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The best Christmas sex toys of 2023 to ensure a not-so-silent night

From teasing toys to pleasurable gift sets, you’ll be spoilt for choice with our gift guide.

By Kat Romero & Rebecca Roberts | Last updated Nov 28, 2023

Best Christmas sex toys of 2023

With the endless list of presents to buy, food to prepare and decorations to hang, Christmas can be a busy time for everyone. Which is why finding time for self-care and your own needs has never been so important. And since ‘tis the season, why not find time for some saucy self care that will leave you and your DP feeling very jolly indeed? 

In other words, give each other a night that’s anything but silent with one of the best Christmas sex toys available. 

As one of our Mumsnetters MaryPopppins once said, it’s all about setting new traditions.

“Basically we have sex by the Christmas tree and drink Baileys,” she wrote. “Once the tree is up I'm (light heartedly) pestered for the Christmas Sex.”

Talk about jingle balls! So, if you’re in the mood to add some sugar, spice and all things nice to your sex life this Christmas, we’ve put together a list of the best sex toys to add to your Christmas list.

To help you find what you’re looking for: 

  • Our team of experienced journalists conducted extensive market research, considering customer reviews, expert opinions, and industry trends 

  • We tapped into our vast and active user community, incorporating feedback and testimonials from real uses

  • We then prioritised well-established and reputable brands that are known for their quality, safety, and commitment to user satisfaction like Lovehoney and Ann Summers

From teasing toys to pleasurable gift sets, you’ll be spoilt for choice with our gift guide. After all - Christmas may come once a year, but these gifts will ensure you most certainly do not…

Editor's picks

We Vibe Sync Lite
We Vibe Sync Lite

We Vibe

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Satisfyer Pro Penguin
Satisfyer Pro Penguin


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Lovehoney Oh! Sensual Body Massager
Lovehoney Oh! Sensual Body Massager


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Best sex toys for Christmas: quick glance

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Best overall

What we like
  • Pleasure for both of you

  • Quiet for discretion

  • App-controlled

  • Splash-proof

What we don't like
  • Might not be powerful enough for some

Key specs

RRP on writing: £80 | Material: Silicone | Colours: 11 to choose from | Special features: App controlled

What Mumsnet users say
MephistophelesApprentice · Recommended
My partner and I use Wevibe now and then, it's great fun. Takes a little getting used to (and lube, lube is good).
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Rebecca Roberts, Commercial Content Editor · Tried & Tested
A great choice for couples in long-distance relationships or with DP who travel a lot. 
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Our verdict

Christmas is the time for giving and receiving and this sex toy is perfect for that sentiment. Since it’s designed for couple’s use, it’s earned its place as our best overall thanks to its versatility - and can be used for solo and partner play.

It’s designed to wear during penetration, as the flat arm slips inside the vagina whilst the longer arm rests against the clitoris for dual pleasure. There are ten functions to choose from and you can even control it from the app. Plus, the toy is splashproof, which makes it perfect for using with lubes and oils. Plus, customers say it’s quiet so you don’t have to worry about waking up the in-laws during a stay over the holidays…

Still not convinced? Maybe this review of the We Vibe Sync Lite by our own MNHQ editor, Rebecca, might persuade you to gift your DP with it this Christmas. 


Best Advent calendar

12 Nights of Exhilaration Advent Calendar, £200

What we like
  • Features Thrusting Rabbit Vibrator

  • Saving of £150

  • Stunning packaging

What we don't like
  • Expensive price

Key specs

RRP on writing: £200, worth £325 | Release date: Available now | Contains: Seven sex toys, three accessories, two oils and lotions | Calendar days: 12 days

Our verdict

What’s better than one orgasm-inducing sex toy? A whole bundle at an amazing price tag, of course. Forget quirky jokes or little squares of chocolate, Ann Summers has a great selection of sexy advent calendars packed full of toys that are guaranteed to put a smile on your face (and your DH!). 

