To think it is not normal to expect intercourse to last an hour... is it??

[justkeeponsmiling]

So... I was talking to my friend the other day and asked her how the relationship with her new partner was going and she said it was ok but the sex was disappointing. When I asked her to clarify, she said her new man didn't "last as long" as her xbf.
Apparently, the only way she can come is by having actual intercourse for ages. Foreplay doesn't do anything for her and she said she can take it or leave it. So, when asked how long she was expecting it to last, she said at the very least half an hour, preferably an hour or longer!
Now, DH and I have been together for 13 years and have three DCs (my friend has no DCs), so to be fair memories of our sex-life at the start of our relationship, pre DCs is a bit hazy, but I was still a bit and she was genuinely surprised by my reaction.
I wouldn't find it odd to want an hours worth of foreplay (oh, what it must be like to have that much time...) but actual intercourse?
I told her that if my DH expected to pound me for over an hour on a regular basis I'm sure my undercarriage would soon be turning into leather...
AIBU??

Maybe she does have a leathery undercarriage Op but it is because of the hour-long pounding. So it built up over time and now she needs it because nothing else will be felt?

DH isn't allowed to touch me any more when he is drunk. The first time he tried, he went on and one like the Duracell bunny. I really tried to make polite and appreciative noises but it was killing my hips and was so boring! The second time I told him to finish himself off after about half an hour.

I don't need my back ironing out, thank you.

An hour? Fuck that.

I am also. 10 mins max for me thanks, dh is lucky to last that long. He recently got some of those new durex that make men last longer without telling me and I genuinely thought he'd gone off me!

Who has an hour to spend having sex? The things you could get done in that time!

Well we have sex at bedtime! What else is there to do other than go to sleep? We go sometimes a bit early....and sit and chill in bed...it can take as long as it needs to then!

It's not always an hour but we don't "bang away" that would be terrible!

Oh FFS some people have no grasp of nuance or comedic hyperbole

It is possible to have a satisfying sex life without some epic endurance test. It is also possible to have a busy life and not to have time to indulge in hours of sex like you did when footloose and fancy free. Each to their own according to their wishes.

An hour? Bollocks to that. I would seize up for a week. That's no position to be stuck in when you have to do the school run.

Why "wide on" for women, v. "hard on" for men. I don't get it.

I remember an xbf years ago saying he wanted to do it too me all night and I remember thinking bloody hell, I hope not!

He thought it was romantic, but the thought of being at it for ages and ages was horrific!

I've only had one man who could genuinely stay inside me and be doing something interesting for that long. It wasn't necessarily in-out shake it all about for the whole hour..there was stroking and small movements and downright resting but still in situ (IFYSWIM). It was bloody fantastic - sexiest thing ever. Prolonged thrusting long after I've lost interest is WAY too common sadly and yes, along with most women on here I suspect I could give Cate Blanchett a run for her money on the acting stakes. Do you think men really believe us when we ooh and aah?

I am still gob smacked at wide on.

Hmm. I've had some marathons and some great quickies. I prefer in between, with a great sexy build up of flirting, massage, oral, hands on, then when I'm there, a great twenty minutes of orgasm after orgasm, ending with his. Then cuddling off to sleep.

Long sex just gets a bit boring unless it's really good, and generally it isn't. Short bursts over a longer period get far better results.

Another 10 minutes here.
That includes getting the cat off the bed first and the cup of tea afterwards.

I couldn't be bothered with an hour unless I could bring my knitting.

"And when you think I've loved you all I can: I'm gonna love you a little bit more."

Bugger off!

Fairylights that's a good description of good sex and that's more or less what DH and I do...not EVERY time but quite often! All this "Oh ten minutes is fine" thing is just awful!

Long sessions of varying intensity are gorgeous and whoever said it was creepy and Gigolo like for a man to manage it is ODD!

Can definitely make it last an hour, foreplay and cleanup and half an hour to re-settle the bloody toddler included. Coitus interruptus infantus is the most effective form of contraception in our house.

AN HOUR...AN ENTIRE 60 MINUTES My fingers wrinkle after being wet for 5 minutes doing the washing up, imagine his poor wrinkled winkle after 60 minutes in the wet.

Thanks everyone for a great thread! All your comments have really made me chuckle!

bumpygrindy - the ten minutes thing "is awful" FOR YOU, maybe. Not for some of us, thanks. :)

Ugh, I'd get bored with an hour of actual intercourse. Of course, I can have three orgasms if my husband looks at me sideways, so I think my lady bits would be very uncomfortable after an hour of pounding.

Perhaps the friend should explore some of the creams on the market that make ladies more sensitive. I doubt she's going to find too many men who are able (or interested) in going for a full hour.

The very thought of going for an hour every time makes me feel exhausted! YANBU.

Why have sex for an hour when you can have great sex in half an hour and then get some sleep?

I bet this thread is in the Daily Mail today. Penis beaker #2.