Asmr half dressed women

[Kelly4871]

I am being unreasonable my partner watches asmr videos supposed to help with anxiety sleep etc. But can't help notice that all the people's channels that he's subscribed to are the opposite to me there all slim and beautiful flat stomach no stretchmarks etx Whereas im 16 stone and not beautiful.
Does anyone think maybe my partner doesn't find me attractive??

Hes Trying to butter me up making food.
Well he's put me of eating food don't want to gain more weight now do i.

OP, you need to to eat so you can look after your beautiful newborn baby.

He hasn't put you off eating.
He hasn't told you you're unattractive or have got too big, has he?

OP, this is not sane or normal, this is disordered thinking.

Your DH has done nothing wrong. You need to see your GP or health visitor urgently about your thoughts. You need help and support, your DH's YouTube habits aren't the issue.

The trouble with depression is it tells you lies. It whispers things to you that are blatantly untrue. Until you get help with it, you're not going to feel better.

You poor soul, it's a dreadful thing to get through. I remember it well.

You had a baby 8 weeks ago?

I think you need to speak to your health visitor or GP.

The trouble with depression is it tells you lies. It whispers things to you that are blatantly untrue. Until you get help with it, you're not going to feel better.
This. So many of us on here have been there - there's a whole section on mental health if that will help you?

Wishing you all the best

I don’t think he’s necessarily done anything wrong. It sounds like you’re not happy with yourself. Bodies will change after having babies. It doesn’t mean he loves you any less. It doesn’t sound like he loves you any less by what you said either. Are there things you like to do that you could do with the baby? There are lots of fitness and activity classes you can do with a baby to get your confidence up and boost your endorphins if you’re not happy with the way things are at the moment.

you sound like you are unhappy with your looks so change them for yourself. Lose that 10 stone, tone up, try and fade your stretch marks as much as you can. Be the best you for you.

He knows full Well that I don't like my looks or body but that's men for you there all the same they always look at what they wish could have.

I don’t think that’s true at all and a bit unfair on men. I don’t know men like that. People don’t watch YouTube videos solely because they fancy the person doing them. I watch a lot of things with attractive men and women in. Doesn’t mean I don’t love and fancy my husband.

What I mean by 10 stone lighter is there like say 8 stone but I'm like 16 stone so I'm twice there size I don't want to lose 10 stone Ideally 3 stone would be a starting point my goal is 12 stone just feel depressed its feels so hard to get back to a normal size again. I dont want to eat today because I'm to upset.

But you said he's watching these videos to help his anxiety.

It's different to following bikini models on Instagram.

Not but its made me not want to anything I reluctantly ate the food even though I wanted to empty my plate over his head.

How is women showing cleavage all dolled up etc help anxiety surely don't need to be so done up to relax someone with sounds??

I think she didnt deserve what happended should have been me instead.

If I'm reading right then you're only 8 weeks post partum?! I was still 3 stone overweight 8 weeks post partum with number 3, it was all off by 9 months. Give yourself a break, skipping a days food will only make you feel shit and it's early days.

Also, give him a break. I imagine the ASMR videos are mostly attractive women because that's what sells. I fancy the pants off my husband and still enjoy seeing Cillian Murphy with his top off.

I don't know guess I'm jelaous I dont look anything like them after 3 kids.
I wonder what hes thinking about them in comparisons to my stretch marked stomach and jelly belly.

He hasnt even told me im beautiful or anything since I had our baby either

OP, I watch several ASMR channels with beautiful women. I use ASMR to sleep and have my eyes closed while listening to them.

I also watch channels where the man could be considered handsome, however that is not why I am subscribed to them.

This is not about what channels he is subscribed to, this is about how you feel about yourself.

You wouldn't have deserved it either. You have 3 beautiful children who need you.

It is about my feelings I'd be less bothered or no bothered at all if I didn't have these issues its bad feel like making myself throw after meals right now.

I watch (listen) to ASMR videos sometimes and it’s not sexual at all. So I don’t pay attention to what they’re wearing and don’t care if it’s men or women because it’s not about that.

Clearly this is about your self esteem and as others have said you need to talk to a health visitor or GP about it. I’d also recommend you check out Danae Mercer on Insta. She’s got an 8 week old baby too and proudly shows the realities of a post partum body. Most bodies don’t magically shrink back, but you can’t just threaten to stop eating. You need nutritious food to help you have energy and be strong for your children, especially if you’re breast feeding. But even if you’re not, you must be the healthiest version of yourself. Sleepless nights won’t help, but it will get better.

Thankyou I'll have a look at her it's hard when I can't be sure what he's thinking about those beautiful looking women and what he's thinking about me.
She's a good sleeper at the moment.
The not wanting to eat is me thinking maybe he's wishes I didn't eat.

So I'd be like them I don't know I struggle with bad thoughts I hate it when doesn't compliment me either he hasn't since I had our daughter makes me sad he no longer fancies maybe

I happy that your content i really wish i didn't feel shit but I do.
I'm destined to be a size 14 again it's been 8 weeks and I'm still a size 18 it just won't come of.