AIBU to think DS and SIL shouldn’t be commenting on DS’s bottle?

[AmpleFish]

title should say DB rather than DS!

DS (just turned 4) has always taken a bottle of milk to bed and had one in the morning when he wakes. We brush his teeth afterwards and his dentist hasn’t mentioned it so assuming all is fine.
This weekend my brother came down to visit from Scotland. He and SIL made repeated comments to me and DH about how DS was too old to be having a bottle.
AIBU to think he should stay in his lane? Particularly when he and SIL have a 2.5 and 3.5 year old and neither are potty trained! I think they need to take some of their own medicine before commenting on others!

Yes he is too old for a bottle
And 3.5 yer old should be going though potty trg

Is he going to go to school saying he has a baby bottle?

He’s got nearly a year until school and he only has it at night!

Well 3.5 is late to potty train but not that far outside the realm of normal, 4 is very old to be having two bottles of milk. My DS is also 4 and loves milk but he has a cup of milk in the morning. Does your DS need it in the bottle?

YABU re the bottle.

They ABU not training a 3.5yo

A bottle isn’t good for his teeth, could he not just have the milk in a normal cup?

Both are unusual situations though, a 4yo with a bottle and a 3.5yo not potty trained. My daughter has been really attached to her bedtime bottle as well but accepted milk from a cup after some short transition

You said he has one in the morning too. Why haven’t you weaned him off them?

Why does he have so much milk? Does he not eat well?

You’re as bad as each other. Ditch the bottle, he’s four!

Why though? What’s the benefit, it’s just a habit. Lots of things with small children are habits and it’s up to us parents to break the habit in line with their development.

Why can't he have a cup? My almost two year old has a straw cup of milk before bed.

Yabu about the bottle. They're bu about the not potty training.

You both should change lanes.

4yo needs to use a cup.

3.5yo needs to be potty trained.

We brush his teeth afterwards and his dentist hasn’t mentioned it so assuming all is fine.

Are you waiting for damage to occur then?

I mean by the time the dentist says anything it’ll be too late 🤷‍♀️

He is far far too old for a bottle. Some children are ar school at the age of 4.

Yep. None of their business. As bad parenting decisions go this is sooooo minor. Processed food is much worse but how many parents give their kids that every day but somehow bottles and dummies are hugely frowned on.

Also …..: I note you didn’t ask our opinion in your child having the bottle, just people commenting on it. Which I agree - none of their business.

Whilst they're staying DB could ween your DC off bottle and you could potty train 3.5yo, all sorted 😂

A four year old shouldn't be drinking from a bottle and 3.5 year old should be potty trained. Both parents need to parent.

This. Two clear examples of lazy non parenting.

Not at all, I guess it’s just a comfort thing for him

No reason I just thought it was a relatively harmless thing to keep so let him have it

You said he has it morning and night. Swap it out for a cup - much better for their teeth development

4 is far too old for a bottle.

Even if there’s no obvious tooth decay it’s bad for the overall alignment and development of his jaw.

A three year old should already be potty trained. I was so worried mine wouldn't be ready for nursery at three, so I was determined, and set about reading what I needed to do.

Change your 4 year old to a sip type cup perhaps ?

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You and your DB are lazy parents!
Get rid of that bottle, for goodness sake!