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Asmr half dressed women

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Kelly4871 · 05/03/2023 11:11

I am being unreasonable my partner watches asmr videos supposed to help with anxiety sleep etc. But can't help notice that all the people's channels that he's subscribed to are the opposite to me there all slim and beautiful flat stomach no stretchmarks etx Whereas im 16 stone and not beautiful.
Does anyone think maybe my partner doesn't find me attractive??

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slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:30

So you searched his username and it told you who he was subscribed to?

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:31

I know what I can see he watches them or he wouldn't be subscribed and he told me he watches asmr but never mentioned half naked women.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:32

Yes he has a channel.

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fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:32

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 09:38

I can't speak to dr they just give me medication then fuck me of that's what they do here they don't offer anything else they funking useless just ticking boxes to meet qcc requirements.

Ask for counselling? Consider taking the medication?

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:33

He's posted some gaming videos of grand theft auto lol.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:34

I don't want medication it has side effects.

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fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:35

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 09:09

I wouldn't go to these clique groups plus they'll look down on me usually slim fit mums that go to these groups they dont want fat mums there.

That's a bit offensive. I'm fat and go to a baby group and am not in a clique. They couldn't care less what you look like everyone is focused on their babies

fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:35

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:34

I don't want medication it has side effects.

There are different types

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:36

I'd try counselling I have weekly therapy sessions but dont stop me having a bad week I always feel down around time of the month I really love my partner I'm just upset why he wants to look at women like this.

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fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:36

Anyway, do you have anything planed for you and baby today? Are you doing tummy time with little one? A walk? It can be very hard these first few weeks please look after yourself and talk to your health visitor

steff13 · 07/03/2023 12:38

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:34

I don't want medication it has side effects.

This behavior is going to have a side effect of ruining your relationship.

fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:38

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:36

I'd try counselling I have weekly therapy sessions but dont stop me having a bad week I always feel down around time of the month I really love my partner I'm just upset why he wants to look at women like this.

That's good- have you spoken to your HV about counselling? I had some really good counselling when I had Post natal depression. It didn't solve my problems but helped me manage them.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:38

Sorry talking about myself nobody else glad your comfortable enough to go I wouldn't feel welcome.

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fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:40

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:38

Sorry talking about myself nobody else glad your comfortable enough to go I wouldn't feel welcome.

Yes its quite hard to get into these groups.

Are you able to go out and about a bit? Or still recovering? It's very hard as there's the lack of sleep too which doesn't help. Are you managing to get some rest?

slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:40

You can't see other people's subscriptions unless he deliberately went in and changed the settings to make them public. Why would he do that? It's pretty deep in the settings.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:42

No I told her I was OK stupidly.
It's since iv taken the pill again I feel depressed my weight isn't helping me I need to lose it.

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LivMumsnet · 07/03/2023 12:42

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

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LivMumsnet · 07/03/2023 12:42

We're also going to move this over to our Mental Health topic now, OP. Flowers

fajitaaaa · 07/03/2023 12:43

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:42

No I told her I was OK stupidly.
It's since iv taken the pill again I feel depressed my weight isn't helping me I need to lose it.

Give the HV a ring and just say actually you're not OK and they'll talk you through how they can help

slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:45

I'd also look at Yuesheng's channel OP, despite the header she if fully dressed in every video and a large percentage of them don't even have her in them, just her hands opening food.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:46

I don't know but I can see whats he subscribed to I'm not making it up lol.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:50

I've had setraline and citlopram I don't like taking them side effects are horrible.

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 07/03/2023 12:58

Op you need help you must access help. You will lose your partner if you carry on like this

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 13:00

It's taking that step I've got my 8 week post natal appointment I'll see if I can mention it there just feel ashamed at the same time my partner be upsets not that its cheating or anything It's me and my insecurities around my weight its out of control if I didn't have these issues i wouldn't make a deal out of it.
I just want to be the only woman that he feels attracted to im scared hel leave me for someone more appealing sometimes.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 13:02

I don't mean to push him away but I'm scared got a voice inside my head telling me I'm not good enough unless I'm a size 12 telling me that he wouldn't look at this videos if I lost some weight and that's why he's doing it because he doesn't love my body.

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