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Partner got someone else pregnant

216 replies

soontobe3244 · 06/02/2022 20:13

I don't know what to do partner got someone else pregnant kept it from me only found out when we had a argument drunk says he wants to be with me and loves me but I carnt take him back now how would I ever forgive him?

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Marmm · 06/02/2022 20:14

No you can't move past that really

Bellyups · 06/02/2022 20:15

It’s a no from me

Seafog · 06/02/2022 20:16

No, he needs to go.

romany4 · 06/02/2022 20:16

No.
That's game over in my book

PollyPepper · 06/02/2022 20:16

👋👋👋👋

DariaMorgendorffer · 06/02/2022 20:16

Not a chance would I be staying in this relationship.

AlDanvers · 06/02/2022 20:17

Yep it's a no, surely.

1FootInTheRave · 06/02/2022 20:17

It's over.

Faithtrusts · 06/02/2022 20:17

Just adding my no for the weight

litlealligator · 06/02/2022 20:17

I think you need to change the title to "Ex-partner"

mumof2andstillsurviving · 06/02/2022 20:18

I know someone who had something similar happen to them. They split for a while and are now back together and co parent the child with the mum, having the child for half of the week. They managed to get past iand seem happy.

Proudboomer · 06/02/2022 20:18

Ex partner

Proudboomer · 06/02/2022 20:19

Oh and get yourself a STI check as god only knows where he has been sticking his dick

Allpenguinsarepingus · 06/02/2022 20:19

Oh fuck that. I would dump.

mumof2andstillsurviving · 06/02/2022 20:19

Not sure I could do it though. Having stayed on a relationship following cheating, the doubt is always there

romdowa · 06/02/2022 20:19

So he cheated on you, even if he hadn't have gotten someone pregnant it would still be over for me

Florelei · 06/02/2022 20:20

I’d rather be alone.

TheChip · 06/02/2022 20:20

Yeah, I dont know how you could move past that.

nancy75 · 06/02/2022 20:20

I know some people do stay in this situation but I personally couldn’t.
If he doesn’t want anything to do with the child he’s a bastard & if he does see the child it’s a reminder of what he’s done for the rest of your life.

Original poster
soontobe3244 · 06/02/2022 20:21

I have no idea how to change it now and yes I no is it silly to even want to try? We have to dc together been together 8 years

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Ginger1982 · 06/02/2022 20:22

Was this during your relationship or were you 'on a break' as they say?

Piggyk2 · 06/02/2022 20:22

So he couldn't even tell you Sober OP?

F that! It's a huge ask and I would not be putting myself through that type of trauma.

Original poster
soontobe3244 · 06/02/2022 20:23

He says he dosent want anything to do with the child and already told her this

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Original poster
soontobe3244 · 06/02/2022 20:23

On a break as they say but he came back and never mentioned anything to me the baby due in may only found out last night

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Whatthefrigisthis · 06/02/2022 20:24

Shit. That's horrendous.

I couldn't and wouldn't be able to move past this.

I am so sorry for you op.