To think it is not normal to expect intercourse to last an hour... is it??

[justkeeponsmiling]

So... I was talking to my friend the other day and asked her how the relationship with her new partner was going and she said it was ok but the sex was disappointing. When I asked her to clarify, she said her new man didn't "last as long" as her xbf.
Apparently, the only way she can come is by having actual intercourse for ages. Foreplay doesn't do anything for her and she said she can take it or leave it. So, when asked how long she was expecting it to last, she said at the very least half an hour, preferably an hour or longer!
Now, DH and I have been together for 13 years and have three DCs (my friend has no DCs), so to be fair memories of our sex-life at the start of our relationship, pre DCs is a bit hazy, but I was still a bit and she was genuinely surprised by my reaction.
I wouldn't find it odd to want an hours worth of foreplay (oh, what it must be like to have that much time...) but actual intercourse?
I told her that if my DH expected to pound me for over an hour on a regular basis I'm sure my undercarriage would soon be turning into leather...
AIBU??

Good god no YANBU

YANBU Sounds like your pal is doing Foreplay wrong?

bloody hell no I would be raw and sore. also fucking bored.

Christ no, I'd be getting friction burns after about 10 minutes! (I do actually know this as there have been occasions when DH has "missed his moment" but kept going to try and regain it...)

I'd have fallen asleep by then

Owwwww...

God no! Just reading that has given me thrush!

Good God no
Quickie is the way to go
Especially when you have kids

Id find that incredibly boring!

Did she walk funny when she was with her ExBF?

An hour? For the actual penis in vagina bit? Why would you want to - I mean it's nice and all that but there's a certain length of time after which you start wondering what you need at the shops tomorrow or whether your partner has some kind of medical problem

Think she will have a long search for another man who can do this and her exP will have an equally long search for a woman who's impressed by it

Thank god it's not just me!! Apparently her ex could go on for hours! It sounds like a nightmare to me tbh

Can't imagine anything worse.

In the first few weeks we could go for hours but after about 7 15 / 20 mins I would be bored.

Bloody hell. Does she have a tin plated fanny?

grimbletart

No I expect enough foreplay to either make me orgasm or bring me close to it and then usually another orgasm during sex but the actual sex probably lasts about 30/40mins No need for it to last any longer than that.

Doesn't she, well, chafe?

I'd be thinking there's some kind of problem/issue after that long, tbh

Blimey, I'd be asleep. Not that many men can go for that long (my dh can but it doesn't take me long so can't be bothered to keep at it for ages) so it's quite unfair for her to say he's not as good as her previous partner. Maybe her previous partner wasn't very good at foreplay which is why she needed the hours intercourse, there's more 'skill' involved in foreplay.

We have sex for around an hour....and about half an hour of foreplay beforehand. It's very nice.

15-20 minutes is nice. Shorter can also be good. But AN HOUR??!?! Maybe she's just ended up going for really, um, small, men, in which case you might not really notice a whole hour.

The mind boggles.

I don't chafe....

Im the same as fifyfomum

No chafing apparently, I did ask her! grimble maybe you're right

Oh God i'd get bored. Half an hour of foreplay, ten minutes for the deed. Plenty.