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Asmr half dressed women

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Kelly4871 · 05/03/2023 11:11

I am being unreasonable my partner watches asmr videos supposed to help with anxiety sleep etc. But can't help notice that all the people's channels that he's subscribed to are the opposite to me there all slim and beautiful flat stomach no stretchmarks etx Whereas im 16 stone and not beautiful.
Does anyone think maybe my partner doesn't find me attractive??

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 10:23

Here it is

Asmr half dressed women
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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 10:29

I'm supposed to be OK with him watching these videos??

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GoodChat · 07/03/2023 10:30

If he's not just watching the ASMR videos then no, I wouldn't expect you to be ok with that because that is disrespectful and you need to tell him that.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 10:33

Exactly I don't look like that naked Jesus he doesn't entertain me wearing underwear yet he's enjoying these

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MeinKraft · 07/03/2023 10:34

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 10:06

Maybe he can end it seen has he doesn't find me attractive

Do you find him the only attractive man in this world? If you think Ryan Gosling or Tom Hardy are attractive does that mean you don't fancy your partner?

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 10:37

Don't justify his behaviour I don't want video's half dressed naked men.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 10:40

*watch

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 11:01

Just upsets me he's looking that's all I'm going to confront him when gets home from work.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 11:03

I wouldn't mind If he was watching big girls or big girls as well wouldn't make me feel as worthless.

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ChannelyourinnerElsa · 07/03/2023 11:23

This is not about him and his ASMR.

this is about you, you are really not well at the moment and I think you need more support and medical help, not a crash diet.

please don’t walk in front of a train because he looked at a slimmer woman, please don’t throw food at him because he cooked for you. It’s not rational, please go to your healthcare team.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 11:51

Him cooking food to me is a sign he wants me to eat so I don't lose weight to I'm going to try and talk without flipping my lid at him.
Just makes me feel why is he with me if he's into women like that??

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 11:55

I'd of thought other women would feel disgusted by the asmr crap but seems most think its normal for a man to treat his partner with such disrespect.
Ogling slim people when your with a larger person is wrong it's how to make me feel insecure.

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slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:06

He's watching/listening to ASMR videos, not necessarily ogling anyone or comparing them to you. He's making you food and grabbing your bum so he clearly find you attractive and doesn't care about your weight.

If you want to confront him then go ahead.

slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:07

Are you saying he has to change his youtube subscriptions depending on your size and weight? Also, if the screencap of the channel above from his account?

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:09

Yes it is from his account I screenshoted it from there.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:15

Found more nearly naked

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:18

And this.

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slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:19

Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:09

Yes it is from his account I screenshoted it from there.

Not one of those videos in any of the screenshots have a red line at the bottom, meaning that they have not been watched on that account.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:22

There of on his channel I haven't actually logged into his account so it won't show.

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slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:22

Also, the last video on that Yuesheng account is from almost 3 years ago and has 500 views.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:23

He's still been searching other women up we've been together 14 years he never used to look at this shit.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:25

90% are females hardly wearing any clothes and all slim.

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slashlover · 07/03/2023 12:26

It says subscribed on the Yuesheng screencap so you clearly are logged into an account unless you have subscribed to her under your own account.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:27

I'm logged onto my own account I pressed subscribe by mistake I typed in his username and clicked on channel and found all these women.

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Kelly4871 · 07/03/2023 12:29

I can see his photo on the top it is his channel I'm looking at you can see what people are subscribed to on there channels

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