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Does my wedding sound shit? Be honest

219 replies

inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:23

Hi all,

I just wanted to gather opinions on my wedding later this month. I didn't want a big do so went small and now it's getting closer, I'm scared people will think "well this is crap Hmm".

Basically, 19 guests in total. This is includes bride/groom and our child. Mainly family but also each of our best friends and their partners.

We are having the whole day/eve in a hotel.

We have a drinks reception following the ceremony, a three course meal, wedding cake, and pizza for later in the eve with drinks (all of this is in a private function room)

During the meal we have bottles of wine and beer paid for by us and a glass of fizz each for the toast. We have a small not exciting chocolate based favour for each guest. A gift for the b/g parents, best man and bridesmaid.

We don't have music entertainment as it seemed a bit over the top given the party size so we have arranged a playlist to be played over the speaker.

I'm worried guests will be bored?! Is there anything I can add? Am I missing anything?

OP posts:
AquaPris · 01/08/2019 14:07

Could you play croquet in the grounds? Sounds lush.

@Dowser £5k is low cost??

ZebrasAreBras · 01/08/2019 14:08

I have been to a wedding exactly like this - and it was lovely. One of the nicest weddings I've ever been to.

momoftwo76 · 01/08/2019 14:09

Sounds absolutely perfect 😊

Daffodils07 · 01/08/2019 14:10

Sounds perfect, I'm sure you and your guests will have a fabulous day.

Derbee · 01/08/2019 14:11

This sounds perfect! Exactly my kind of wedding. Don’t panic, just enjoy it! Congrats

Noodledoodledoo · 01/08/2019 14:11

We had Lego games at our tables at our wedding - very loose lego theme. It was great ice breaker and broke up some of the time.

Maybe have some games to hand like Uno, Dobble, Banagrams, etc - games that can be played with a couple of people or lots more. Or things like Guess Who, Connect 4 etc.

Coulddowithanap · 01/08/2019 14:12

That sounds amazing.

As a guest who has previously been invited to a small wedding I felt really privileged to be invited rather than some in the past where we've felt we've been invited to make up the numbers!

We had some garden games set up as the smaller wedding, things like giant Jenga and swing ball.

PurpleFlower1983 · 01/08/2019 14:14

The day sounds lovely but I would perhaps organise something to liven up the evening.

Have a lovely wedding day!

theWarOnPeace · 01/08/2019 14:15

Sounds absolutely ideal to me!

Nonnymum · 01/08/2019 14:18

It sounds lovely. And I'm sure everyone knows it will be a small event so will k ow what to expect. Enjoy it!

Orangepancakes · 01/08/2019 14:18

It sounds wonderful Smile

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 01/08/2019 14:19

I went to a wedding exactly like this in Feb,it was lovely.Dont worry.

Nanny0gg · 01/08/2019 14:20

Sounds lovely
Not entirely sure why it needs livening up.

XXcstatic · 01/08/2019 14:20

Sounds great. One of the best weddings I ever went to was very small and we all went to the pub in jeans in the evening.

Pancakeflipper · 01/08/2019 14:21

I wouldn't worry about not knowing each other, with only 19 of you everyone is bound to end up chatting.
I'd love to attend a wedding like this. Sounds very relaxing and chilled.

Have the wedding you want and enjoy your guests. Not the one the wedding industry wants you to have.

Lindy2 · 01/08/2019 14:27

Sounds great.
Does the hotel have grounds/gardens that your guests could go and wander around if they wanted?
I'd enjoy what you are describing but I think I would probably also like to go outside and get some fresh air for a while rather than sitting inside in the same place all day.

fraxion · 01/08/2019 14:27

I can't stand formal weddings but I'd gladly attend one like yours, it sounds lovely!

NKFell · 01/08/2019 14:33

I hate weddings but honestly, yours sounds great and I would definitely go...and no doubt have the best time!

Original poster
inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 14:36

Sorry everyone - to answer the question.

Yes the hotel grounds has some lovely gardens (although not directly accessible from the reception room). I think a lot of our photos are out there and I won't be in anyway offended if people are popping in and out as the day progresses Smile

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Dolphinia · 01/08/2019 14:36

Sounds great to me. I’ve just been to what, on paper, I would have previously said would be my dream wedding. It was lovely but so detailed and complicated, and the organisation of it took over two years and god knows how much money. The bride was stressed to tears an hour before, stuff went wrong because there was so much of it and overall it just felt knackering. I have now decided something like your plan is perfect. That or elopement!

Cheeseoncrumpets · 01/08/2019 14:39

This sounds like my idea of a perfect wedding OP!

Joerev · 01/08/2019 14:42

I got married 3 months ago. I had 11 people. Including bride and groom. My day was perfect! We had a sit down meal. People finished about 12am. It was exactly what I wanted. And my husband.

ScrimshawTheSecond · 01/08/2019 14:43

It sounds lovely. I have an aversion to massive dramatic weddings. Small and low-key sounds just perfect. Have a great day. x

Zoowolla · 01/08/2019 14:44

Think about a shared party playlist that you give guests a code and you all access the same playlists. I went to a party with one - it was lots of fun. You still have overall admin so can move tracks and skip if you want.

I think from a google what we used was this or similar
festify.rocks/

ScrimshawTheSecond · 01/08/2019 14:44

Also went to a lovely family wedding that was: immediate family only; registry office; lunch; finit.

All warm, delightful and very low-stress, and over by 4pm.