#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Ah that's good news about copy of the tests results for free stork. Hopefully you won't need anymore plans after July!

Welcome persipan sorry about the miscarriages 😔 you've found a fab support group with us though :)

Ooh Phoenix that sports evening sounds fun, enjoy the drinking while you can 🥂

Down to last pill

Hi StorkAhoy!

Basically, the way egg share IVF works is that another woman/couple who need IVF themselves choose to donate half of the retrieved eggs, and they get their own treatment free (or reduced, in some clinics, but at my clinic it's free for them). The fee the recipient (me) pays covers their treatment, plus the monitoring, meds and embryo transfer costs for me. So, it's a fair bit more expensive than ordinary IVF (but, to be honest, my own-egg cycles ended up fairly pricey because I needed sooooo many meds, so it's not that much more). To be a donor, there are some restrictions (eg below a certain age, likely to respond reasonably well to stims, and so on) - it's an option single women and same-sex couples often pursue.

Welcome persipan
That sounds really interesting. Ive not heard about that before. Fingers crossed the time flys by for you.
Pickle.....last pill!!!! 🤓🤓🤓🤓
I've just been to boxing as probably the last high intensity exercise I can do for a wee while as iui should be Fri or sat now.
💪💪💪 love the boxing class for getting rid of stress

I wanted to do egg share but even with AMH of 9 they said I probably wouldn't produce enough eggs so wasn't allowed. I really liked the idea of it tho. So pleased they have already matched someone too you :)

Ooh not long to go Munro, hope this cycle is the lucky one :)

I know 1 to go then new countdown starts to Tuesday and so on....never ending eh?!?!!

FRER are on offer in Superdrug at the mo if anyone needs.... £8.49 instead of £10.49 for 2

What we need is some PMA and today I am feeling strong in the power of "I am":
I am grateful for all the wonderful things in my life, particularly this support group.
I am a strong woman with juicy eggs and a nuturing womble.
I am in perfect time for all life's blessings.

WIth IVI so far so good:
Magic potion - they match for you based on your features (bit of a bummer for the brown eyes but they are the dominant gene) and most of their donors are Spanish
Same for eggs.
Just do not know about BMI restrictions - will discuss options etc on 8 May, in the meantime will type up my treatments so far - may even do a whizzy spreadsheet a la @pickle162

Welcome @Persipan!!! Remember you are nice and juicy!
Sorry about the MCs

@kwick, so nice to hear so much PMA in the morning, you go girl and get your kwickito 🇪🇸!

I'm defying all fears today and rocking a white pencil skirt to a conference! Call me crazy

Thanks Kwik I'm feeling the PMA today as well. Think I was just missing out on sleep. I sort of mentally shut down when I don't get enough sleep I think!

Welcome @Persipan!

pez you are a brave lady!!!!

I was soooo feeling the PMA this morning but the forum I was at this morning was boring and artic and I kept on getting emails with problem after problem... I cannot to finish with my old job!!!
The careers fair in the afternoon has has much fewer participants than previous years so was a bit boring too.
I am now in a taxi hoping to make my train - I did not leave on time as my luggage was locked in a colleagues car and there keys were with their son (long story) and then the taxi could not find me.
My feet are really sore and my gammy leg is hurting... 😰

Thank you for the pma kwick. I hope you catch your train.

TMI alert
I'm happy to say that I'm on the way back home with no leakage of any sort to report - I was more worried about progesterone pessaries than a possible MC. I'm blaming pregnancy brain, a white skirt, what was I thinking??!!!

Hi everyone and sorry I forgot to welcome our latest new joiners (blaming the pregnancy brain again because it's my latest excuse for everything!)

Hello

I stepped away from the thread for a few weeks whilst deciding whether or not to go for it. It's all I can think about so today I called up and booked my initial consultation appointment.

So, May 17th for a chat and to probably include an internal scan.

Gotta be in it to win it.

Welcome back tygr, I can't remember your circumstances-have you tried before?
Glad you have you appointment booked tho:) let us know how you get on

Well peeps I HAVE NO PILLS LEFT TO TAKE 😁😁😁😁

Nope. First time TTC ever ever ever.

I'm really behind with the thread. Haven't read it at all recently so congratulations and commiserations where they're due.

There is a little spreadsheet that there is a link too at the front of this thread should give u a bit of a heads up
Eeek excited tygr I'm just about to start my first ever ever cycle-beyond excited 😊

Hello Tygr welcome back

Very excited for you and pickle ( yay re last pill!!) fingers crossed for both of you with your first cycles xxx

Just going to read rest of thread to catch up xx

Kwick great to hear you have a new job yay! Hopefully that old job will have a replacement soon( and it sounds right that you are irreplaceable- annoying how work never realises until you leave!) love the PMa!

