BIL making disgusting jokes about his wife via group family chat.

[Satonthesofa11]

Would you put up with that?

It’s really disgusting the kind of jokes he says about his wife on the family chat. Things about anal and easy access. The parents are on this chat. Is this type of thing normal?

No and presumably your husband isn’t calling it out?
Is the wife on the chat?

Do you publicly call him out on it?

No, I would point it out and leave the group. He sounds like a pig.

Yeah she is. I’d be absolutely devastated if I was her but she just puts laugh emojis. She is very timid tho so this is not her and I doubt she finds it funny.

@Satonthesofa11 what a horrible husband he is!!!

@MrsKwazi I don’t comment but I don’t actively say anything as everyone else is finding it funny. I presumed I’m just not finding sexist jokes funny.

Not at all normal.

Constantly tells her to sit on his lap and see what rises….stupid things like this

Why would you not say anything? I can’t fathom this

Well given everyone else is fine with it, and she is apparently fine with it, I wouldn't be getting my knickers in a twist. It's not your humour which is fine but the example you've given wouldn't fuss me.

Vile behaviour, and in front of family including parents is gross.Call him out on it separately and then either block him or leave the group.

Of course it's not okay, it's vile. Call the twat out, you can't be the only one who's uncomfortable reading that sort of thing.

@OrlandointheWilderness latest one was about easy access trousers for anal and he will buy her a pair, on a family chat. I guess it’s just me but I don’t find it funny. I don’t see the point in saying anything if they find it funny. Or they just look like they do.

Definitely not acceptable. Not funny, and intimidatory - bet he’s laughing at seeing how far he can go with you all.

@crumpet i think he is just very immature.

In front of her parents or his? I'd think it's sick tbh. Not sure I'd call him out or not. Sometimes it's better to withdraw. Maybe put a puke emoji on and mute the group

The point in saying something is you might be saving his wife from further humiliation. She must think the whole family's happy to see her being degraded.

Call him out on it!

So no one is calling him out. Not sure how you know everyone else finds it funny.
what about putting "yawn, not another sexist joke" the next time he posts something like that.
I'd be very surprised if everyone else is enjoying it - it takes strength to be the first one to speak up though, do you have it?

Depends on the family dynamic. I would joke with my MIL about things like that. But I wouldn’t put it on a family chat!

The parents do seem to find it funny, I guess that’s where the humour comes from. The dad is definitely misogynistic and the wife of BIL the definition of housewife.

@Satonthesofa11

Call it out obviously using emojis like this one🤢🤮🙄😡🤬💩🥱🥱🥱🥱🤡🤡🤡🤡

🙄🥱 = you find the sexual misogynistic crap 💩 talk all too boringly predictable,

He is a twat = sign for clown

Tell him he is a fool you see him like the village idiot
that's what you think 🤔 of him

It be good if you can tell him fuck off...

Next message along these lines just respond with

"if this is considered acceptable chat i do not want any part of it". Then just leave the conversation/group. Dont discuss it on the whatsapp group as that gives opportunity to try to justify or laugh it off. Dont worry, chances are others will find it repugnant too and copy your actions. Unless they are all filthy pigs chances are you will find they support your stance.

@Satonthesofa11

It's attention seeking behaviour of the one of the worst type ..

I loath arseholes like this
I would also use the💩 crap emoji = to also describe him too

I don’t know I just think he is very immature. What worries me more is he has daughters. I can only imagine what he’d think if a man made fun of them like this.