AIBU to expect my daughter’s auntie to ensure she gets home safely at 3am?

[Littlek0406]

My DD who has just turned 18 is expected to get home by herself and her Auntie run pub. I’m talking about 3 o’clock finishes, in a national chain of pubs, in a rough area in city Centre Liverpool.

I was expecting her Auntie to drop her off when she had 3 o’clock finishes, but no she’s expected to walk up and get an Uber. I would give her daughter a lift home without a question.

I can’t say anything because myself and her father are split up and it would end up being a massive argument. I would be saying as a father, she should be dropping her off 😡

Yes but she can't now - so saying that she would do the same in a reversed situation is nonsense isn't. She can't reciprocate. I would like to be scrum half for Wales, but I am 47 with screwed sinuses, so unlikely to get the call up! I USED to play rugby - for 20 years in fact - but it doesn't make me championship material now.

When our son worked in pubs late night this was the norm.
However an fd was working in a nearby city and her uber home was a large percentage of her wage!

I've got an idea. The Op can volunteer to work for free on the same shifts as her dd/
That way she can walk back with her dd, or get an Uber together and she can be happy that her dd is safe.

I'm sure she won't mind working for free. After all, family is family and if it helps family out, the Op has said she would do that.

But you CANT!

So why think you would offer! You literally never can! (unless rules change or your illness does!)

I'd give anyone ever who needed a lift in my helicopter, but I cannot fly a helicopter, and I dont have one, but I definitely would give anyone life anytime. So if you have a helicopter and a licence and you dont take me where ever and when ever I want to go, you are out of order

Yeah - OP you can take an uber, meet your DD and then come home together

My DB had a summer job when he was at uni in a city centre burger place. We lived in the suburbs but not rural. They arranged staff taxis for the late shift. This would have been around 40 years ago.

I did a few bar jobs 30odd years ago. Some did staff taxis some didn't

I wasn’t saying the aunt would pay for an Uber, I was saying you’re expecting the aunt to pay for your daughter’s transport home. Which you are-by expecting the aunt to use her time, use of car, petrol/tax/insurance to get her from work to home, whilst your daughter just sits there.

That is cheeky.