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Does my wedding sound shit? Be honest

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 12:23

Hi all,

I just wanted to gather opinions on my wedding later this month. I didn't want a big do so went small and now it's getting closer, I'm scared people will think "well this is crap Hmm".

Basically, 19 guests in total. This is includes bride/groom and our child. Mainly family but also each of our best friends and their partners.

We are having the whole day/eve in a hotel.

We have a drinks reception following the ceremony, a three course meal, wedding cake, and pizza for later in the eve with drinks (all of this is in a private function room)

During the meal we have bottles of wine and beer paid for by us and a glass of fizz each for the toast. We have a small not exciting chocolate based favour for each guest. A gift for the b/g parents, best man and bridesmaid.

We don't have music entertainment as it seemed a bit over the top given the party size so we have arranged a playlist to be played over the speaker.

I'm worried guests will be bored?! Is there anything I can add? Am I missing anything?

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SomewhereInbetween1 · 01/08/2019 14:52

We basically did this the day before our wedding. About 20 of our immediate family and closest friends, 8 large takeaway pizzas in my friend's closed shop with our own (ample) supplies of beer and fizz, surrounded by a playlist we made. Honest to god it was just as fun as the actual wedding the next day!

SARAJENKINS8282 · 01/08/2019 14:53

It's YOUR wedding and as long as you LOVE it and ENJOY it that is all that matters! Sounds like a lovely very personal and chilled day to me

WillowPeach · 01/08/2019 14:56

The only thing that ever makes me feel a wedding is boring is when there is nothing at all to do. Stuff like garden games, board games, quiz, etc, don’t cost the world but are options to entertain your guests if they wish

Forumqueen · 01/08/2019 15:04

I has a big wedding . Spent far too much and didn't even know half the people there / I wish I kept it small and Intimate like yours. It sounds lovely! I love small weddings. X

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 01/08/2019 15:11

It sounds lovely OP. Just if you can, try and make sure the room you are in after your ceremony isn't too big for the number of people, so people aren't lost in space.

We had a "big" wedding but just had a playlist over speakers, it's the best way to choose music you love :)

EdtheBear · 01/08/2019 15:12

Sounds good.

I like the idea of a few games, if nothing else it will make it better for your DC. If people play with them.

I'd also look at Spotify or another music streaming service. So you can get unlimited music, and get people on the floor dancing.

Are you having a first dance? That will help get the evening dancing started.

VeryQuaintIrene · 01/08/2019 15:12

Sounds an awful lot nicer than many larger-scale weddings I have attended. I hope you have a fantastic day!

CensorshipHereIsAJoke · 01/08/2019 15:13

We had 20 people at our wedding. We had the reception in a garden in a pub and had a bbq and a playlist. Only thing we went along with was the cake & cake cutting, no speeches etc. We had a free bar so didn't give out favours or gifts.

It was an amazing day :)

clarissa469 · 01/08/2019 15:17

This wedding sounds like my idea of heaven. Intimate, not too costly and quick. Can I come? Lol

coffeeaddiction · 01/08/2019 15:19

Sounds great , as a poster above said perhaps some games - maybe jenga and a couple of packs of cards ?

B00kworm86 · 01/08/2019 15:19

Sounds fantastic OP! Have a fabulous day!

Phimma · 01/08/2019 15:22

Sounds lovely and much like mine. Look forward to seeing the photos Smile

flyingspaghettimonster · 01/08/2019 15:22

Sounds very pleasant to me. I would probably bring a bunch of games so people could play things.

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 15:25

Nope, the room holds up to 25 so it's an ideal size for our group but also has space for cake cutting etc.

We won't be having a first dance (in fairness haven't really discussed this?!) as I thought it may be a bit strange? Given it's a small group?!

I'm also pleased nobody is commenting on the food/drink side which is good. I was worried in case we didn't enough from that side as we are stretching ourselves with what I've noted on my OP

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RockinHippy · 01/08/2019 15:31

We did a tiny wedding & even nearly twenty years later guests still say it's the best wedding they've been too as it was so relaxed & fun.

Honestly it's your day, enjoy, it will be just fine. Anyone who complains doesn't deserve an invite & out fir a free lunch, not to celebrate your wedding with you.

Chochito · 01/08/2019 15:32

Don't have a first dance unless you want one.

If you are maxed out budget wise on the catering, you could consider swapping your wines for slightly cheaper ones. There are loads of great websites that recommend wines (and you could do some tasting this week! Yummy). It's better to have enough wine than to have a small amount of expensive wine - this has definitely been a feature of weddings I've been a guest at.

AmateurSwami · 01/08/2019 15:33

Sounds fucking glorious, can I come?

2toe · 01/08/2019 15:35

This is very similar to mine a couple of weeks ago, it was really just a big family and close friends dinner with a ceremony thrown in. We got married at 3pm went to venue, everyone got a drink, settled in then we had dinner, a few more drinks and lots of laughter, all done and dusted by 10pm, no entertainment no first dance, no fuss and everyone had a brilliant time, we were all so relaxed. We paid for a three course dinner and all the drinks, just had music on in the background, everyone invited knows I don’t like fuss and I told them beforehand so they knew what to expect.

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inspiredfood · 01/08/2019 15:36

Hahaha, as much as I'd love you all to be there, I think it would take me over my budget and we'd all be sat at one one those enormous weddings we hate Grin

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RubbingHimSourly · 01/08/2019 15:36

I'd have games........card games or something. Or even one of those magicians who does tricks at the table.

Mind you, I sent my brother a game of twister down for his 50th which went down surprisingly well.

TheSharkInTheDark · 01/08/2019 15:46

OP this is exactly how my wedding was and I mean exactly down to the last detail! It was absolutely wonderful, we all had the best time!! I was wondering how we were going to fill the time, and thought it'd be boring for everyone so even thought up some games to play etc but honestly before we new it, it's was gone 11pm and everyone was buggering off to bed, me and DH stayed up having a drink and just chatting for a bit after. We didn't even play the games or anything just eating, chatting, drinking etc.

clarissa469 · 01/08/2019 15:50

Have a game of Mr & Mrs! Always a good laugh

ZebrasAreBras · 01/08/2019 15:52

Have a game of Mr & Mrs! Always a good laugh

Noooooooo! My family nearly came to blows over that game. Nearly caused divorces Grin Wink

Feelslikecrystal · 01/08/2019 15:58

Sounds very similar to my wedding. We had the best time & people still tell us it was the best they had been to. I don’t know if that’s true but don’t think family / friends would tell us that if it wasn’t.

Have fun & enjoy spending your day with the very special people in your life.

Fluffycloudland77 · 01/08/2019 16:00

We did what you planning, 9 years later family still make a point of telling us it was the best wedding they’ve been to.

We don’t fish for this either, so they’ve no need to say anything.