Weird comment moment on vaginas

[hesyetanothersketchyOLD]

This wasn't a relationship, just a potential physical thing that actually fizzled out before it happened, but the guy in question said he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked become some vaginas "look like they've been run over". Anyway, attraction went away on his part (I didn't show him!), but this comment stood out to me. He said a few other questionable things, too.

Just wondering if anyone's come across someone who seemed to have standards for vaginas like that before? Is it a porn influence? 🤔

* Yes, he should have said vulva

That comment should have been where you blocked him, sounds like he’s never seen on in real life 😂

Seriously though that’s a huge red flag, he’s clearly very misogynistic.

But no I haven’t. I don’t think that’s men in general. Just him.

He's a doctor so I can only assume he's seen plenty, though I don't know.

I'm in my forties and I suppose I'm wondering if that's how it plays out with men now.

Yeah because a penis is so attractive...

That’s even worse that a professional is talking about women’s bodies like that. Grim.

The whole thing was really weird and unsettling ☹️

Ew! What a turn off! I’m picturing a Joseph Mengele, sicko type of doctor saying shit like that.

Confirms my suspicion that doctors are arseholes to date. Glad you're well rid.

Men do have different expectations of vaginas now, don't they though? Nothing I am prepared to do about mine though, I'm not having surgery.

I honestly have no idea what they want apart from small labia, though, anyway. I haven't seen that many as I don't watch porn.

Edit: let's not go down that route, though.

I suppose I'm really just wondering to what extent these standards are really expected in real life.

It's so interesting to me when self proclaimed heterosexual men clearly state that they are disgusted by women's bodies.

You should have stopped taking to him when he said it.

I'd be really interested to know the responses to this.....

I'm currently single and not having sex with anyone so have no specific man in mind but I have real hang ups with my labia...I'm definitely not "pretty" in that area and looking like it's been run over is probably an accurate description.

I would absolutely block any man who said this or requested pictures and would have nothing to do with him (regardless of how good my vulva looked), but I do wonder if it would turn off nice/normal men who would be too polite to vocalise it.

I'm also extremely flat chested and I think the combination of both things is really knocking my confidence in terms of sexual relationships.

I'm early 40s and divorced with dc so not inexperienced. However it does seem to be becoming more of an issue in my own mind

Outside of incels whinging on the internet I really don’t think they do tbh.

they’re mostly just happy to be involved 😂 you seem to be forgetting how sex oriented most are. There’s just absolutely no way a man would be like oh no, I couldn’t possibly it’s not perfectly symmetrical.

Oh dear, is there a story here?

I've only come across this attitude on incel subreddits populated by men who've never actually seen a vagina in real life.

I actually cannot believe that I've just read with my own two eyes that attraction went away on HIS part. Are you seriously saying that it didn't go away for you the minute he made that comment? I think my vag would've sealed itself shut so forcefully a black hole would've formed in my uterus.

How very odd!
I am trying to imagine what a run over vagina would actually look like!
Pretty sure I’ve never come across one! I honestly dont think most men care what a vulva looks like and this guy is clearly an oddball

There’s just absolutely no way a man would be like oh no, I couldn’t possibly it’s not perfectly symmetrical.

It's so apt that you would put it this way as that is exactly the impression I had- that he might say something along those lines.

Surely it's a form of negging to get you to send genital pics. You want to prove your vulva certainly does not look like that - he hopes.

ETA a Dr of what? If he's a medical doctor and he doesn't know what a vulva is, I'd be very worried.

You should have responded that you agreed checks needed doing as you have high expectations of getting a decent penis... Then dumped him.

Haha

He sounds like the sort of man who lives in his mother’s basement

I'd report him for making a comment like that. He's a professional who were meant to trust with our bodies, and here he is making comments judging vaginas. Imagine if one of the women he was talking about knew what her GP was saying about her.

A penis is merely a flesh coloured pork cylinder with 2 teabags underneath with the odd hair poking out like a plucked chicken. Hardly something to find outstandingly beautiful.

I wonder if his penis resembles braille.

😂😂😂

Was he wanting to ask him to send a dick pick so you could check him out? 🤮

Any man lucky enough to get that far can put up with what he gets! Did you ask to see his penis in case it’s not big enough ??

I would have said 'dick first' then burst out laughing when he showed me.
Silly bastard. Men like that don't deserve to be anywhere near women's body parts that they don't even know the names of! Lucky escape.