This great bundle is pricey at £200 but the total cost of the products is £350 when sold separately, making it an absolute steal. Amongst the delights is the Thrusting Rampant Rabbit, which has become a best-seller for a reason. Don’t believe us, just read the reviews!

Oh, and don’t miss our roundup of the best sex toy Advent calendars.


Best for clitorial stimulation

What we like
  • Targeted stimulation

  • Affordable price

  • Quirky design

  • Uses suction technology

What we don't like
  • Might not appeal to everyone

Key specs

RRP on writing: £25 | Material: Body-friendly silicone | Designs: Winter penguin Special features: Rechargeable

What Mumsnet users say
MovingonfromMartin · Recommended
I moved from a rabbit type vibrator to a clitoral stimulator. Wow- what a difference it makes to my orgasms!
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Fentylipgloss · Recommended
I have the Satisfyer, best orgasms I've ever had!
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Our verdict

If you’re up for a festive fiddle, this novelty penguin toy is the perfect find. Plus, it’s a Satisfyer Pro - which comes highly recommended on our very own Talk boards. The toy uses clitorial suction to increase sensitivity and lead to a more intense orgasm. It’s not for everyone, as some of our Mumsnetters claim a traditional wand or Rampant Rabbit works better for them.

But for fans of the Satisfyer, it’s safe to say the reviews are glowing. Fans of the product suggest trying a lower speed at first and building it up slowly. And they recommend placing the toy gently on your clitoris as opposed to pushing it too firmly.

Read more: Find the best sex toy Advent calendars this year


Best for G-spot stimulation

ROMP Reverb G-Spot and Clitoral Suction Stimulator, £70

What we like
  • Dual G-spot and clitoral stimulator

  • Pleasure Air Tech

  • USB chargeable

  • Waterproof

What we don't like
  • Loud in use

Key specs

RRP on writing: £70 | Material: Silicone | Design: Dual pleasure | Special features: Rechargeable and waterproof

Our verdict

This toy was just built with endless pleasure in mind. Not only can it target the G-spot but it has suction and Pleasure Air Tech to satisfy the clitoris. It’s also waterproof, which makes it perfect for lubes and oils as well as a little bit of fun in the bath. 

The one drawback is some customers said the product was loud when in use, so may not be the best for discretion when you’d got relatives staying at yours for Christmas. We guess you could always say it’s your new electric toothbrush?


Best Christmas sex toy for her

Tiff by Girls Get Off, £148

What we like
  • 20 settings for pleasure

  • Pocket-sized for portability

  • Flexible design

What we don't like
  • Expensive

Key specs

RRP on writing: £148 | Material: Silicone | Design: Dual pleasure | Special features: Flexible design and super soft touch

Our verdict

G-spot and clitorial stimulation go together like mince pies and ice cream. The perfect combination. This toy from Girls Get Off has a flexible design, which allows you to hit every spot and ensure the product works for you.

There’s also 20 different settings to choose from so we defy you to not find something that’ll knock your festive socks off. It is on the pricier side but think of it like the gift that just keeps giving. 


Best Christmas sex toy for him

We-Vibe Vector+ App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Prostate Massager, £120

What we like
  • Comfortable design

  • Remote and app-controlled

  • Prostate and perineum pleasure

What we don't like
  • App can be hard to navigate

Key specs

RRP on writing: £120 | Material: Silicone | Design: Dual pleasure for prostate and perineum | Special features: App and remote controlled

Our verdict

Men can be notoriously difficult to buy for at Christmas and there’s nothing exciting about watching them open a new pair of socks. So, how about investing in a prostate massager? Perfectly designed for their pleasure, this toy by We Vibe can target the prostate and perineum at once. It’s remote and app controlled, although some customers did say the app was a little tricky to navigate. But once you get the hang of it, we’re sure it’ll be a small price to pay!

