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Weird comment moment on vaginas

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hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 10:57

This wasn't a relationship, just a potential physical thing that actually fizzled out before it happened, but the guy in question said he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked become some vaginas "look like they've been run over". Anyway, attraction went away on his part (I didn't show him!), but this comment stood out to me. He said a few other questionable things, too.

Just wondering if anyone's come across someone who seemed to have standards for vaginas like that before? Is it a porn influence? 🤔

* Yes, he should have said vulva

OP posts:
Sceptical123 · 16/09/2024 16:12

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 11:02

He's a doctor so I can only assume he's seen plenty, though I don't know.

I'm in my forties and I suppose I'm wondering if that's how it plays out with men now.

Edited

Bloody HELL - a DOCTOR?!!! 😳🤔😵‍💫

cantreallyno · 16/09/2024 16:13

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 10:57

This wasn't a relationship, just a potential physical thing that actually fizzled out before it happened, but the guy in question said he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked become some vaginas "look like they've been run over". Anyway, attraction went away on his part (I didn't show him!), but this comment stood out to me. He said a few other questionable things, too.

Just wondering if anyone's come across someone who seemed to have standards for vaginas like that before? Is it a porn influence? 🤔

* Yes, he should have said vulva

forgot to say my actual point! 🙄.....I imagine that these men are actually gay and generally repulsed by vagina

Deliiciousllydifffident · 16/09/2024 16:18

Enough to clamp shut, immediately.

Taluulaah · 16/09/2024 16:35

Haven’t read the full thread but i just have to express my shock that this guy is not only an immature, disrespectful, misogynistic creep, but also a doctor!!! 🤯 Ew.
im not sure about vaginas being “ran over” - more like his brain has been ran over. What a thing to say to someone!
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there OP.

WeirdyWorldy · 16/09/2024 16:38

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 11:02

He's a doctor so I can only assume he's seen plenty, though I don't know.

I'm in my forties and I suppose I'm wondering if that's how it plays out with men now.

Edited

Was he def a doctor or just said he was one?

Either way he's a nutter who deserved to be blocked (and reported if OLD)

Duckingella · 16/09/2024 16:40

Ewww are you he wasn't an incel pretending he was a doctor.

What a freak.

blondemumof4 · 16/09/2024 16:40

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 10:57

This wasn't a relationship, just a potential physical thing that actually fizzled out before it happened, but the guy in question said he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked become some vaginas "look like they've been run over". Anyway, attraction went away on his part (I didn't show him!), but this comment stood out to me. He said a few other questionable things, too.

Just wondering if anyone's come across someone who seemed to have standards for vaginas like that before? Is it a porn influence? 🤔

* Yes, he should have said vulva

🤣🤣🤣

And this is why I'm soo put off dating.

blackpooolrock · 16/09/2024 17:05

I honestly have no idea what they want apart from small labia, though, anyway.

The men i know generally don't care about labia size or hair coverage for that matter.

Men should be happy any woman let's them stick their willy into them - if they aren't happy they can sling their hook.

Sceptical123 · 16/09/2024 17:09

Riapia · 16/09/2024 13:11

Imagine, a group of doctors out for a drink discussing who’s seen the worst looking fanny.
😉😁😁

😣 I bet this does happen, particularly among the younger students. Hopefully not.

However, I guess if it was a sitcom and it was a load of female medical ppl discussing how ugly men’s bits were etc it would be funny, so 🤷🏼‍♀️

Pocketlint · 16/09/2024 17:27

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PolePrince55 · 16/09/2024 17:34

You should have asked him to send a Dick pick cause some are just way too small.
I don't let male doctors near me for that reason!

Can't go against instinct!

PolePrince55 · 16/09/2024 17:36

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 12:08

It wasn't the vagina aspect that worried me so much as the fact that I have some pretty bad stretch marks on my abdomen that I've had since a teenager; I always have to wait for the right moment to tell a man I have them and guage if he will be OK with it. The whole vagina inspection cast doubt on that!

Edited

Most REAL men won't have a problem with stretch marks x

treehugger4 · 16/09/2024 17:48

I'm sorry you had to endure this nonsense from this knobhead... however this thread has produced some brilliant comments Smile

Begsthequestion · 16/09/2024 17:54

Sceptical123 · 16/09/2024 17:09

😣 I bet this does happen, particularly among the younger students. Hopefully not.

However, I guess if it was a sitcom and it was a load of female medical ppl discussing how ugly men’s bits were etc it would be funny, so 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why would you find that funny?

