Caught short

[cockcrowfarm]

I had a very embarrassing incident this morning. I was out walking with my 1.5 year old daughter in the pushchair and I needed to pee urgently. I walked towards the nearest shopping center but about 5 minutes away from it I felt like my chances of making it there were about 50/50, and even less of successfully getting my belt, jeans and pants down if I made it to the loo. I started looking for somewhere to go. There was a short street with an old bar that looked shut for years and a bit of wasteland with bin bags and some dumped household rubbish. It wasn't private exactly but I was really desperate so I quickly peed on the grass, sorted myself out and walked on. A woman from flats nearby started shouting out of her window at me, from the 2nd or 3rd floor. I walked round the corner quickly and continued towards the shopping center. She came running after me down the street in her pyjamas and dressing gown and said I was filthy and her children play there. All I could say was sorry, sorry, sorry and walked away quickly, she said she took a photo of me. I was really shaken after this, it happened just before 12 this morning. Obviously people shouldn't be peeing around everywhere but I was in serious danger of not being able to make it to a toilet. I also wonder if she would have the same reaction if I were a man. If there is such an emergency, isn't it reasonable to find somewhere to go? I didn't drop tissue there, just peed and got off. AIBU?

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@caringcarer

If you can't control your bladder you should not go far from your house. Do you have an infection that is making you desparately needing to wee? You need to see your GP urgently if you can't walk 5 mins to a shopping centre and have to resort to weeing in public. That is disgusting. Wear a Tena lady if you need to go out again until you get it sorted. Hopefully your GP can refer you to a urinary specialist. You might want to work on pelvic muscles. Not nice for residents to look out of windows and see people weeing in public.

Disgusting attitude. Bladder problems are incredibly common as women age and can destroy quality of life. If I were to follow your rules I wouldn't have left my house since the age of 30. Hope it never happens to you.

OP it's far from ideal but what can you do? It's happened and you couldn't help it, you held it as long as you could and it's not like you did it to upset people.

I went through a year of suffering from sudden very painful UTI's. We had bad snow and got stuck at the bottom of a hill with no cars being able to move and I had to go in a bottle in the footwell of our car (very very difficult!) and another time I had to go out in public like you did. It's not ideal but there is nothing you can do and it happens.

Don't feel bad and if the woman does post online deny, you could always say you was picking something up from the floor x

I have similar issues and the new Tena pull up style pants are a godsend. During lockdown, I’ve been wearing them whenever I’ve had to go out for anything more than a short walk.

OP I really dont understand the abuse you've
been getting. Do people not get that there is no alternative when that happens-you found best place you could in circs. Ignore the crazies is my advice.