Related: Find the best adult stocking fillers for Christmas


Best waterproof vibrator

Candy Cane Waterproof Vibrator, £22

What we like
  • Festive design

  • Cleverley shaped for easy insertion

  • Adjustable speed

  • Waterproof

What we don't like
  • Simple design may not satisfy everyone

Key specs

RRP on writing: £22 | Material: Plastic | Design: Candy cane | Special features: Multiple speed settings, battery-operated

Our verdict

This vibrator is festive-themed without being too kitsch. The candy cane design is so pretty and eye-catching, and customers say the variety of speed settings lets you switch things up. The plastic material might not feel as comfortable as silicone so it’s worth investing in some lubricant. But for just over £20, we say this little toy is totally worth it. Plus, it’s waterproof. What more could you ask for?


Best cock ring

What we like
  • 10 vibration settings

  • Dual pleasure

  • Adjustable speed

What we don't like
  • Noisy when in use

Key specs

RRP on writing: £38 | Material: Silicone | Design: Dual pleasure | Special features: Easy to charge

Our verdict

Just hearing the words Rampant Rabbit puts a certain spring in our step. And this cock ring is such a clever design as it’s pleasurable for you and him. The cock ring is made of stretchy silicone to adapt to any size or shape. But the real star of the show is the rabbit ears that stimulate the clitoris. There’s a variety of speed settings to choose from too, so you can both find something that gets you there.

The only negative is that it can be noisy during use and some customers said it was a little tricky to get fully charged.


Best for couples

Lovehoney Oh! Sensual Body Massager, £6

What we like
  • Affordable price

  • Festive colour

  • Ideal for intimacy

What we don't like
  • Plastic might not be pleasurable for some

Key specs

RRP on writing: £6 | Material: Plastic| Design: Four sphere design | Special features: Ergonomic handle

Our verdict

This massager is ideal for foreplay and post-play. The four spheres move effortlessly across the skin and are ideal at soothing tired muscles. The plastic might not be as appealing for some but many reviews say it feels amazing. Massage is also perfect for intimacy and some customers say this handy tool helped them discover new erogenous zones they didn’t even know about. Don’t forget your massage oil!

Read next: Gift one of the best Ann Summers Christmas gift ideas


Best bullet

Lovehoney Excite 10 Function Bullet Vibrator, £13

What we like
  • Affordable price

  • Highly-rated

  • Pocket-sized design

What we don't like
  • Design could be too small for some

Key specs

RRP on writing: £13 | Material: Hard plastic | Design: Pocket-sized | Special features: 10 functions

Our verdict

You really can’t go wrong with a bullet. It’s often regarded as an ideal sex toy for beginners and experienced fans alike. 

This pocket-sized toy from Lovehoney is such a great price and comes in a range of bright colours. There are ten function settings for you to choose from and the tapered tip is designed for easy insertion when used with lube. You can control everything with the click of a button, which makes for easy and fuss-free usage. 

Some complained that the pocket-sized product was smaller than had hoped but for clitorial stimulation, it’s ideal. Plus, the compact design means it’s portable for travel.


Best for bondage

Lovehoney Oh! Silky Bondage Restraints, £10

What we like
  • Great price

  • Festive feel

  • Great intro to BDSM

What we don't like
  • Some complained the fabric wasn’t comfortable enough

Key specs

RRP on writing: £10 | Material: Satin | Colours: Available in black and red

Our verdict

If you’re looking to dip your toe into the world of bondage, these restraints from Lovehoney are the ideal starting point. The satin ribbon feels so festive and don’t seem as intimidating as some of the more traditional latex and leather equipment. 

Many customers said the price was really worth it and also used the restraints as a blindfold. There were a few reviews complaining that the satin was a little scratchy on the skin so may be worth loosening it up.


