Weird comment moment on vaginas

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This wasn't a relationship, just a potential physical thing that actually fizzled out before it happened, but the guy in question said he wanted to see my vagina* to check how it looked become some vaginas "look like they've been run over". Anyway, attraction went away on his part (I didn't show him!), but this comment stood out to me. He said a few other questionable things, too.

Just wondering if anyone's come across someone who seemed to have standards for vaginas like that before? Is it a porn influence? 🤔

* Yes, he should have said vulva

This is depressing. I thought men had moved on a bit from all this. It reminds me of being at school, when the boys would say horrible things about vulvas all the time. I’ve got an “outie” and I was always horrified at the things they’d say about vulvas. It’s really sad that this is a grown man, supposedly a doctor - although I’m not convinced he’s a doctor. Doctors have to be quite careful about their behaviour, even away from work. The doctors I know socially are generally very careful about what they say and do, as they know there can be consequences.

Well Shipman was a doctor.

I think he says he is a doctor. Doesn't mean he is.

Looking for visible evidence of STD's, warts, etc.

Report him to who? And for what? she isn't his patient she was a potential sexual partner.

I like how everyone is suggesting this guy “just has a PhD” rather than the more obvious “is just lying about being a doctor “ 😂

I’m also sceptical that he’s a doctor. Classic lie from an unimaginative type imo. I also think doctors are less squeamish than most, not more.

Op has said she knows his family and is 100% sure he's a dr.

My exFIL is a retired GP and has form of being a horrible chauvinistic pig. The type whose ideal holiday is a solo 6 week trip to Thailand and is quite open and about how he chooses to spend his time there (in graphic detail). I never ever felt comfortable around him due to his sleaziness.
It also recently came out that he abused my exMIL (his now exW) for years but it was so long ago she has chosen not to press charges.

Anyway, my point is that he's a GP and would absolutely make this type of comment. If you met him outside of work you'd never believe he was a GP (although he'll drop it into conversation every 10'mins 😂)

What man talks about how ugly vaginas could be on a date.

It wasn't a date, actually, we were just meeting up. I realise my user name is misleading, I was originally going to post about someone from a dating app and not this guy at all.

It did happen. I couldn't make it up!

attraction went away on his part?????
What on earth would keep you interested in a man who said that? And whatever keeps you interested in knowing more about the reasons behind it?
and.... Yes, he should have said vulva?? Really, that's more about you than him that you are spending time posting about that. no one gives a fxxx about his use of vagina rather than vulva.. most will be able to see that anyone who talks like that should be swiftly told to fuck right off to the far side of fuck, and then fuck off some more. Plesae dont' stay around waiting for men like this to decide if they are still attracted or not.

That's so many sorts of crazy. The comment "they look like they've been run over" is aggressive and disrespectful, reason enough to bin.

But I'm really intrigued about the labia inspection. How does it affect performance and enjoyment? What's the point? (An excuse for negging, probably)

It's not the same as asking for a dick pick to see if it's too big/too small/too thin, for example (which I never heard of people doing, but would make more sense. In fact, I would be tempted to ask this guy for a pic, for assessment :) Any chance you could do that, OP, and report back?

Did you counter with the line about men's genitals looking like something you normally see hanging out the side of a shark's mouth?

No, that's not how it plays out with men now. Most are just delighted to see a vulva. He has a bizarre attitude. Please don't tar all men with the same brush.

This makes me even more grateful for my partner.

I can't believe this guys a doctor aswell 😳

My first thought was that he was gay and actually he finds all vaginas/vulvas disgusting.

My second thought was that he had ED and to deflect from that he actively prevented the opportunity of sexual relations as obviously that would expose his issue.

Or he has some pretty fucked up views on women.

Either 3 ain't great, don't for a single second think that any decent guy with any worth would be like him.

Yes, he should have said vulva*

I'd actually be so turned off a man if he said vulva instead of vagina😂

I'd think that he either had only ever heard about them in books, OR that he deliberately chose to use the word vulva even though vagina is in common usage and I think many who use the term vulva use it to make some kind of point!

chose to use the word vulva even though vagina is in common usage

Hang on @kkloo

You know that vulva and vagina refer to different parts of the body, don't you? What point are you making ?

The two words refer to two different body parts though? It's like your male partner wanting you to call his testicles his penis, because the word testicles turns him off.

Please can you touch my penis darling? No not that penis, the other penis with the balls in it.

It's ludicrous when you have a think about it. Why do you think we just lump women's body parts that are responsible for pleasure into one functional word?

I’ve not met any guy who has expressed anything other than delight when faced with my nakedness and I’m boringly normal. I’m a bit overweight, I’ve had an episiotomy so down there has been a bit battered, I’ve got big boobs but a lot of moles under and around them, a lipoma (fatty lump) on my bum…. Basically I am far from “perfect” but I’m warm and generally willing to suck a dick (if I am already naked with him) so they are very enthusiastic!! Any guy who said this would be an instant block. Any guy not grateful and happy to get to be in the presence of a naked me can fuck right off!

In my experience most men are not like this. He's a creep.

Oh FGS!! Designer vulvas now! Send these guys on their way ....