AIBU to think DS and SIL shouldn’t be commenting on DS’s bottle?

[AmpleFish]

title should say DB rather than DS!

DS (just turned 4) has always taken a bottle of milk to bed and had one in the morning when he wakes. We brush his teeth afterwards and his dentist hasn’t mentioned it so assuming all is fine.
This weekend my brother came down to visit from Scotland. He and SIL made repeated comments to me and DH about how DS was too old to be having a bottle.
AIBU to think he should stay in his lane? Particularly when he and SIL have a 2.5 and 3.5 year old and neither are potty trained! I think they need to take some of their own medicine before commenting on others!

You’re lucky your dc had no issue with potty training

Signed a mum whose dc soiled himself for years and didn’t tell anyone

No I didnt mean it like that

Ffs other people neglecting their child doesn't justify YOU neglecting YOUR child. It's not to race to the bottom. One neglectful act does not justify you doing the same. Why have children if you don't want to parent them?

So you made up a story to make you sound better cool.

Also think about all the disabled people in the world that are incontinent and see if they would like to be described as sitting in their mess all day 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

how does drinking from a bottle for one minute at night impact a jaw?

Hi op, Yanbu for pointing out pot calling kettle black.
my son is nearly 4 and still has a bedtime bottle and a dummy to fall asleep with (removed after he is asleep). It brings him lots of comfort and will be a big challenge to remove and him getting a good settled sleep is a higher priority for me now than him being grown up but crying in sadness. I will get on with them both in the new year but don’t feel like you’re the only one!

You still give your kid a bottle with a teat to drink from at 4 years old.

At this rate it will be the kid telling you this is odd!

As if he only has it for a minute. If he has it for that short a time he may as well have the milk in a cup

I don’t think you’re lazy and neglectful based on this op he clearly likes it and brings him comfort and I’m sure you’re progressing him in lots of ways, he won’t still be having a nighttime bottle when he is 12 he will naturally stop this, or you will before he starts school. Everyone is being a bit dramatic over how someone drinks their drinks.

One of our local woods has a dummy drop off, where the bairns can leave their dummies for the Fife/Kinross-shire fairies.

https://www.thecourier.co.uk/fp/news/perth-kinross/984453/video-families-flock-to-new-fairy-trail-set-up-by-fife-grandfather-in-kinross-shire-woods/

Why do you treat him like a baby Op.

I’m with the minority here but I think having milk is good for them. I don’t see the bottle doing much harm if they’re drinking it in a couple of minutes. It’s not the same thing as having a dummy. I think getting the vitamins and minerals from the milk outweighs it.

Their kids might not be potty trained but he is too old for a bottle

What do you think he’s doing, gulping it down?

also no one is saying he should not have any milk, it’s rhe bottle,

How do you know they don’t bother with potty training at all?

But why do you need it to be worse? There both shit parenting but you are absolutely desperate that your brothers parenting has to be worse than yours for validation, it’s embarrassing

Years too old for a bottle.

On the one hand, none of their business, on the other, I think you can expect comments from people when they see a child of that age with a bottle. And yes, a 3.5 year old still in nappies is pretty poor.

Both of you are lazy patents and letting your children down.

Sounds like you and your family could do with keeping opinions to yourselves. Whats it to them that ur 4 year old has a bottle and what’s it to you that their child isn’t toilet trained ? Just all shut up and keep your thoughts to yourself

This has been such an interesting read. Both my kids were potty trained by 2 - oldest child just after 24 months, youngest just before. It was expected at the time and there were few issues, timing v much aligned with childminder and nursery expectation. This was 2001 and 2004.

My eldest had a bottle forever but by the end it was little different to a water bottle - no real sucking involved, cut off (chewed,off really) teat. She has never drunk milk since.

I think I disagree with many on here. Potty training imo is much more developmental than dropping a milk delivery method.

Drinking milk isn't the problem (unless it is filling them up too much so not eating nutritious food). It is what he is drinking out of that is the problem. Baby bottles are for exactly what it says on the tin, for babies

My DD had a baby bottle of milk at bedtime until she was almost 5.5 and was nearly half way through year 1 at school. DD has been properly parented, has met all milestones and is very well behaved. I just could not get her to give up the bottle. One night she was sick after her bottle and we had a chat about not having milk at bedtime anymore and she hasn’t had one since. It was her comfort.

At that age they could have gone on Rainbow sleepover, would she have taken her baby bottle with her?