Best Christmas lingerie

Sexy Santa Plunge Lace Body, £25

What we like
  • Sexy plunge design

  • Adjustable straps

  • Inclusive sizing

What we don't like
  • Lace is delicate and can rip

Key specs

RRP on writing: £25 | Material: Lace, polyamide, elastane, fur pile, acrylic, modacrylic, polyester, cotton | Sizes: 4-24 

Our verdict

If you really want to get your partner in the mood this Christmas, why not opt for a bit of daring dress-up? This sexy Mrs Santa outfit from Ann Summers leaves very little to the imagination and comes in a good size range from 4 to 24. 

It can be worn with the suspenders for an added touch or on its own as a plunge body if you want to keep things simple. One thing to note is the lace is delicate so if your DP is desperate to rip it off, you may need to undress for him. Which we’re sure he won’t complain about.

Related: Discover the best condoms that Mumsnet users rate


Best Santa outfit

Lovehoney Fantasy Santa Flirty Red Velvet Dress, £30

What we like
  • Flattering waistband

  • Comfortable stretch velvet

What we don't like
  • Only available for sizes 6 to 16

Key specs

RRP on writing: £30 | Material: Velour: 94% Polyester, 6% Elastane, Faux fur:100% Polyester | Sizes: 6-16 

Our verdict

Santa may be the one with the presents but we can guarantee this sexy Mrs Santa costume will be the best gift for your DP. The stretchy velvet makes for a comfortable yet figure-flattering fit and the waistband will cinch you in and create that sexy hourglass shape. Some customers say it’s also the perfect piece if you are feeling a little shy about your body as it feels sexy without being too revealing.

One downside is that it’s a one size fits all design for sizes 6 to 16. Not ideal for larger body types but Lovehoney do have a great range of lingerie for sizes up to a 28.


Best Elf outfit

Sexy Santa Elf Dress from Ann Summers, £30

What we like
  • Slimming fit

  • Diamante buckle

What we don't like
  • Sizing runs small

Key specs

RRP on writing: £30 | Material: Polyester, elastane, acrylic, polyamide | Sizes: 4-24

Our verdict

You can guarantee that nobody will be putting this elf on a shelf! The bottle green colour of this dress is a festive touch and the tight, velvet design is figure flattering. Just make sure you get a few elfies before wowing your DP with it!

Customers all agreed this dress has the wow factor but did warn that the sizing can run small, so suggested going down one or even two sizes. Especially if you have a larger bust.


Best Christmas sex game

You and Me 50 Nights of Intimacy Game, £15

What we like
  • Lots of creative ideas

  • Ideal for beginners

What we don't like
  • May not be raunchy enough for some couples

Key specs

Contents: 45 forfeit cards for each player, four special cards, one joker, one dice, one sand timer 

What Mumsnet users say
Gardening1 · Recommended
I have the 'you and me' game from Ann Summers  it's a bit of role play but mostly acts of different levels that you get points for. We like it!
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Our verdict

The reviews for this card game are so positive, as customers say it's the perfect way to really push you out of your comfort and try new things. You get two sets of cards, one for women and one for men, plus a dice. The number on the dice will select a sexy option from one of the cards for you to try. 

Some customers said it was a little tame for them but that means it's ideal for newbies or people who just want to add a little spice to the bedroom.

Want more inspiration? Check out our guide to the best sex games, as loved by Mumsnet users. 

Read next: Don't miss our guide to the best vibrators


Best gift set

Smile Makers Pleasure Trip Gift Set, £63

What we like
  • Great selection of items

  • Vanity case makes it perfect for travel

What we don't like
  • Expensive

Key specs

RRP on writing: £63 | Contains: The Surfer clitoral stimulator, gel lubricant, erotic oil, silky wipes and vanity case

Our verdict

This is the perfect gift from you to you. The set includes The Surfer, which is a waterproof clitoral stimulator designed for ultimate pleasure. Plus, it’s silent for the perfect level of discretion.

Smile Makers make sex toys with women in mind, which is one of the reasons Mumnset teamed up with them in 2023 to create The Whisperer - an industry first sex toy designed for new mums.

