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Does my wedding sound shit? Be honest

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:23

Hi all,

I just wanted to gather opinions on my wedding later this month. I didn't want a big do so went small and now it's getting closer, I'm scared people will think "well this is crap Hmm".

Basically, 19 guests in total. This is includes bride/groom and our child. Mainly family but also each of our best friends and their partners.

We are having the whole day/eve in a hotel.

We have a drinks reception following the ceremony, a three course meal, wedding cake, and pizza for later in the eve with drinks (all of this is in a private function room)

During the meal we have bottles of wine and beer paid for by us and a glass of fizz each for the toast. We have a small not exciting chocolate based favour for each guest. A gift for the b/g parents, best man and bridesmaid.

We don't have music entertainment as it seemed a bit over the top given the party size so we have arranged a playlist to be played over the speaker.

I'm worried guests will be bored?! Is there anything I can add? Am I missing anything?

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Al2O3 · 01/08/2019 12:33

It will be fine. With a small party I would suggest you sit round a single large table though. It will be intimate and the conversation will flow better and that’s what people will remember. Get lots of flowers round the outside and some soft lighting and candles to add to atmosphere. Also revolve people halfway through.

MadisonAvenue · 01/08/2019 12:33

The nicest weddings I've been to have been ones like this!

Congratulations, enjoy your day!

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:33

The main reason for pizza is I asked guests if they wanted nibbles with drinks later and it was a resounding yes. The hotel wouldn't allow outside catering and it was a choice of pizza or a full buffet. The buffet seemed a bit much after the dinner.

And yes, we are having photos :)

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Al2O3 · 01/08/2019 12:34

Yes and you want some games between meals.

Nottheduchess · 01/08/2019 12:34

My brother had a wedding like this and it was lush. After the meal we all sat in the bar and chilled.
I had a larger wedding and wish I hadn’t, spent all night trying to talk to people and hardly saw my DH.

frijolesssss · 01/08/2019 12:34

Sounds great! Feel confident!

Hairyheadphones · 01/08/2019 12:34

It does sound lovely but will you all be in the function room from 3 course meal to evening?
As already mentioned perhaps get some games to play.

Ragwort · 01/08/2019 12:35

It sounds lovely but do you really need the evening/pizza part? We had a very small wedding, followed by a nice lunch and then we left for our honeymoon and everyone else went home.

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:35

We have one big long, large table and have a floral centrepiece which covers the length (with space for the guests food at each end)

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Celebelly · 01/08/2019 12:35

The choosing a song is good - we went to a wedding where everyone did this (you returned your song choice with invitations) and it got everyone up and dancing and was a good conversation topic!

hsegfiugseskufh · 01/08/2019 12:35

sounds brilliant to me! x

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 01/08/2019 12:35

I really wouldn't do a quiz or party games or anything like that, some people might feel awkward. I think most people are happy to chat and have a few drinks.

WarmSausageTea · 01/08/2019 12:35

Sounds like a grand day to me.

HeadintheiClouds · 01/08/2019 12:35

It sounds perfect, op. Don’t let people talk you up into the sort of crap you’ve tried to avoid in the first place Smile

Yeahnahmum · 01/08/2019 12:35

I think it sounds great!

Except i would think that pizza isn't really celebration/wedding food. Doesn't have to be a 3 course meal dont get me wrong. But maybe just something a bit more festive? Cheese fondue? :) (love that myself hahaha )

And do get SOME music
Just a radio or a speakerset with some background music
Just to add a bit of atmosphere/romance

Enjoy your day it sound lovely

Celebelly · 01/08/2019 12:36

And yeah I would hate a quiz or any kind of organised fun.

Paddington68 · 01/08/2019 12:36

Sounds lovely.
People chatting, chilling,

Yeahnahmum · 01/08/2019 12:36

Oops only now see your other post re pizza

Parttimewasteoftime · 01/08/2019 12:38

Sounds lovely as someone else suggested maybe try and get friends to meet. But all sounds chilled it's what you want that matters enjoy 🍷

AsMuchUseAsAMarzipanDildo · 01/08/2019 12:38

Retro games sounds great to me...the best fun I had at a wedding was where they had Twister and spacehopper races, but would depend on age of your guests. We eloped but if we hadn’t I’d have done registry office, then fish and chips in a pub. Love a small wedding, it feels genuinely about celebrating a joining of families, instead of an exercise in Instagram likes.

Evennow · 01/08/2019 12:39

Sounds lovely and, most importantly, it's what YOU wat. If you think about having games, old fashioned bagatelle is good for all ages. Have a great day!

hannah1992 · 01/08/2019 12:39

My friends wedding was lovely. Only 15 guests. She didnt want a bug deal because her dad left when she was young and she hadn't seen him since and her mum dies when she was a teen and no grandparents either so she only had her brother as family.

Its was great. We all sat round a big table ate and drank and then some quick speeches. They played mr and mrs which is always fun. Then we had some music and drinks and dancing and a couple of other games.

Evennow · 01/08/2019 12:39

want, not wat!

Spotsandstars · 01/08/2019 12:40

It sounds awesom! I second getting some games to play.

PixieLumos · 01/08/2019 12:40

It’s about who’s there I think at the end of the day - as long as your family and friends are fun and chatty people who can have a good time together then it sounds great! We had a smallish wedding (40 in the day, 60 in the evening) and lucky for us our friends are family are all fun and up for having a laugh and dance - better than having 150 people if most are a bit stuffy and just sit in their chairs talking to only the people they’ve come with all night.

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