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Does my wedding sound shit? Be honest

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:23

Hi all,

I just wanted to gather opinions on my wedding later this month. I didn't want a big do so went small and now it's getting closer, I'm scared people will think "well this is crap Hmm".

Basically, 19 guests in total. This is includes bride/groom and our child. Mainly family but also each of our best friends and their partners.

We are having the whole day/eve in a hotel.

We have a drinks reception following the ceremony, a three course meal, wedding cake, and pizza for later in the eve with drinks (all of this is in a private function room)

During the meal we have bottles of wine and beer paid for by us and a glass of fizz each for the toast. We have a small not exciting chocolate based favour for each guest. A gift for the b/g parents, best man and bridesmaid.

We don't have music entertainment as it seemed a bit over the top given the party size so we have arranged a playlist to be played over the speaker.

I'm worried guests will be bored?! Is there anything I can add? Am I missing anything?

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Chochito · 01/08/2019 13:36

OP, your wedding sounds amazing. It's the type of wedding I would want to have if I marry again and as a guest I would love to attend (I mostly find weddings a bit dull).

I would make 2 suggestions:

  • get a guest book of some sort for people to write in during the day
  • make sure there are plenty of drinks including water and soft drinks
BarberBabyBubbles · 01/08/2019 13:36

Sounds perfect to me! How about hiring a juke box? Then guests can choose songs and it’s informal and fun!

NottonightJosepheen · 01/08/2019 13:37

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BoomyBooms · 01/08/2019 13:38

Your wedding sounds brilliant! You've got all the important people there, they will be so happy for you you could take them to Greg's and have them eat it on a park bench and they'd still have a lovely day.

When I got married we had a small legal ceremony with 9 people total, followed by afternoon tea. There was also a big traditional style wedding a couple of days later which was meant to be the 'official' day, but actually the day eating tiny sandwiches with our closest family was the best.

Enjoy your day!

bernietaupinspen · 01/08/2019 13:38

That's my kind of a wedding Grin sounds perfect

MillicentMartha · 01/08/2019 13:39

Seriously, get a DJ for 16 guests? Hmm I don’t think so.

It sounds lovely, OP. I love a quiz and some silly games, but not everyone does. If you can get your respective friends together one evening beforehand, that might be helpful but don’t worry if you can’t.

justasking111 · 01/08/2019 13:45

Get some £1 coins and try to roll them to hit a bottle of wine is a game I have seen.

It sounds like a lovely wedding.

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 13:45

Thanks so much everyone. This has made me feel a lot better!

We have the room for the duration but I'd probably suggest moving to the main bar as time gets a bit later (and grandma probably goes to bed!). I'll probably get changed out of my dress and it'll all be quite relaxed.

Definitely going to have some thought into filling gaps but hopefully there'll be a lot of coneratikn

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 13:45

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Zippetydoodahzippetyay · 01/08/2019 13:47

Sounds perfect. And given that all the guests are people close to you and presumably familiar with each other, sounds like the making of a great fun party.

recklessgran · 01/08/2019 13:48

Op I'm from a really big family and because of that I've been to an awful lot of weddings. Only one was like yours and it absolutely stands out in my mind as the best wedding ever. You could actually feel the love in the room and let's face it - nothing can top that. I really hope you enjoy your day and i'm absolutely certain it will be brilliant. [By the way, you sound lovely OP!]

petbear · 01/08/2019 13:48

@inspiredfood

OMG that sounds actually amazing. What a lovely little wedding this will be!

I wish you HAPPY TIMES ahead. Grin

1forAll74 · 01/08/2019 13:50

It all sounds great to me.and to others on here too, so forget any worries ! have a lovely day.

Peanutbuttericecream · 01/08/2019 13:51

Your wedding sounds divine, enjoy. 🥂💐🎉

Knackeredmommy · 01/08/2019 13:51

Sounds great! Nice, intimate and chilled. Congratulations and enjoy Smile

ALittleBitAlexis · 01/08/2019 13:51

This sounds lovely! My only hesitation would be whether the function room is a good size for a small party - I recently went to a wedding where the room was far too big for the number of guests and it threw the atmosphere off. You've probably thought of that though, and especially if there's the option of moving to the main bar I think it all sounds ideal!

Justaboy · 01/08/2019 13:56

I really can't understand why these days people need to spend so much on a wedding important tho it is but when you hear figures of 30 odd £K thats boggling !! and also trying to afford a mortage and or paying a ungodly sum for rent!

Your do sounds just right:)

Now stop bloody worrying and enjoy yourself!

Do ya hear;!>

KUGA · 01/08/2019 13:56

Please don't worry.
It sounds like its going to be a wonderful informal cosy wedding to me.
Have a wonderful day.
AND myself and my DH wish you both a life time of happiness.
Bless you both.

avocadotofu · 01/08/2019 13:58

It sounds great as long as it what YOU want.

Doesitevenmatternow · 01/08/2019 13:59

This sounds amazing. It is the type of wedding I want and would love to attend. Everyone will get to chat together instead of little cliques.

Angeldust747 · 01/08/2019 14:00

It sounds lovely. Do you have a photographer/ friend with a good camera? We had a small wedding too, and had a family friend who is a photographer who came for a couple of hours and took some lovely photos, which I'm really glad about looking back x

ASundayWellSpent · 01/08/2019 14:00

Nope sounds lovely to me!!

Chochito · 01/08/2019 14:02

You could also make a few different playlists,

one or two for background while people are eating / drinking and chatting

one for if people feel like dancing

anything for the ceremony part

Kerrywerrywoo1 · 01/08/2019 14:02

It sounds small, intimate and lovely. My 2nd wedding my family started being twats so I told them all they were not invited...cancelled my plans and had all our friends over to our house for a reception with tea, cream cakes and banter......at 7pm everyone left and the overnighters stayed on for a Chinese takeaway. It was brilliant and everyone said for ages afterwards how nice it was. Sometimes it’s good to be different.

IggyAce · 01/08/2019 14:07

Sounds lovely. Do you have access to an outside area? Could perhaps get some lawn games, the hotel may already have some you can borrow/hire.