AIBU to think parents drinking heavily on a kids rugby tour is inappropriate?

[phoenix72]

I am currently on my DS's (11) weekend long rugby tour. It's the third day and I am thoroughly pissed off with alcohol being the focus rather than the kids or the rugby. The evening activities have been focused around drinking games (yesterday this was after a beach barbecue where the majority of parents were drinking) and the worst was the 'kangaroo court' last night where any perceived 'silly behaviour' or slight 'infraction' over the past rugby season by a parent resulted in taking a shot or downing a drink. Parents were penalised for their own actions and for their kids. By about 7pm most adults were so drunk they couldn't find their caravans, let alone their kids.

Most parents have been too hung over to spend time with the kids in the day or do any kid-friendly activities. In the afternoons and evenings they have been too drunk to look after their kids. This is not a one off - my DS has been to tour with three different rugby clubs and each one has been the same when it comes to tour.

AIBU to think this behaviour is highly inappropriate and irresponsible, and that it teaches the kids that getting completely wasted several nights in a row is acceptable?

I mean, when is the rugby happening?

A drink late in the evening yes, but not as you describe.

Though would probably be seen as normal were it the adults playing rugby and no children there.

Today is the rugby tournament day. I've already seen one clearly hungover parent visit the bushes to the side of the pitches to vomit.

rugger bugger behaviour

can they fit the full range of coins of the uk down their foreskin ? ( £2 coin made this trickier)

If this was an adult only weekend I would have no issue. But this is a weekend organised by a kids rugby team, for the kids.

I’ve been on several kids rugby tours over the years, I actually organised tour for the club one year. Adults having a few pints at the BBQ dinner was completely standard, we never had anyone getting completely shit faced though! I definitely didn’t see any parents throwing up in the bushes the morning after.

Precisely what why we decline such trips.

I think it’s completely inappropriate.

I don't think I'll be going again, which is such a shame as it should be such a great experience for the kids.

Lighten up!

Not worried about being outed are you?!

YABU and very ‘Anglo’. Kids sport is boring. Parents deserve light relief now and then believe it or not. I have many happy memories of being round family friends houses or at sports day and the parents getting tipsy while we ran around playing and enjoying the relaxed atmosphere.

Life is so uptight and dull now with so many rules. Unless the kids are so tiny as to need constant supervision, let them all have their fun.

I would hate all of that, and I don’t mind a drink! I would never attend one again. Feral behaviour and terrible for the kids to see and normalise. I’ve never understood that English Rugger Bugger behaviour. Blergh.

Not acceptable at all. However I can say that in kids hockey circles it's totally normal, along with a lot of extra-marital shagging. So I am not surprised with rugby being similar.

‘Kid friendly activities’ they’re bloody eleven!

I’m surprised the parents go along too,
to be honest. My kids’ rugby club has the coaches/admins supervising them - they go to a PGL or similar outdoor activity place for Friday afternoon and Saturday, then to a rugby club that’s holding a festival on the Sunday, where the majority of the parents will join them to support. Some of the parents choose to make a weekend of it and stay nearby beforehand, but don’t involve the children in their antics!

I agree with you OP. It all sounds rather crap for the kids.

YANBU, it's sounds completely inappropriate. What would happen if there was an emergency? No one objects to a few drinks to unwind in the evening, but people need to remain in control.

What's wrong with swimming, crazy golf, go karting etc? Most if which the adults are too hung over to join in with.

They can go by themselves, surely? At 11 I was commuting to school via train and walking through underpasses etc on a long route. I’m sure they can play crazy golf without adult supervision.

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I have no idea what you mean by "Anglo".

It's one thing being tipsy and another being too drunk to find your caravan with your kids in tow.

Unfortunately, site rules mean that they need a couple of adults from the group supervising.

What is "outing" about my post?

Can you do that as you’re not drinking? Then everyone’s happy.

Standard rugby scene behaviour in my experience. Exactly the same people who look down their superior noses at ‘loutish football fans’