Though I suppose the lack of shaming of dicks compared to fannies means the dynamics of mocking those parts are different.

goingtotheshow · 16/09/2024 18:22
  1. You keep repeatedly saying that he lost interest, implying you didn't immediately loose interest after his comment. You deserve better than that you know? They was a huge red flag.
  2. Unless you're only have sex with men who are absolutely perfect physical gods then you do not have to explain to them before hand that you have stretch marks.
Sassybooklover · 16/09/2024 18:27

All women are different in that area, as we are in breast size/shape. I'm very much in the 'larger vulva' category, but for me personally, I am much more sensitive! So, that's a win as far as I am concerned! However, if a man had said that to me, I'd have laughed and told him that I had high penis standards, and expected a man to be a minimum of 10 inches, because anything less wasn't worth the effort!!! I'd have then watched him squirm and look worried!! Be thankful that nothing happened between you. In my experience, if a man is into you, it makes no difference what you look like 'down there' or if you're big/small busted.

Newsenmum · 16/09/2024 18:28

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 11:02

He's a doctor so I can only assume he's seen plenty, though I don't know.

I'm in my forties and I suppose I'm wondering if that's how it plays out with men now.

Edited

He’s a doctor? Jesus. That’s depressing.

Newsenmum · 16/09/2024 18:29

Sassybooklover · 16/09/2024 18:27

All women are different in that area, as we are in breast size/shape. I'm very much in the 'larger vulva' category, but for me personally, I am much more sensitive! So, that's a win as far as I am concerned! However, if a man had said that to me, I'd have laughed and told him that I had high penis standards, and expected a man to be a minimum of 10 inches, because anything less wasn't worth the effort!!! I'd have then watched him squirm and look worried!! Be thankful that nothing happened between you. In my experience, if a man is into you, it makes no difference what you look like 'down there' or if you're big/small busted.

How do you know if it’s large?

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 18:31

Newsenmum · 16/09/2024 18:29

How do you know if it’s large?

I know someone who will perform an inspection and tell you! 🙂

OP posts:
Sceptical123 · 16/09/2024 18:39

Begsthequestion · 16/09/2024 17:54

Why would you find that funny?

Though I suppose the lack of shaming of dicks compared to fannies means the dynamics of mocking those parts are different.

I’m sorry, I should have been clearer - I think it is likely the scenario of women making fun of penises would largely be construed as humorous - to men and women - given various comedies I’ve seen, and the fact women on here are making fun of them in various creative ways and it’s so far being taken in good humour. There’s loads of nob jokes, come on. The only comedy I remember where they’re making fun of vaginas is Psychoville where they’re coming up with various names to describe a baggy one, but that in itself is done to mask another conversation. Oh and Ricky gervaise has got a disgusting image which I won't write on here either. I‘m saying that if it was female medical staff talking about weird willies it would perhaps be different to males talking about ugly vaginas

Illegally18 · 16/09/2024 19:13

Thank you to the poster who thanked me. This man went also went on to say that some women had ugly vaginas, and that he referred to their labia as 'piss flaps'! I had been so unpopular and uncool as teenager that I accepted any man that asked me out, and unfortunately this was one of them. He was scum. I was turned off at the time

AutumnalSunshineXX · 16/09/2024 20:03

Ffs

AutumnalSunshineXX · 16/09/2024 20:04

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 11:06

Men do have different expectations of vaginas now, don't they though? Nothing I am prepared to do about mine though, I'm not having surgery.

I honestly have no idea what they want apart from small labia, though, anyway. I haven't seen that many as I don't watch porn.

Edit: let's not go down that route, though.

I suppose I'm really just wondering to what extent these standards are really expected in real life.

Edited

No OP they don't!
He was a fucking weirdo.
Block & move on.

notprincehamlet · 16/09/2024 20:29

Men do have different expectations of vaginas now, don't they though?
What exactly are they expecting to find there?? The Sydney Opera House? The Hanging Gardens of Babylon? Herds of wildebeest sweeping majestically ...

Dobest · 16/09/2024 20:38

hesyetanothersketchyOLD · 16/09/2024 11:06

Men do have different expectations of vaginas now, don't they though? Nothing I am prepared to do about mine though, I'm not having surgery.

I honestly have no idea what they want apart from small labia, though, anyway. I haven't seen that many as I don't watch porn.

Edit: let's not go down that route, though.

I suppose I'm really just wondering to what extent these standards are really expected in real life.

Edited

How do "different expectations now" work out, when women's cunts have not become different?