Best sex toys for women 2020

29 January 2020

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Whether you're a beginner after a stealthy toy for solo enjoyment or something that will help you experiment with your partner on Valentine's Day (or any day), we've rounded up the very best in sex toys. The pleasure's all ours.

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Buying sex toys

Lovehoney has some diehard fans on Mumsnet and gets mentioned over 600 times yearly – usually, unsurprisingly, on our Sex forum. That's probably due to its discreet packaging, customer service and general no-nonsense approach to having fun. But don't discount Ann Summers or even Amazon. All three offer delivery of intimate products in unlabelled parcels so you can order to your office without breaking a sweat.

Here's what Mumsnet users have to say about buying sex toys:

“I love Lovehoney for the discreet packaging! Both them and Ann Summers often have great deals on.”

“Lovehoney is a good place to start. I believe you can even return items you’ve tried. They just throw them out when they get them back so there is no worry you are buying a used one.”

“I'd definitely recommend Lovehoney – most items have lots of reviews. My DH is quite skilled indeed but we both like the different range of sensations that toys bring.”

“I would say you need to work out what's your 'thing'. Different women have different earth movers, so to speak. If clitoral stimulation is what makes your knees weak, then look for a wand. Or if it's penetration, then a dildo or vibrator. If both, then a rabbit. If you don't know, then a rabbit covers both bits so you can work it out. There may be other criteria like how noisy it is, for example. If you're sharing your home with kids, this matters.”

Storing sex toys

There's certainly no shame in having sex toys, however, they're probably not something you want your children or even house guests stumbling over. While a bedside drawer might suffice as a temporary fix, storing toys effectively is also a matter of good hygiene. Here are some sex toy storage solutions:

  • If you're just starting out, you can't go far wrong with a standard locked box from Amazon. They're around a tenner and are mostly used to store petty cash or receipts so look pretty innocuous to any prying eyes.
  • If you want something more transportable and a bit less bulky, simple drawstring bags designed to protect gadgets can do the trick – like this PU Leather Headphones Bag (Amazon).
  • If you've got a bit more budget and are looking for the crème de la crème in sex toy storage, you could think about investing in this antimicrobial storage system: Joyboxx Hygienic Sex Toy Storage (Lovehoney).
  • And before you put them away, don't forget to clean your toy after use. Most Mumsnet users recommend just using your normal cleaning solution – detergent or soap. However, for peace of mind, there are also some specific sex toy cleaners, such as the Lovehoney Fresh Toy Cleaner.

“For powered toys, I usually get a robust coffee mug, fill it with boiling water and a little disinfectant ( Zoflora or similar) and then stand the non-powered part of the toy in the mug. Let it soak for 20 to 30 minutes then rinse off with very hot water.”

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9 of the best sex toys for women

Not sure which sex toy to go for? Don't worry, we've done the hard (ahem) work. We trawled the Mumsnet forums to find the very best in sex toys, of which there are over 3,000 yearly mentions.

Here are the best sex toys for women to buy right now.

1. Best sex toy for beginners: Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator, £14.99

1. Best sex toy for beginners: Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator, £14.99

If you're new to the world of sex toys, a bullet is a good place to begin – especially for external pleasure. It doesn't have the bells and whistles of some of the other toys out there but it does the job. As a result, it's also very easy to use: just push the button and away you go. Its small size also makes it discreet, if, for example, you'd rather your kids not see it at a moment's notice. It's waterproof, phthalate- and latex-free, plus you can choose from either black, pink or silver.

Is it the best vibrator for women? Well, Tracey Cox is a world-renowned writer on sex, body language and relationships and the bullet won Best for Value award in The UK Sex Toy Awards. At this price, you can't go too wrong.

If you'd rather not faff around with batteries, there's also one in the range that has a rechargeable battery: Supersex 7 Function Bullet Vibrator, £24.99 (Lovehoney)

“Personally I would start with a small bullet vibrator – the small Tracey Cox ones on Lovehoney are similar to the first one I had. You can use it externally or internally.”

“Tracey Cox bullet for me. It has a more rounded end than the Durex one and only one constant speed, both of which work for me.”

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2. Best luxury sex toy for women: Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator, £99.99

2. Best luxury sex toy for women: Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator, £99.99

The Womanizer has a reputation on our sex forum that stops just short of legendary. This latest version (actually a collaboration between Lovehoney and Womanizer) is no exception.

The Pro40 uses 'Pleasure Air Technology' to provide clitoral suction – essentially pulsations to the clitoris producing 'non-numbing' sensations. It's a smooth, ergonomic model with a silicone head and has six intensity levels to choose from. So you can start with the softest and gradually build up to the most intense (if you like). Lovehoney recommends using water-based lubricant to increase the sensations even further.

Buy now: Durex lubricant, from £4 (Amazon)

“Love my Womanizer. It took a while to get used to it but once I did it was a game-changer. We use it together as well as solo. The sensations from it are completely different to anything else. The one I have is virtually silent and waterproof too, and has a setting which means you just push one button and it increases and decreases intensity itself. It is expensive, but if mine ever dies I'll save for a new one.”

“I have the premium one and it's AMAZING. It's expensive but so, so, worth it.”

Buy now from Lovehoney

3. Best dildo for women: Ann Summers 5" Glass Rippled Dildo, £25

3. Best dildo for women: Ann Summers 5" Glass Rippled Dildo, £25

Glass might not be what you think of when you think of sex toys, but some women swear by it. Made from the firm, sleek kind (no breakages here) complete with ripples, the material also makes it good for experimenting with temperature, for example putting in the fridge or warm water before use. We also think the design looks a bit classier than some other dildos.

