Asmr half dressed women

[Kelly4871]

I am being unreasonable my partner watches asmr videos supposed to help with anxiety sleep etc. But can't help notice that all the people's channels that he's subscribed to are the opposite to me there all slim and beautiful flat stomach no stretchmarks etx Whereas im 16 stone and not beautiful.
Does anyone think maybe my partner doesn't find me attractive??

You'll never be the only woman he's attracted to. That's not how most people work. But he's choosing to be with you.

He loves me as person but if he could change anything it would be my body size that's what's the voice inside telling me.

I just want to be the only women that he wants feel like 2nd best when he's watching these women.

But that's you telling yourself that, right, he's never told you that? And you just had a baby 8 weeks ago. Your body is going to change, it will just take some time. But that's not really the problem here.

Il get there in the end just these last few days beeb emotional hate how I feel sorry for going on so much 😢

It's not helping though I'm so emotional been crying for nearly 3 days now 😭
I don't want to be jealous of other women comparing myself and accusing my partner of liking other women more than me or accusing him of cheating it's horrible when you hate yourself you take it out on those closest to you.

My daughters sleeping now and all I can do Is cry but work man doing something in my kitchen so trying to hold back the tears.

Don't say sorry. It's really hard.

I would speak to him like you've said you're going to try to do. Tell him how these videos make you feel because now you've shared screenshots I have a different feeling and I can see why you're upset.

Try not to get angry or upset, but tell him you think it's disrespectful to be watching these women. Some of those videos aren't ASMR - they're women posting with those titles so men have an excuse to watch them without being challenged.

Ask him to find some alternative videos to subscribe to if they genuinely help him.

Its not nice is it glad someone looked at it properly she's in her bikini how's is that meant to help anxiety more like help to get a hard on.

She's in a bikini in the header pic. In the videos you can either see her hands or from neck to nose wearing a jumper or shirt. He is not subscribed to her or watching her videos because of what she looks like as you barely see her.

But he can see them there on there to be oggled at obviously it would relax him more than I would with my jelly belly and stretchmarks.

OP! Listen, everyone saying you need to talk to your gp is trying to help you. It’s not even about your partner or whether he is or is not attracted to you. The more important problem here is you are feeling so low about yourself that you’re not being rational anymore.
You do need to eat. Not eating for a week is a terrible terrible idea. It won’t help you lose weight long term. It will just fuck up your metabolism. To lose weight and not faint whilst looking after your newborn you need to create a reasonable and sustainable calorie deficit. Mumsnet is a terrible place to look for accurate info on what that should be for you - I would treat any recommendations under 1500kcal suspiciously.
It’s fine that you want to lose weight. It’s fine that you don’t love your body right now. It’s fine to try to do something about it.
BUT
You must do it in a safe way, and you have to find peace with what you can’t change about your body too. Your entire self worth as a person is NOT EVEN REMOTELY connected to how closely you ressemble the girls in those YouTube videos. You are more than your looks. You are all the time and effort and love you have put into building your family and your relationship. You are all the things you like to do and that you do everyday or have done in the past (work stuff, leisure time stuff, social stuff). People will also admire things about you physically - someone else will be admiring and jealous of your great hair or skin, your incredible eyes, or your amazing legs, or your elegant hands, or your sheer strength, your lovely voice. There are things your partner will love about your body, even if it has changed significantly as you’ve become a mother (3times wasn’t it?) to his children! And this will be true even if he also finds the girls in those ASMR videos sexy.

This is my thread but i deleted my account but then decided to come back. I'm going to get a GP appointment for this week my good friend is going to come along with me for support I trust her. I'm also starting a calorie deficit tomorrow I have to sort what I'm not happy about.
I haven't spoke to my partner we arent arguing and I don't really want to end up having one so I'm just going to tell him later tonight how I feel about myseldd
I don't agree with him watching asmr videos when hes got a partner but there's not a lot I can do about it it's the fact I ain't happy with my body that makes me feel so hurt by it.

And please dont comment telling me what to eat as i already know what I'm doing iv done it before.

Hi so I’ve been experiencing this too! I’ve never related more. “My boyfriend tells me it’s something he does to help him sleep” but he says he doesn’t jack off to any female, but everytime I go to his house his tv has some pretty asmr girl telling him these weird commands I find it weird and it makes me want to throw up. He never wants to do anything sexual with me anymore and I think I know why. I don’t know what to do