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Does my wedding sound shit? Be honest

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:23

Hi all,

I just wanted to gather opinions on my wedding later this month. I didn't want a big do so went small and now it's getting closer, I'm scared people will think "well this is crap Hmm".

Basically, 19 guests in total. This is includes bride/groom and our child. Mainly family but also each of our best friends and their partners.

We are having the whole day/eve in a hotel.

We have a drinks reception following the ceremony, a three course meal, wedding cake, and pizza for later in the eve with drinks (all of this is in a private function room)

During the meal we have bottles of wine and beer paid for by us and a glass of fizz each for the toast. We have a small not exciting chocolate based favour for each guest. A gift for the b/g parents, best man and bridesmaid.

We don't have music entertainment as it seemed a bit over the top given the party size so we have arranged a playlist to be played over the speaker.

I'm worried guests will be bored?! Is there anything I can add? Am I missing anything?

OP posts:
LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 01/08/2019 13:02

It sounds lovely to me, inspired.

I was just thinking, could you find out the favourite songs (quietly) of each of your guests and get all of those on the playlist... you could even announce it before the music starts, that everyone's individual favourites should be on there. Makes it very personal. let's hope nobody says 'The Birdie Song'

Your day will be perfect and everyone will enjoy it because it sounds so easy and stress-free. Kudos to you :)

Bluesheep8 · 01/08/2019 13:05

Sounds lovely op. I'd advise caution regarding spacehopper races or twisted though...mixed with alcohol, both those activities have got trip to a and e written all over them!

itssquidstella · 01/08/2019 13:06

Sounds lovely! With such a small group you can guarantee that everyone is there because they love and value you, so you don't need to impress them - they'll be happy to see you getting married!

BossAssBitch · 01/08/2019 13:07

Sounds lovely, OP, intimate and relaxed. I do think if it’s a long wedding your guests will appreciate having something to do..we went to a wedding last weekend, midday to midnight and to be honest it did get a bit boring as there was literally nothing to do but drink. We couldn’t wait for the disco to start but that was an evening thing. I don’t mean photobooths or candy carts, I had neither at my wedding (and mine was lovely :) but we provided entertainment and it went down very well.

(Just waiting now for someone to come on and post about how crap expensive weddings are, it’s so insulting, not to mention untrue, mine was expensive but it was the relaxed, happy atmosphere and lovely guests that made it priceless)

KendalMint · 01/08/2019 13:08

Sounds ideal to me.

Minimal stress plus a chance to actually socialise with your nearest and dearest on your special day rather than racing around trying to at least say hello to hundreds of guests.

CaMePlaitPas · 01/08/2019 13:09

It sounds so nice OP. I'm half ways tempted to ask for an invite myself. Enjoy your day x

nopinkprincess · 01/08/2019 13:10

Really nice! that's the kind I would have as well but haven't gotten round to planning. Might make it similar to your's ! Don't worry, be confident about it, just enjoy the day. You have made choices that are right for you!

Gamorasgran · 01/08/2019 13:12

We did this and it was lovely. We had about 30.

Ceremony was at 4 so we only needed a few rounds of sandwiches later. Elderly relatives and those who traveled drifted away by about 8/8.30. The rest of us stayed until we were done.

The hotel had a lovely garden and we got married in August so went between the 2. There was a pool table which our various brothers/dads loved. My dB got my mil totally pissed even though they'd never met.

So calm and low key. Have a fab day!!

MotherOfSoupDragons · 01/08/2019 13:13

Also wondering if the function room has doors to the outside so guests can have a wander. Might be a bit much if it's one of those internal ones. Are people staying over at the hotel? Sounds perfect.

NameChange84 · 01/08/2019 13:16

@HeadintheiClouds if your comment was aimed at me re phones - I didn’t suggest everyone get their phones out. I suggested a Charades type game which a group of people can play on one iPad or phone Hmm.

fernsfordays · 01/08/2019 13:17

Sounds perfect to me.

user1480880826 · 01/08/2019 13:18

It sounds really nice, but what are people going to be doing while they’re not eating? Normally when there are lots of guests there are lots of people to talk to and a variety of places to sit/stand in (garden, bar, at tables etc etc). So few people spending so long in one small room might get a bit boring.

Also, do you expect people to dance? Is there a dance floor and disco lights? A playlist really isn’t going to get people dancing in the same way that a good DJ would.

CatG85 · 01/08/2019 13:20

Sounds like a great wedding. Congratulations and have a lovely day x

TheNightof1000Fans · 01/08/2019 13:20

So you will all be sitting around one table all day long? You definitely need some activities to break things up a bit.

Spudlet · 01/08/2019 13:21

Sounds lovely! See if you can get a giant jenga set and a few other things like that and just have them set up - no need for compulsory fun, but it will be a good icebreaker as someone is bound to have a go. Twister also a good shout. That sort of thing.

Have a lovely day!

LightTripper · 01/08/2019 13:23

Sounds brilliant! One of my favourite ever weddings was my cousin's, which was a small registry office wedding (maybe 30-40 guests) and then an afternoon in a pub with wine and nibbles for the same people. It was such a lovely day, and because there weren't too many guests (and no loud music) we actually got a chance to talk to a wide range of people.

My sister did the quiz idea at her (non) wedding and that worked great! They had questions about the people there so it encouraged people to mix (lots based around anecdotes about the people e.g. "Who went on honeymoon with a fish?") That was bigger so it was nice to encourage people to mix and give people something to do during the milling about drinking part of the afternoon, but I think it could potentially be fun for a smaller group too. Obviously nobody had to do it who didn't want to!

Another rellie did the thing of leaving a polaroid camera on a table with a book to stick the pictures in and pens to write a message. That was fun and will have left them with a nice (slightly drunken - oops!) memento!

joystir59 · 01/08/2019 13:25

It sounds intimate,well planned and delightful.

whatevenisababy · 01/08/2019 13:26

Sounds exactly like my wedding and I had a great time - at the end of the day that’s all that matters! In the evening we just darkened the lights and turned up the music so people could dance if they wanted

Palaver1 · 01/08/2019 13:26

This is going to be just perfect because it’s what you want.I see no reason to pay thousands for a fickle wedding.I hope you’ll get a photographer good quality pictures are always lovely in years to come.
My mothers still got her album it’s a wind up one ,you wind it with a coin.the tune of here comes the bride plays as you look through the album.its almost 60 years old It gives her so much pleasure looking through it.

Nanamilly · 01/08/2019 13:28

It sounds like the makings of a lovely day. ❤️

WitsEnding · 01/08/2019 13:29

It sounds lovely, but it might be a long time in one place sitting on the same chair ... I'm not sure if I missed the time you are getting married. If I were a guest I'd be hoping to spend some time out of doors - is there a garden? There used to be an hour or so break during receptions, when the bride went off to change into her 'going away outfit' and the guests could stretch their legs, make their phone calls, and sober up a bit. Don't know if that still happens!

LadyRannaldini · 01/08/2019 13:29

Sounds great, you seem more concerned about the marriage rather than the wedding.

Paraballa · 01/08/2019 13:30

The only bit that sounds a bit rubbish is the lack of live entertainment. I think it will feel like sitting in a pub. I'd get a DJ so there's a live element but other than that it sounds lovely.

booklover164 · 01/08/2019 13:31

This sounds lovely. If it's what you want then who cares what others think? The best wedding I have been to are those where the bride and groom are clearly having a great time and not stressing about what others think. Enjoy!

KittyBaxter · 01/08/2019 13:31

Sounds fab!