s on a quest to find the best ones, with the help of Mumsnet user recommendations.

Beyond her role as an editor here at Mumsnet, Rebecca can be found balancing life as a working mum of two toddlers and when she’s not at her desk, you’ll likely find her at a local playgroup, in a nearby coffee shop, walking the dog, or hiding from her neighbour as she attempts to buy condoms during her weekly “Big Food Shop”.