To think it is not normal to expect intercourse to last an hour... is it??

[justkeeponsmiling]

So... I was talking to my friend the other day and asked her how the relationship with her new partner was going and she said it was ok but the sex was disappointing. When I asked her to clarify, she said her new man didn't "last as long" as her xbf.
Apparently, the only way she can come is by having actual intercourse for ages. Foreplay doesn't do anything for her and she said she can take it or leave it. So, when asked how long she was expecting it to last, she said at the very least half an hour, preferably an hour or longer!
Now, DH and I have been together for 13 years and have three DCs (my friend has no DCs), so to be fair memories of our sex-life at the start of our relationship, pre DCs is a bit hazy, but I was still a bit and she was genuinely surprised by my reaction.
I wouldn't find it odd to want an hours worth of foreplay (oh, what it must be like to have that much time...) but actual intercourse?
I told her that if my DH expected to pound me for over an hour on a regular basis I'm sure my undercarriage would soon be turning into leather...
AIBU??

Oh I love this thread.

But seriously an hour?! I'd be working out a way to have a 'chat' with DH to see if there were any issues.

Definitely a bit odd to expect an hour!!

I'd be falling asleep after about 20 minutes. .. that's plenty!

10 mins tops for me would be fine, I'd be bored after that.

LOL at "aching like buggery." Perhaps that's your answer right there. At least you could be on all fours reading your kindle or leafing through Take A Break.

Dear God no.

Though at least I'd get the meal plan for the week done and my shopping list. . . .

Isn't the average about 7 mins?

Id be asleep after 30 mins

We made it last an hour, once. We were in a hotel for the weekend. Although a good half an hour of it was spent trying to extricate me from the basque, suspenders and stockings I'd been adventurous and worn undressing.

Oooh harriet if DH always wanted to go on for an hour we would never do it! It sounds like a chore to me and I would forever put it off, like I do with going for a jog and similar

LaQueen I think I would rather risk the wrinkles than a trip to A & E with a bedstead attached to my head.

Very good work LaQueen

Perhaps you'd be interested in leading a YouTube video for the International Institute of Sex Face, a thriving online community I've just thought up which is leading the way in this vital yet still underfunded area of research. Motto: No ageing while the horn is raging

Ha ha Wilson I'd subscribe to that.

When DPs been out drinking it does. I like it because it's reasonably rare n he's really nice saying he loves my body and that. When he's sober, I have to force him

We are so romantic that it's generally a quick fumble before bed. I'd guess 15 mins give or take. I couldn't be bothered with more in the week. 5am wake ups kill me in the winter. My bed is for sleeping

Lasts a lot longer when he's been drinking. 2-3 hours. But that's everything. Not just actual porking. My mind wanders tho that sounds terrible

If this includes the odd snooze then that's ok. If it's an hour of banging well I'm not sure that's possible.

An hour!!!!! Fuck, I'd be bored after 20 mins, and the joint pain.

An hour in the same position, well thats like just hammering nails into a wall for a hour.

Sounds like your friend either has unrealistic expectations or a low sex drive, if it takes an hour to orgasm.

An hour is completely unnecessary. If the actual piv went on longer than ten minutes, I would be mulling over the fact that I could have done it quicker myself.

You know the time it takes for your Kindle to turn itself off? That. Optimum time.

Your friend is unusual I suspect, an hour of poking is far too long. I'd get bored and sore.

Impressive Bumpy, I can see why you have that MN name.

I like max 10 minutes including foreplay myself which is because I'm not very good at sex, so I'm impressed by her too, but also thinking she should really try to get back together with her ex.

:o

Half an hour from start to finish is more than enough ! Got more interesting things to do with my time

I'd fall asleep.

Do you have your friend's xbf's number OP?

LOL at "aching like buggery." Perhaps that's your answer right there. At least you could be on all fours reading your kindle or leafing through Take A Break

Rofl