Pez proud of the white skirt - I'm loose black trousers all the way at moment with bloating haha. Glad to hear pee pain is better xx I thought I would cry with relief when I went to viability scan but I actually needed to fart through most of it and was mostly concentrating on not so I wouldn't ruin moment ( mum was there) or totally disgust the nurse. Haha I blame pregnancy wind but you might want to go to loo before hand and do some lunges to expel any wind 💨 lol

Welcome perispan it's great to hear of a new journey and how varied all our journeys are.

Munro very exciting to hear your iui is coming up in next day or two. I imagine you have already read the kwick list of to dos post iui ;) . I did line dancing for first time this week. I really enjoyed it and was high intensity for me as I was sweating at the end haha I did worry if I had overdone it but it's only stepping to music so surely that's ok lol

Karen glad scan went well, your boss sounds like a dick. Glad your doctor reassured you and keep going with your instinct. Oh and if mowing the lawn works for you feel free to come and now mine after your doctors ;)

Shoes I think little shoes is showing they know their own mind already! Best of luck for cs next week you must be soooooo excited now xx

Miri so sorry to hear your latest speed. That must be hard to take in but Fingers crossed for your little one in 2018 xxx

Stork hello love xx what happened with your notes with fc- did you get them transferred?

Phoenix wow getting close now - hoping af comes soon x

Angliski hello welcome ( sorry I'm a tad late) life coach is just what I need too. Gosh we have some great talent on this thread now!

Ok I'm going to stop going back now through thread but hello to everyone else and I'll be better at logging in so I can keep up to speed with everyone's posts xxxxxxx

Hopeful so glad your viability scan went well! You made me laugh about the farting thing though!!!

Some of you lovely ladies have asked for think to my addiction to beauty products thread - sorry have no idea how to link on Whatsapp so here you go:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/2860739-Ashamed-of-my-beauty-product-hoard-part-5

Yes pez what were you thinking???????????? I have a pair of white capri pants and I have to be very careful when I wear those!

Right better do some work.... Thank God it is Friday!!!!

Checking in. I've just booked an appointment with our clinic, hoping to go for IUI. I've miscarried in the past (previous partner) and had a slightly odd few months of being 'investigated' by the NHS. DP and I have donor sperm saved with the clinic, but it can't be used after August 2017 so frankly I think my chances there are slim. A bit fed up as I was referred to the NHS miscarriage testing in January, and I just got hold of a letter a couple of weeks ago, sent from the hospital to my GP in February, basically saying that they don't expect to find any actual treatable conditions beyond what we knew already, but they'll see me in June for a 'reassuring' debrief as I might as well just try IUI. No one had bothered to pass this info on to me, mind - I just knew I was meant to be waiting for more tests.

I would have been a damn sight more 'reassured' if they'd just told me I could crack on with IUI. It seems I probably have antiphospholipid syndrome, which increases risk of miscarriage, but nothing else obvious. Still, we're very lucky to have the NHS, so ...

LRD - I'm being treated for APS in pregnancy. It's easily managed with heparin and Aspirin. I found out I probably have APS as I was treated after having a miscarriage and two chemical pregnancies. I'm now 38 weeks pregnant so it can be done!

Should read 'tested' not 'treated'!

I'm behind on the thread yet again! I hope everyone is ok

Thanks, shoes - that's what I had understood, that it was quite easily managed. Very glad to hear treatment's worked so well for you. 38 weeks! How lovely. Congratulations.

hopeful hi! So I emailed them back and asked if I could just get my bloody test results, and they said yes, so am getting those, but my new fc will prob want to re do them anyway, or at least some of them.

And blimey you made me laugh with the wind in the willows story!

Miri nice to see you back, sorry about your latest news, even if you don't need the tubes that's a bit of a shock. I hope your follow up appointment was ok.

Pez your clinic are an administrative disaster! Did you get any other notes through?

Shoes which day is your c section?

Karen glad your scan went well and you got a note. Has it worked?

Welcome Persipan. Great it's moving so quickly. Stork and Ever I think it's worth having one last shot so you know you've exhausted that option but if it doesn't work there is every chance that donor eggs will.

Kwick so pleased you have an appointment sorted with IVI. Short week next week so it will hopefully whizz around.

Pez I don't think I even own anything white. I'd inevitably get food on it or get splashed on my bike or muddy cat paws or something.

Tygr great you've made a decision. My decision process was to just sit with the idea for a few months and see if it went away. It didn't!

Pickle the countdown app must be working overtime!! I really need to figure out my finances and get my own countdown started.

Hi LRD - when you say "checking in" I'm not sure if you're brand new here or just posting under a new name. So welcome, or welcome back!

Hopeful glad your scan went well. Have seen you pop up on a couple informer threads and just wanted to say, in case you're not already a member, the Donor Conception Network is really useful for hearing about the stories of donor conceived children. They also do telling and talking workshops - it sounds like you're giving that quite a lot of thought, so just thought I'd mention it.