Contact from the other woman

[FMO1976]

I have just received a text from the woman I suspected my husband was having an affair with - it arrived when we were in the car together and it was read out through the car speakers.

She said she felt that needed to tell me - people are gossiping at work, and she has told him to stop the contact. What should I do?

but you know that he is having an affair, right?

So you can kick him out and he can go to her. Or he's harassing her and she wants him to stop it. Your op isn't really clear.

He’s gone out now - probably to ring her. I am going to tell him that I am going to call her and ask her - the number is different from her work mobile but plenty of people have a work / private mobile

@SueEllenMishke

He flew back to London, arrived this morning and weirdly came back home this afternoon

But your thread the other day states that you know he has been having an affair?

@SueEllenMishke

I guess he may have been meant to see her....

@Batshittery

Didn’t know - suspected he was. When he had the first affair he came clean.

How did she have your phone number??

@Wishimaywishimight

Work at the same company - is on the directory. She will know he’s married, and to me!

@Wishimaywishimight

I mean me, him and her work at same company

Well now you know he's having yet another affair.
Take the advice your were given on your other thread and kick him out

I definitely want to speak with her

I see that the affair was 18 months ago. Sorry OP, my mistake.

I would say - just ring her. She what she has to say for herself.

What do you plan to say to her?

You can't trust him. He is a distant father who you separated from after his last affair (18 months ago). His latest affair is with someone who works at the same company as you both, and who is his junior while he is very senior in the organisation.
Forget the OW, concentrate on getting out of your marriage to this idiot.

Why would you tell him that you are going to call her? He would just warn her. Just do it.

You know he’s a bad egg. A horrible husband and father. You need to end this.

@Gazelda

We didn’t separate - he admitted the affair, and we stayed married.

@Sunflowersok

I am just going to say that’s for the text, you mentioned calling so I wanted to. Given all work at the same company - probably also to wish her luck with him!

@Sunflowersok

*thanks not that’s

You don't seem bothered?

Why have you even allowed him to go and call her? Why aren't yous having it out right now?

Why aren't you trying to contact her just now? Why are you waiting?

@Morgan12

I am playing with the kids....I don’t know he’s gone to call her. We got home (they were in the car) and he said he had a work call he had to do

I can’t call her with them hear

Can’t you go into the bathroom to call her?

You come across as quite submissive and ready to accept whatever affairs your DH has. You seem more concerned about the fact that it’s someone from work. It’s inconvenient timing for you to ring OW. The reality is that you’ll accept this behaviour.

If my husband was having an affair, there’d be no way he had to go out and do something ... well not if he was hoping to be able to come back.

Look, it’s your choice, whatever works for you. But you do deserve better and your husband is a dirty slimeball of a boss and all of your colleagues know this. I really feel for you and hope you have the strength at some point to realise that life just doesn’t have to be like this. 💐