Contact from the other woman

[FMO1976]

I have just received a text from the woman I suspected my husband was having an affair with - it arrived when we were in the car together and it was read out through the car speakers.

She said she felt that needed to tell me - people are gossiping at work, and she has told him to stop the contact. What should I do?

You aren't giving enough information for anyone to advise you properly. Your op raises so many questions and any advice depends on those answers.

Sorry you're in this situation.

So your husband was in the car at the time? That’s what I’ve come to understand of this. How did he react?

If you suspected already and she’s confirmed it’s pretty much the situation is he’s having an affair

I don't understand what you mean, who read it out over the speakers in the car.

What?

Hang on - your husband received this text from her? Not you?

And you only know about it because it was read through the speakers?

Tell him to pack his things, is what I'd do.

OP can you rewrite your OP please?

I received the text but as my car was connected to the car phone system the text message came through over the radio and the ‘car’ read it out. He said he had no idea (of course he didn’t!)

So he is denying it? Arrange a 3 way meeting and ask her for proof.

Oh dear I’ve just read hour other post from two days ago...

He’s definitely having an affair OP. kick him out.

He said he had no idea about what?

I have no clue why she would send me the text? Anyone have any idea....??

Having an affair

Because she wants to let you know he’s having an affair with her.

OP can you link your other thread.

She sent you the text to let you know they are having an affair. Either he’s dumped her and it’s revenge or she thinks you’ll throw him out and he’ll go to her

@Sunflowersok

Why would she want to do that? Hoping I kick him out, or feeling guilty....

You have no clue why she sent you a text?

So telling you about your husbands affair never entered your head?

You're being evasive tbh. What did the text say?

It seems strange that he would say he has no idea about having an affair? I assume you mean he is denying it?
You could ring the OW. Did you know she had your number? Do you know her?

He is having an affair and she wants you to know

Loads of reasons OP.

She might be feeling guilty
She might have experienced it in the past herself and realised how bad the situation was
She might be trying to get revenge on him for not leaving you
Pure spite.

Does it matter the reasons? Why would you want to be with him after knowing he’s a cheat and a liar?

She might even be wanting to do the right thing. It doesn’t matter. She’s not the one you should be concentrating on. He is.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3795396-Relationship-issues

He just said that he didn’t know who sent it - he’s not having an affair. I don’t know her but I can get her number through a work directory.

I thought your husband was working away until tomorrow?