14 yr old dating a 22 yr old. AIBU to think this is comcerning?

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My son is concerned as his female friend who is 14 is dating a 22 yr old man. He has just showed me her tik tok video and it is quite concerning.

AIBU to report it to school or get him too? Or is it none of our business and she can date who she wants.

Well she's underage isn't she but I guess it's her business what she does

That's not dating now, is it?

It's abuse. You don't have to ask this, surely?

Yes bring it to the attention of school.

Or is it none of our business and she can date who she wants
It would be none of your business if she was an adult. But she's 14!!! You need to report this.

Well she's underage isn't she but I guess it's her business what she does

What the fuck

Id report to school

What?!!

Yes OP you need to report this because if hey are sleeping together he is committing statutory rape .

So you'd like to know if you should turn a blind eye to child abuse?

That's a big age difference especially as she's still at school.
I think it depends how 'concerning' the tiktok video is. If there's a safeguarding concern, then it wouldn't hurt to inform the school but you may need to provide evidence. I'd like to think that if another adult knew my DC was doing something harmful, that they'd do something about it.

Definitely report it. This isn't "dating". She's a child

"Well she's underage isn't she but I guess it's her business what she does"

@Aretheyhavingalaugh are you having a laugh? Gross

Report it to school.
She's 14. She might think it's what she wants, but she is only 14 - she deserves to be protected from this older man taking advantage of her.

Don't think statutory rape is a thing in the UK. It is still an issue so either tell the school or her parents if you know them

"Yes OP you need to report this because if hey are sleeping together he is committing statutory rape ."

Yeah, that's not a thing.

That’s not dating ffs.
100% I would report to the school_ I’d also stipulate my sons name stay out of it!

I’m confused. What’s actually in that tictoc video?

Okay - well just rape then?

I’d probably report it. That’s a really big gap at such a young age, I’d be worried about why a 22 year old would want to be with a 14 year old.

Yay ignore the child being groomed, I mean what's the worst that could happen

She’s not dating, she’s being groomed and abused. Of course you should report it, to the school to begin with and if they do nothing then to social services.

Not statutory rape. Just rape. Let's not sugar it.
If they are sleeping together he is a rapist.

He’s a grown ass man.
She’s a child.
Theres a word for men like that.
Yes, it needs reporting!

The offence is called ‘sexual activity with a child’ and it’s absolutely illegal.

Why ? Report straight to SS

I can’t believe a parent would have to ask mumsnet if this is ok or not ffs

Is dating a euphemism for having sex ? Or ?