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Caught short

205 replies

cockcrowfarm · 29/12/2020 17:08

I had a very embarrassing incident this morning. I was out walking with my 1.5 year old daughter in the pushchair and I needed to pee urgently. I walked towards the nearest shopping center but about 5 minutes away from it I felt like my chances of making it there were about 50/50, and even less of successfully getting my belt, jeans and pants down if I made it to the loo. I started looking for somewhere to go. There was a short street with an old bar that looked shut for years and a bit of wasteland with bin bags and some dumped household rubbish. It wasn't private exactly but I was really desperate so I quickly peed on the grass, sorted myself out and walked on. A woman from flats nearby started shouting out of her window at me, from the 2nd or 3rd floor. I walked round the corner quickly and continued towards the shopping center. She came running after me down the street in her pyjamas and dressing gown and said I was filthy and her children play there. All I could say was sorry, sorry, sorry and walked away quickly, she said she took a photo of me. I was really shaken after this, it happened just before 12 this morning. Obviously people shouldn't be peeing around everywhere but I was in serious danger of not being able to make it to a toilet. I also wonder if she would have the same reaction if I were a man. If there is such an emergency, isn't it reasonable to find somewhere to go? I didn't drop tissue there, just peed and got off. AIBU?

OP posts:
Meepmeeep · 29/12/2020 17:10

Why the fuck did you need to share this? If true, of course it’s disgusting.

Whatisthisfuckery · 29/12/2020 17:11

Cool story bro. Well done for typing so much with just the one hand.

ghostyslovesheets · 29/12/2020 17:12

aye - okay - thanks so much for sharing

nimbuscloud · 29/12/2020 17:13

Good on that woman. She was right.

Original poster
cockcrowfarm · 29/12/2020 17:13

It is unfortunately true. I wanted to get some opinion on it. I felt terrible about it but after when I was thinking about it I don't know what else I could do in the situation. There are a lack of public toilets and there are many reasons that some one might have to go.

OP posts:
Meepmeeep · 29/12/2020 17:14

Is your name Edith?

Original poster
cockcrowfarm · 29/12/2020 17:15

OK so I was wrong, I knew that in the first place obviously! But if I saw the same I would have thought maybe she had a problem, pregnancy or perhaps weak after child birth.

OP posts:
KatieGGGG · 29/12/2020 17:15

More public toilets don’t mean there would be any closer to you and the 5 minute away shopping centre.

MillieVanilla · 29/12/2020 17:15

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Original poster
cockcrowfarm · 29/12/2020 17:16

@Meepmeeep

Is your name Edith?
Edith? Sorry I miss the reference
OP posts:
Sargass0 · 29/12/2020 17:16

Wear Tena pants next time

Ponoka7 · 29/12/2020 17:17

There's nothing else that you could do. Tje woman's children are more in danger of the bin bage and discarded rubbish than a bit of wee that will get washed away in the rain.

vodkaredbullgirl · 29/12/2020 17:18

Ha Ha very funny, especially the part where the woman in her pjs chased you down the road.

ArtemisBean · 29/12/2020 17:19

If you genuinely can't make it to a toilet in time, you need to see a GP. Nobody should have to resort to weeing in the street or wetting themselves!

Ponoka7 · 29/12/2020 17:19

@MillieVanilla, perhaps search the OPs user name rather than troll hunt, which is against the guide lines. Or report the thread.

PistolKnight · 29/12/2020 17:19

Of course this happened Hmm

Original poster
cockcrowfarm · 29/12/2020 17:19

@Sargass0

Wear Tena pants next time
It is the only time it has happened, I don't think I'm ready for adult diapers
OP posts:
HotSince63 · 29/12/2020 17:19

Have you checked your local community Facebook group? Your picture is probably doing the rounds.

You should probably book yourself a GP appointment.

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LilyMumsnet · 29/12/2020 17:19

Hi folks

Just popping by to say the OP has been around for a while - can we remember that troll hunting is against talk guidelines?

TingTastic · 29/12/2020 17:22

WTF. Of course it would have been the same reaction if it was a bloke

LST · 29/12/2020 17:23

OP I have been caught short many a time. Normally on walks in remote areas though. I can't see what else you could have done apart from piss yourself so I dont understand why you're getting such a hard time!

SilverBirchWithout · 29/12/2020 17:24

It is a bit of a grey area, but urinating in public is potentially illegal. Quote from an online source:

*Outraging public decency-

This offence is prosecuted between 400-500 times in the UK per year. It can lead to an an unlimited fine and prison term.

According to inbrief.co.uk, to be guilty of this offence….

you must carry out an act which is lewd, obscene or of disgusting character, which outrages minimum standards of public decency as assessed by the jury;
the act must take place in a public place, or a place which is accessible to, or within view of, the public;
the act must take place in the actual presence of two or more persons who are capable of seeing it – it is irrelevant whether these people actually saw the act or were outraged by it.
Prosecutions are rare.*

SpudulikaSlob · 29/12/2020 17:24

Weeing in public is illegal because it damages property, literally erodes brickwork.
Get a she-wee and then you wouldn't be exposing yourself. But I do agree that we need more public toilets.

winewolfhowls · 29/12/2020 17:26

If you gotta go you gotta go, if you've never had this problem think yourself lucky. Plus having a little one with you restricts where you can just nip to.
When I was younger there were so many more public toilets, manky but at least there if you were desperate.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 29/12/2020 17:26

Not sure why all the ridiculous responses.
Suddenly finding yourself desperate for a pee is horrible, and embarrassing. Of course you weren't being unreasonable-what else were you supposed to do other than wet yourself?
Don't give it another thought. Just make sure have a wee before you go out in future Thanks