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To not want to shave anymore

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Grindelwaldswand · 21/02/2017 23:08

So recently I decided i couldn't be bothered with give myself a full Brazilian every few days so I stopped shaving apart from my legs and armpits but DP is driving me mental with his insistence that it's wrong and gross and he doesn't want/won't have sex with me till i shave it Angry i know Im not been unreasonable but he's driving me mental !! Its my bloody body not his

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Justmuddlingalong · 21/02/2017 23:10

His insistence! Tell him to fuck off.

SmellyHead · 21/02/2017 23:11

LTB

Geist · 21/02/2017 23:11

Tell him to feck off and you won't have sex with him until he grows up, never mind until you shave it.

5OBalesofHay · 21/02/2017 23:12

Tell him to shave his

OnHold · 21/02/2017 23:12

For real? And you are with him because?

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Grindelwaldswand · 21/02/2017 23:13

I told him the day he shaves his little forest then I'll consider it again but it's ok for men not to shave apparently Hmm
And im not leaving him over it he's amazing apart from being an immature twat over this one thing Grin I should have known a Ltb comment was going to pop up

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OnHold · 21/02/2017 23:13

He's not amazing.He's a twat.

Imavinoops · 21/02/2017 23:14

What a prat. I would be prancing around nude wiggling my nicely grown lady garden everywhere by now. It's your body so your choice. He needs to appreciate that and stop being a child.

HarrietSchulenberg · 21/02/2017 23:14

Ask him if there's a reason he prefers a grown woman to resemble a pre-pubescent child.

Isadora2007 · 21/02/2017 23:15

Enjoy the peace in bed and order a rampant rabbit?

His loss.

Justmuddlingalong · 21/02/2017 23:16

And im not leaving him over it he's amazing apart from being an immature twat who insists you're body is a particular way or he will withhold sex. Yeah, definitely sounds like a keeper Confused

SundialShadow · 21/02/2017 23:17

Seriously? Is this a wind-up?

If not, I would seriously reconsider any relationship where someone told me how to shave, groom or otherwise maintain my body.

Haven't shaved in over a decade besides some deforestation to stop himself choking in the forest Grin but (and this is importaint) that's MY CHOICE and not as a result of any pressure from a man.

Bambambini · 21/02/2017 23:17

Fuck him, I don't even bother with my legs and armpits half the time. He wouldn't have faired well with the awesome 70's and 80's bushes.

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Grindelwaldswand · 21/02/2017 23:18

Have to say it feels amazing not having prickly itchy bits anymore Grin and i have walked around naked just to wind him up Grin i told him im a woman not a child.
He's the best partner ive ever had apart from this one thing and he forgets to load the dishwasher sometimes other than that im the annoying one not him i just don't get why he thinks its so disgusting. He did watch porn a lot when he was younger so i don't know if that's the reason he's been like this ? He accepts that he is been irrational and he understands what im saying but he can't get his head around the fact women have pubic hair

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AnyFucker · 21/02/2017 23:18

Jesus. Another "my boyfriend is wonderful apart from this thing that is a deal breaker for normal headed people"

Yawn

nutbrownhare15 · 21/02/2017 23:18

YANBU. He is BVVU.

SabineUndine · 21/02/2017 23:19

Tell him he'll get what he's given and be grateful!

Bambambini · 21/02/2017 23:19

So does he watch a lot of porn?

Lesley1980 · 21/02/2017 23:19

Ask him if he prefers you to look look like a 7 year old or a grown woman?

There are lots of reasons for pubic hair & if you want lots, some or none it's up to you.

Hannah4banana · 21/02/2017 23:20

Sorry but if my husband refused to shave and grew a beard I'd be a bit annoyed too. Kissing a hairy face gives me a rash! Do you have a lot of activity down there Grin

avamiah · 21/02/2017 23:24

OP,
Any particular reason who just decided to stop shaving down there but still do the legs and armpits?
As I find shaving my legs bloody annoying and a real chore.

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Grindelwaldswand · 21/02/2017 23:24

He doesn't watch porn now and hasn't for many years it was something he did as a teenager and his mother found out and sent him to a counselor about it. I could never not shave my legs or my armpits it feels weird to me but he has a beard which itches when we kiss he's the hairiest man ive ever seen but its ok for him because he's a man Confused his mother is a staunch feminist so he wasn't raised to think this if anything he was raised the opposite but he appears to have developed his own unhealthy opinions somewhere along the line, I want to talk to MIL about it but id be too embarrassed

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Justmuddlingalong · 21/02/2017 23:26

It sounds like a weird form of contraception to me. Grin

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Grindelwaldswand · 21/02/2017 23:26

I just found it was irritating my skin and the grow back was painful and itchy and i was never truly smooth afterwards so about a month ago I stopped and it feels great no itching or discomfort and i read online its healthier not to shave your vagina because the hair protects against bacteria ? Don't know if that's true but i feel a lot healthier and fresher down there now

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SundialShadow · 21/02/2017 23:29

Sorry but if my husband refused to shave and grew a beard I'd be a bit annoyed too.

You understand that in an equal relationship, both parties respect each others bodily choices. Don't you?

You do understand that the purpose of public hair and face hair is very different, don't you?

Pubic hair provides cushioning against friction that can cause skin abrasion and injury. It also provides protection from bacteria and other unwanted pathogens.

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