The Pleasure Trip Gift Set includes a vanity case, which means it’s perfect for taking with you on the go. The silky wipes are so nourishing and ideal for pre or post-sex and the erotic oil is made from 100% natural ingredients, which makes it great for use on sensitive skin.


Best stocking filler

5" Sleek Classic Vibrator from Ann Summers, £8

What we like
  • Small and portable

  • Tapered tip designed for easy insertion

What we don't like
  • Only has one speed setting

Key specs

RRP on writing: £8 | Settings: Single speed vibration | Insertable length: 5 inches | Power: Battery powered (1 x AA battery)

Our verdict

It’s hard to argue with the price of this vibrator. At less than £10, it’s an absolute bargain. Plus, reviews say that the sleek design and tapered tip makes for easy insertion and also offers great clitoral stimulation. The one downside is that it only has one speed setting but we think that’s understandable given the bargain price. Plus, one speed setting may be all you need… 

Need more stocking filler ideas? Don’t miss our guide to the best adult stocking fillers.

What is the best overall Christmas sex toy?

The We Vibe Sync Lite from Ann Summers has gained a great reputation from customers - and has even been tried and tested by one of our very own here at MNHQ. The unique design is perfect for dual pleasure and you can control it with the remote or using the app, making it a great gift for your DP that you can both enjoy together.

What’s the best Christmas sex toy for beginners?

If you’re looking to inject some spice into the bedroom, why not try the You and Me 50 Nights of Intimacy Game from Ann Summers. Featuring two sets of cards and a dice, it offers a great selection of fun and adventurous ideas for you and your DP to try in the bedroom.

If you want to try your hand at some bondage, the Lovehoney Oh! Silky Bondage Restraints are a fun and festive way to experiment too.

What’s the perfect sex toy for couples?

We love the Lovehoney Oh! Sensual Body Massager. Massage is perfect for intimacy and some customers said this clever little massager helped them discover new realms of pleasure.

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How we tested our recommended products

Recommendations from real Mumsnet users

From the moment one of our Mumsnetters revealed their tradition for 'rocking around the Christmas tree' with their husband, we knew our forums were the perfect place to find some fun, honest and invaluable recommendations. After all, these are real people who have been there, done that when climbing Mt. O for full satisfaction. 

Tested by our Mumsnet editors

Not only are the gifts included ones that our Mumsnet users rave about, but some have also been personally tested by our own MNHQ editors to make sure what we’re recommending is actually what it says on the tin.

Authentic consumer reviews

We then thoroughly investigated genuine, in-depth customer reviews on retailer sites such as Ann Summers, Lovehoney, and Amazon. We wanted to see what products had scored an impressive amount of five-star reviews and just what made these toys worth the hype.

Why you should trust us

Transparency is crucial to us, and that's why we're always honest about where we find our recommendations. We write about products that we feel offer the best value to most parents – the ones that our users would recommend to their own friends and family.

About the author

Kat Romero is a writer and journalist with over a decade’s experience in the industry. Hailing from London, she has become experienced in scouring the market to find the latest and best products that are worth your purchase. Away from her desk, Kat can be found consuming far too much coffee and spending her weekends with her toddler and partner - soaking up the sights of London and sampling anything new and exciting that has opened up within walking distance.

About the editor

Rebecca Roberts is a writer, editor, and content marketing expert hailing from Leeds. Here at Mumsnet, she commissions, writes, and edits to bring parents content designed to make life easier. After birthing and breastfeeding two babies in two years, Rebecca knows first-hand how hard it can be to reignite intimacy. From condoms, to lubricants, to sex toys and Advent calendars - she’s on a quest to find the best ones, with the help of Mumsnet user recommendations.

Beyond her role as an editor here at Mumsnet, Rebecca can be found balancing life as a working mum of two toddlers and when she’s not at her desk, you’ll likely find her at a local playgroup, in a nearby coffee shop, walking the dog, or hiding from her neighbour as she attempts to buy condoms during her weekly “Big Food Shop”.