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Does my wedding sound shit? Be honest

219 replies

inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:23

Hi all,

I just wanted to gather opinions on my wedding later this month. I didn't want a big do so went small and now it's getting closer, I'm scared people will think "well this is crap Hmm".

Basically, 19 guests in total. This is includes bride/groom and our child. Mainly family but also each of our best friends and their partners.

We are having the whole day/eve in a hotel.

We have a drinks reception following the ceremony, a three course meal, wedding cake, and pizza for later in the eve with drinks (all of this is in a private function room)

During the meal we have bottles of wine and beer paid for by us and a glass of fizz each for the toast. We have a small not exciting chocolate based favour for each guest. A gift for the b/g parents, best man and bridesmaid.

We don't have music entertainment as it seemed a bit over the top given the party size so we have arranged a playlist to be played over the speaker.

I'm worried guests will be bored?! Is there anything I can add? Am I missing anything?

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lmusic87 · 01/08/2019 12:25

Sounds much better than boring speeches and a 30k bill!

1984isHappeningNow · 01/08/2019 12:27

No it sounds perfect and stress free!

BiggerBoat1 · 01/08/2019 12:27

Sounds lovely.

PullingMySocksUp · 01/08/2019 12:27

Sounds lovely. My only thought would be do your friends know each other or your family at all?

smokeytoby · 01/08/2019 12:28

I would honestly love to attend a wedding like this, very personal!

If it were me, I would perhaps have a couple of games to play? Something silly but also fun after a few drinks, but that's just because it's the sort of thing my group of friends would love. I just imagine everyone in hysterics as the groom and his best man become tangled up playing twister. Not really appropriate for a big wedding, but as it's smaller I imagine it would work.

I honestly think as there is a 3 course meal and drinks and music, conversation will flow and it will be a wonderful day/night. I really hope you enjoy yourself and relax, it'll be fab! x

HulksPurplePanties · 01/08/2019 12:28

Sounds like mine and mine was lovely.

Chickychoccyegg · 01/08/2019 12:28

sounds great!!!

Original poster
inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:28

The friends haven't met, but they each know the sides of the family. So my friend knows my family, and stbH friend knows his family

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HeadintheiClouds · 01/08/2019 12:29

Sounds the exact opposite of shit. What do you feel is missing that your guests will expect?

IdblowJonSnow · 01/08/2019 12:29

Sounds nice and low key to me.
Are you having photos?
I would have crafting stuff for any kids and a quiz for adults.
I went to a fairly sedate family party last wkend which might have been a bit dull but the quiz really perked things up.
Have you asked your guests for their song suggestions? I quite like it when that happens.
Enjoy your special day. Wink

NameChange84 · 01/08/2019 12:29

I think that sounds like a lovely wedding!

If you are worried about people getting bored how about having some retro style games set up in a corner or a photo booth area with props and a Polaroid camera or something like that? Camera aside most of those things can be bought cheaply only or in stores like Home Bargains.

Herocomplex · 01/08/2019 12:30

sounds good to me! Very relaxed, plenty to eat and drink and a nice friendly group. Enjoy yourselves!

Maniak · 01/08/2019 12:30

Sounds nice. I wanted a small wedding but got pressured into a big extravaganza which I paid for and hated. So I'm a bit jealous tbh. These are people who love you. They'll make it great don't worry.

DubiousGoals · 01/08/2019 12:30

It sounds amazing inspired. Although I may be biased as my wedding was very similar!

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/08/2019 12:30

Sounds lovely, but why bother with the pizza part? Not a huge number of guests to mingle with for that long, no DJ (which btw I agree as to not having) and a three course meal. I would do the meal and cake and go home.

MostlyAmbridgeandcoffee · 01/08/2019 12:30

It sounds lovely x

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:30

Thank you everyone. As it's drawing nearer I'm just staring to panic everyone will be think it's rubbish ha!

I couldn't think of anything worse than a huge do. We just wanted our nearest and dearest but I'm worrying people will be all judgey that it's not a big flash event

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HeadintheiClouds · 01/08/2019 12:31

Honestly, not a quiz Hmm. Just let people chat, they don’t need to be forced to have fun, that really is shit.

NameChange84 · 01/08/2019 12:31

Heads Up on Ipad or phone is a great, cheap game for having a laugh btw!

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:31

I LOVE the idea of a quiz and guests picking the songs! Thanks SO much

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Nautiloid · 01/08/2019 12:32

Sounds absolutely lovely to me. Think you'll have a fab time. We had pizza in the evening and it went down a storm, it's been 15 years and I'm still bitter that I didn't get round to eating any of it. Enjoy your day.

moonpiggle · 01/08/2019 12:32

Thats a fab idea! It sounds lovely and stress free. Enjoy x

HeadintheiClouds · 01/08/2019 12:32

Now someone’s suggesting they all get their phones out! Bet you’re glad you asked, op!

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 01/08/2019 12:32

Can you get all the friends together for drinks/dinner before the wedding so that they'll know each other on the day?

pudcat · 01/08/2019 12:32

Sounds wonderful to me.