Weird comment moment on vaginas

[hesyetanothersketchyOLD]

This wasn't a relationship, just a potential physical thing that actually fizzled out before it happened, but the guy in question said he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked become some vaginas "look like they've been run over". Anyway, attraction went away on his part (I didn't show him!), but this comment stood out to me. He said a few other questionable things, too.

Just wondering if anyone's come across someone who seemed to have standards for vaginas like that before? Is it a porn influence? 🤔

* Yes, he should have said vulva

Surely it's a form of negging to get you to send genital pics. You want to prove your vulva certainly does not look like that - he hopes.

Good point, it could indeed have been reverse psychology. On the other hand he was critical about some aspects of my body, e.g. I have lots of bruises on my legs at the moment, which pretty much shut things down for me. As I say, he lost interest anyway.

I hope he isn't a doctor if he doesn't know the difference between vagina and vulva. many men who SAY they are doctors on dating apps are actually not. If you know his name run it through he GMC register ...

and block

Ugh, that’s just so grim. He sounds weird, controlling and just like he wanted to humiliate you tbh.

He was critical of your appearance due to bruises on your legs?? That plus the vulva comments would have been an instant block for me. Either one of them on its own would've been enough. I wouldn't be giving him the chance to lose interest in me.

And I say this as following my comment below on my own insecurities about my vulva/labia. While I may not be 100% confident myself, I'd never entertain this type of comment from a man

Naked Attraction has much to answer for!

Don't worry, there is no interest from either side any more!

I suppose I'm just curious as to how things would play out with other men and how likely I am to run into this kind of attitude.

Men do have different expectations of vaginas now, don't they though?

No men don’t. Silly Reddit reading porn addled boys might buy real grown up adult men really don’t judge women on what their vagina looks like

I think most men over 20 with any experience are aware that it really doesn't matter what it looks like. They all feel good. Just as most women realise the look of a flaccid penis has no bearing to how good the sex is.

I've got ugly labia and was seriously looking into surgery when younger- very insecure. But literally no bloke, even when I was a teenager has ever complained. My DP actively laughs at the idea now as he says it's perfect.

I think the only blokes who care are those who've only ever watched porn or been with 1 woman who had a barbie fanny. Literally doesn't matter to men who matter.

God, that’s horrible from anyone but especially a doctor. I wonder what kind of doctor he was because it sounds like he hasn’t seen many real vulvas??

In reality, when a woman is naked in front of a man, they couldn’t give a toss what your flaps look like, it doesn’t affect the feeling at all. Most men will happily have sex with their own hand

Perhaps 10 years makes a difference, as I'm looking mostly at men in their 50s, but I've never had a comment like that. Occasionally there will be something about a preference for public hair (I've had wanting it gone, wanting some but not all gone, wanting to have something he could tangle his fingers in - what they get depends on my preferences rather than theirs.) But anyone who expresses anything but delight at being allowed close shouldn't be allowed close.

he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked
some vaginas "look like they've been run over".

OMFG what a moron wanting to conduct a vagina inspection and the audacity to speak like that about vaginas. I'm guessing his dick was the gold standard then.

Urgh gross, would have put me right off!

I’m sure many women would have lots of things to say about penises if we weren’t all so polite and respectful

Sounds like a misogynistic idiot, and probably in denial of his own non-attraction to women.

So am I the only one that's been asked to undergo a vagina inspection then? 😂😅

Are you certain he is a doctor? Have you checked his qualifications and GMC registration?

God what a creep. Was this via the medium of photo? Just a negging way to get you to send a pic. I sincerely hope he works in urology fiddling with male plumbing all day, not gynae.

I don't think caring about the appearance of genitalia is a thing for those wanting either love or casual sex in good faith, just those trying to cause insecurity due to their own shortcomings.

Yes, certain; I know his family.

Jesus, what has the world come to?! It's appalling that you even have to question whether this is vaguely normal. That comment is grounds for instantly dumping and blocking him. There are so many things wrong with it, I don't even know where to begin.

I suspect he did it because (a) he's a prick; and (b) he wanted you to send him a photo. No wonder women's health is always at the bottom of the list if he's representative of the profession.

OP, you are worth WAY more than an insignificant, misogynist little gobshite like that. Please don't let any other men talk to you like that or convince you that this is the way decent people behave now.

Was this via the medium of photo?

No, it was in person. I was a bit disappointed in how things played out 😕

Ewwww. So glad he never got the chance to get close to your vagina, but so disturbing he's a doctor, that's made my skin crawl. What a creep.

Of course this isn’t normal wtf. I think it was on here that I read that most men over 40 look like a potato and you look around and it’s not wrong 😁 lots of potatoes getting no sex as well by the sounds of it if they are critiquing women’s bodies part by part. I hope to god he isn’t a gynaecologist or something, the horrible tosser, don’t give him a second thought and if any other men say it run a mile!

Whatever his intention was, that comment along with a few others just put a bar on me ever sleeping with him (he's not interested now anyway- if he ever was but that's a different discussion). I wouldn't be able to show him anything knowing how critical of women's bodies he is.

How revolting. Mine definitely looks like roadkill (brunette 40-something who's had two kids and a LOT of sex)...glad to hear you didn't DTD with him.

He's a doctor and asked to see your vagina rather than labia??
Are you sure he's a doctor? (Or does he just have a PhD?)