Asmr half dressed women

[Kelly4871]

I am being unreasonable my partner watches asmr videos supposed to help with anxiety sleep etc. But can't help notice that all the people's channels that he's subscribed to are the opposite to me there all slim and beautiful flat stomach no stretchmarks etx Whereas im 16 stone and not beautiful.
Does anyone think maybe my partner doesn't find me attractive??

OP you really sound like you're going through depression and projecting how you feel about yourself on to him.

Asmr is not the problem here. We all like looking at beautiful people but they are on a screen and don't feel real. What you enjoy watching isn't representative of what you like in real life.

Please go to your gp. You need help with your depression. How you feel about yourself will change once your head is sorted.

Also you're only 8 week from having a baby. Give yourself time, it can take years to recover and you need time to work on weightless, that doesn't happen with a baby around. You are worthwhile and worth loving. Be kind to yourself and contact your gp!!!!

Until you feel better in yourself just keep trusting that he loves you, baby weight and all and focus on self care.

I stupidly went noseying on his YouTube channel and looked at what he's subscribed to and came across all these females asmr channels I burst into wondering why he doesn't fine me attractive.

I usually just nose through these threads but I felt obliged to sign up to offer my thoughts on this.
My experience of Men is that they look at the fitter/younger models as it reminds them of their youthfulness.
My other experience of Men is that they find nothing sexier than the weight and marks that their wife or partners gain from growing and carrying their children.
While cruel men may use these marks to beat a woman down, real Men only see them as beautiful.
But even good Men, can be really very stupid when it comes to saying the right things.
If you are ashamed or hide yourself away, maybe he can't show you that he loves how you look or doesn't want to create a thing out of it. But he will most certainly be attracted to how you look.

Sounds like it might just be some communication that is your issue, I'd hope so as it's easily resolved.

He says he is but can't think why he is though I'm obese and ugly as fk

He's not 'getting off' on these women. It's not porn or anything remotely sexual.

I don't like how he's seeing all these beautiful makes me think why is he with me it must make him think why is with an ugly fat person like me.

Like I'm supposed to be happy with my partner looking at half naked women.

I just find it hard to believe he could like
Me in any way when I'm double the size of these women and far less attractive in looks.

But you can appreciate these women are nice looking without being sexually attracted to them, so he can too.

Women are more soothing than men generally. Given the reason he watches these videos, I don't think it's concerning that he's watching women.

I do think you'd benefit from talking to your GP.

This has zero to do with his youtube subscriptions and everything to do with how you feel about yourself. Why did you go looking in the first place? When my depression was at it's worst, it was like I deliberately went looking for things which would hurt me. If it wasn't the youtube videos he was watching then it would have been the TV shows he watches or the magazines he reads.

Please speak to your GP or health visitor about how you're feeling.

When's your 8 week check? Have you had it yet? They'll ask you about your mental health, please, please be honest with them and I promise they'll help.

They prioritise women who are postpartum.

Il sort my own issues out so from today I wint be eating for a week I've got to work on losing weight because I'm really insecure unhappy I don't trust my partner around beautiful women it kills that I'm not good enough for him looking at these women Is making me feel this way.

But will they give me weight loss pills I'm miserable because of my size

It's my weight that's making me feel this way making me not trust my partner.

Oh for fuck’s sake. This board is full of people justifying men’s dickish behaviour. No, OP. Most men don’t subscribe to multiple YouTube channels of scantily clad women doing asmr, or anything really.

it’s not you. It’s him.

Not eating for a week isn't healthy for you or your baby. You need to eat healthily if you're going to lose weight - and drink lots of water and get out for walks if you feel up to it.
Are there any social buggy walks near you where you can meet other moms?

They probably won't give you weight loss pills as it's natural to gain weight during pregnancy. They'll need to see you've taken the steps to lose weight yourself first.

Exactly he's looking at skinny women it's wrong I'm a big girl makes me question his love and attraction I have to settle with my partner looking after women the opposite to me??

If i was attractive woman I wouldn't care what he looked at.

Seems im wrong for wanting my partner to look at women my size rather than women the opposite to me.

I wouldn't go to these clique groups plus they'll look down on me usually slim fit mums that go to these groups they dont want fat mums there.

Asmr videos are calming and relaxing. Thats why people subscribe to them. I very much doubt there are hoards of men getting their rocks off watching Hannah measure Jeremy for a bespoke pair of gloves.

OP you DH loves you, this is your own insecurity, you need help please speak to your GP or HV.

I bet you're beautiful. You just can't see it because we always berate ourselves and compare ourselves. I know we're not going to be able to help you here but please do speak to your doctor or HV when you see them next, or even the nurse when you take baby for their jabs.

They'll listen and they'll be able to give you professional support.

It's really hard to see the wood for the trees in the position you're in at the moment. Lots of us have been where you are now and I promise it gets easier.

I really don't look beautiful I don't get compliments all the time so I know that's a clear sign I'm lacking in beauty I'm walking out on the street crying mess I want to leave my partner he obviously wants someone who looks like those in the asmr videos. Feel like I don't want be here anymore my kids and partner deserve better than me im a nobody I'm obese ugly cunt

And I'm really sad by how many think my oartner eyeing up other women is perfectly OK because its to relax them like honestly that many women think there worth so little that they settle for there partners disrespecting them in that way I don't like myself at all but I know I dont deserve to be made to feel like I do.