To think it is not normal to expect intercourse to last an hour... is it??

[justkeeponsmiling]

So... I was talking to my friend the other day and asked her how the relationship with her new partner was going and she said it was ok but the sex was disappointing. When I asked her to clarify, she said her new man didn't "last as long" as her xbf.
Apparently, the only way she can come is by having actual intercourse for ages. Foreplay doesn't do anything for her and she said she can take it or leave it. So, when asked how long she was expecting it to last, she said at the very least half an hour, preferably an hour or longer!
Now, DH and I have been together for 13 years and have three DCs (my friend has no DCs), so to be fair memories of our sex-life at the start of our relationship, pre DCs is a bit hazy, but I was still a bit and she was genuinely surprised by my reaction.
I wouldn't find it odd to want an hours worth of foreplay (oh, what it must be like to have that much time...) but actual intercourse?
I told her that if my DH expected to pound me for over an hour on a regular basis I'm sure my undercarriage would soon be turning into leather...
AIBU??

I reckon I'd stop actually feeling anything after about 40minutes

And I'd be meal planning in my head for the week ahead, or mentally packing the DCs bags for school

An hour?

I guess that's what kindles are for

STBXH used to go on for 40 minutes. Man, it was dull.

I like 10-15 minutes from start to finish, with a good long cuddle afterwards.

attention span of a gnat

ormirian

Jesus wept. I'm chafing at the very thought of it! Was he on drugs? I know certain drugs (ecstasy) can have this effect ... But other than being a total druggie, I am confused to how someone would go that long and enjoy it. Ouch

If DP went on for an hour I would worry I just wasn't doing it for him.

I remember once hearing some man on a radio phone-in who claimed that he refused to climax till his partner had had at least five orgasms, and he obviously expected everyone to be impressed. I was picturing myself lying there thinking "For fuck's sake, just get on with it". Mind you, it would probably do fantastic things for your acting talents trying to fake five convincing orgasms quickly enough to leave you with enough time for a decent night's sleep.

I can honestly say that in the two decades I have been having sex, I have never once "made love". The mere idea... shudder.

I think we had sex once that lasted for nearly an hour. And yes, he was drunk, and yes, it ended in ignominy and defeat for all involved.

Jesus, if DP went on that long I'd stick a finger up his bum to speed things up

WTAF is a wide on?

DH I should say. I forgot we are married then

WTAF is a wide on?

Female version of a hard on

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

The only times the actual in out has dragged on that long is when under the influence of drugs.

Good sex is so much more than that.

Dp can go on and on. But he's rather good at it.
I was shocked ( and sore) the first few times. But then we love a good quickie too!
He made up for my years of shit 'I'm too tired' sex.

at the end of the day (or the beginning, or lunchtime if you prefer ) it's not about length of time, technique or frequency, its about both partners being satisfied and both mutually happy with the expectation/experience.

Well half an hour....

an hour is a long time though.

I had an ex who liked the in out bit to last about 2 hours. My god he had some stamina, he was an ex-boxer so I think he saw it as a sort of keep fit challenge.

It didn't bother me at the time (I was young and had little to compare it to). Now I'm a 30 minutes max woman.

I'd probably be a size 8 if it lasted an hour. It's like the after hours 30 day shred.

I am in the camp of 3 or 4 quickies a day rather than a long session ... an hour !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would simply not be able to spare the time to go on like that. Cat litter trays don't clean themselves out do they?

indeed, hidden

An hour? A full hour of him banging away like a barn door in the wind? I don't think so, no. I would need to bring my iPad, and possibly a snack.

An hour in total with all the trimmings, maybe, but otherwise surely you would be hanging in tatters? If he hasn't got my attention long before that it's not happening.

It's not "banging away" though if it's good! It's varied!

I may be missing the point here but who times how long sex takes?

Sex is over when it's over, whether it's 5 mins or 60. Personally it think it's a man's job to know his partner and to cum when she's completely satisfied.

I feel sorry for those that never orgasm but is hardly surprising when people talk about husbands banging and pounding