“Got a fabulous dildo from Ann summers (normally hate them but this is so good).”

“Dildo owners, does anyone else find it's a different kind of orgasm? When I've orgasmed manually or with a partner it's just not as intense.”

“Glass dildos are amazing.”

Buy now from Ann Summers

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4. Best sex toy for couples (female/male): Tracey Cox Supersex Twin Love Ring, £18.99

4. Best sex toy for couples (female/male): Tracey Cox Supersex Twin Love Ring, £18.99

If you're looking for a sex toy to enjoy with a male partner, Tracey Cox's Twin Love Ring could be the one, or even two – it includes a bullet vibrator, which can also be used separately.

The twin love rings are in fact two textured vibrating silicone rings that are snug yet comfy, and designed to be worn during penetrative sex. The recommendation is to 'stretch the larger one over the testicles and smaller one over the penis', and can apparently make your partner stay erect for longer, if that's important to you.

If you've not used a ring before, Durex also has a range that is inexpensive – Mumsnet users recommend these for first-timers.

Buy now: Durex Play Little Devil Vibrating Ring, £5.50 (Amazon)

“Get a cock ring – it'll change your sex life!”

“I hardly ever used to orgasm during sex but since we discovered Lovehoney I now always do. Rings are normally quite unobtrusive and comfortable.”

“Just start with the Durex play vibrations ring – it's around a fiver. If it works for you, get a proper vibrating cock ring from an online sex toy store which you can replace the batteries in.”

Buy now from Lovehoney

5. Best sex toy for couples (female): Happy Rabbit Strapless Strap-On, £79.99

5. Best sex toy for couples (female): Happy Rabbit Strapless Strap-On, £79.99

This strapless strap-on is made up of a slim, curved penetrative shaft (5.5 inches) with 12 vibration modes, and a shorter 'pony' (4.5 inches) with three speeds to choose from. The latter also includes bunny ears for clitoral stimulation.

The toy is made from smooth, waterproof silicone, is USB rechargeable and also includes a travel lock to prevent any untimely vibrations if you're transporting the toy.

“I've got a Happy Rabbit that I'd highly recommend.”

Buy now from Lovehoney

6. Best sex toy for stealth: Lovehoney Deluxe Mini Massage Wand Vibrator, £39.99

6. Best sex toy for stealth: Lovehoney Deluxe Mini Massage Wand Vibrator, £39.99

Small in size and un-intimidating in stature, this rechargeable mini wand vibrator is great for massaging muscles and soothing aches in general, as well as the erotic variety. The design makes it good for both solo or couples fun, and its smooth domed head and flexible neck make it perfect for harder-to-reach places. It's also, importantly, one of the quieter toys – good news if you have lurking children.

And what the wand lacks in size or volume, it more than makes up for in pure power – it has an impressive seven vibrating patterns, each with 10 intensity levels (so 70 options in total).

“I have the mini wand from Lovehoney which is the best of my quieter collection.”

Buy now from Lovehoney

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7. Best sex toy for speed: Rampant Rabbit - The Rippled One, £40 (was £80)

7. Best sex toy for speed: Rampant Rabbit - The Rippled One, £40 (was £80)

If you're feeling in the mood for a quickie, the Rampant Rabbit might be for you. Powered by Ann Summers' 'exclusive climax technology', this range is known for its rapid results.

The Rippled One features an extensive 147 vibration speeds and patterns and therefore offers a lot of control for the user – for both G-spot and clitoral stimulation. And if that wasn't enough, there's even an 'Intensity Boost' button to increase the power even further. Don't say we didn't warn you.

“Be careful which you choose. If you find reaching orgasm easy, then the rabbit type which directly stimulates the clitoris will mean it is over very quickly (might be the intention of course). I tried one a few years ago and I lasted less than a minute!”

“I've had almost every model of Rampant Rabbit and usually have one on the go (a classic, aqua, or Mr Big) and a couple of smaller vibes of different sizes.”

Buy now from Ann Summers

8. Best travel sex toy: Durex Intense Delight Vibrating Bullet, £7.99

8. Best travel sex toy: Durex Intense Delight Vibrating Bullet, £7.99

Not hugely different from the Tracey Cox model, the Durex bullet has a slightly less rounded end and is also known for its lack of noise. Perfect for slipping in your suitcase for weekends away.

“I travel a lot for work and the little purple Durex bullet goes everywhere with me. It’s small, very quiet and discreet. It hits the spot and, unlike some larger heavier items, is comfortable to hold. You can also get a waterproof one for making bath times extra special. It still hurts if you fall asleep and roll over on it in the night though!”

Buy now from Amazon

9. Best sex toy for power: Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Wand Vibrator, £89.99

9. Best sex toy for power: Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Wand Vibrator, £89.99

Based on the original wand vibrator brought out by Japanese company Hitachi in the late 60s, the Doxy has a cushioned, cast aluminium head and takes its power from the mains.

In addition to the type of vibrations a bullet produces, the wand also has a 'pulsation' setting. Unsurprisingly, sex toy technology has advanced in the last 50 or so years and the Doxy is 30% more powerful than its predecessor. Sound intense? It is. The Doxy isn't one for beginners, but those who have one really rate it.

“Magic wand every time and preferably one by Doxy.”

“I second the Doxy wand – it’s amazing. Start on a low setting though as it’s extremely powerful.”

Buy now from Lovehoney

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