To think it is not normal to expect intercourse to last an hour... is it??

[justkeeponsmiling]

So... I was talking to my friend the other day and asked her how the relationship with her new partner was going and she said it was ok but the sex was disappointing. When I asked her to clarify, she said her new man didn't "last as long" as her xbf.
Apparently, the only way she can come is by having actual intercourse for ages. Foreplay doesn't do anything for her and she said she can take it or leave it. So, when asked how long she was expecting it to last, she said at the very least half an hour, preferably an hour or longer!
Now, DH and I have been together for 13 years and have three DCs (my friend has no DCs), so to be fair memories of our sex-life at the start of our relationship, pre DCs is a bit hazy, but I was still a bit and she was genuinely surprised by my reaction.
I wouldn't find it odd to want an hours worth of foreplay (oh, what it must be like to have that much time...) but actual intercourse?
I told her that if my DH expected to pound me for over an hour on a regular basis I'm sure my undercarriage would soon be turning into leather...
AIBU??

DH & I were at it like rabbits when we first met as we had a long distance relationship so we shagged for HOURS all night.

I had thrush like you would not believe at the end of it all.

TBH once I've orgasmed I'm ready to roll over and have a sleep.

Plus an hour lying down now seems like a wasted opportunity to sleep.

I do wonder if I will ever not feel sleep deprived again without going to bed at 8:30pm

Exacty, Mckayz. There's a comment earlier about 'what else are you going to do in bed?' than have sex.

Sleep. Always sleep. I don't care how good he is, sleep still wins.

And yet, and yet....the average male apparently takes about 5 minutes to unload. Is this thread just a stealth boast for those who have duracell bunny partners

'the average male apparently takes about 5 minutes to unload'

Meaning some are taking considerably less- 'up and over like a pan of milk' as the saying goes....

I said "what else is there to do apart from sleep of course" actually. and thumb I said ten mins is awful if that is all you ever get...and that I sometimes like a quickie too.

LOL, you guys!

I had an ex, no, actually, I had 2 exs, who were marathoners.

Your bits kinda get used to it.

Rax I was wondering what sex position allowed for a cup of tea without scolding?
And yes I'd be pretty uncomfy after an hour of piv. Over an hour including foreplay I wish is good though.

Meaning some are taking considerably less- 'up and over like a pan of milk' as the saying goes.... wink

Or 2 grunts and a squirt as my friend gracefully put it.

2 grunts and a squirt

Oh lord no we have rounds say of 25 mins then have a cuddle a smoke a brew a cuddle then round 2 etc on weekends as no dc here somtimes

but a hours worth of poking no thanks

After an hour I'd be afraid we'd start a fire.

I am actually shocked that so many people have 10 minute sex ALL the time! I mean we sometimes have a quickie but generally it's at least 45-60 mins. It used to be longer but now we have dd 12wks we can only do it at the beginning of her nights sleep or during her morning nap!

I never get bored during a session- do most people REALLY find sex boring then? I assumed we were average!!

sinisterbuggymonth spot on. A man with that much self control is not the man for me. I would honestly think he was not enjoying it. And I would be bored out of my mind. An ex of mine was a bit like that, it was all a bit of a performance.

PMSL at the "under the influence of drugs" comment

eatshitderek 10 mins all in all not enough time. 10 mins of the in out bit = that's quite sufficient thank you.

Nothing wrong with the whole act of sex lasting hours, talking, kissing, teasing, foreplay, oral sex, then the PIV and cuddle.

I couldnt take an hour of non stop poking, pull out and do something else then get back to that.

I used to think short sex was the norm and that it was preferable but that's because the guys I slept with weren't very good at it! I'm not showing off...but DH is rather excellent at sex...he adores it and his enthusiasm was catching and now I do too! Sex is bloody fabulous when it goes on and on...orgasms don't need to arrive immediately but are better when delayed and delayed...they're just stronger. If you're body isn't very fit then no...I imagine it's not comfortable having long sessions because it is quite strenuous.

I bet ex was on viagra & they both have odd expectations from watching porn films.
Maybe OP's friend is the one who needs viagra so she can get excited faster? :)

An hour of intercourse? It makes me squirm to think of it

I'm getting the impression that it's because the majority of women don't find the actual penetrative sex the best bit. Most people are saying that an hour in total is a fine thing, just not an hour of penetration. 10 minutes start to finish for everything, every time, is probably a wee bit rubbish. But to get down to brass tacks, it's a known fact that most women gain more pleasure from foreplay than from penetrative sex - hence why the idea of an hour of penetration isn't something most women want.

But to get down to brass tacks, it's a known fact that most women gain more pleasure from foreplay than from penetrative sex - hence why the idea of an hour of penetration isn't something most women want.

^This, an hour of PIV would not get me off, oral sex and foreplay would.

All about the foreplay for me, I'm usually quite happy after it so he can do what he wants as quickly as he wants. Couldn't imagine an hour of actually banging away.

I bet ex was on viagra & they both have odd expectations from watching porn films.

^ This.

I would simply not be able to spare the time to go on like that. Cat litter trays don't clean themselves out do they?

This, hilarious!