"What are your pronouns?" Best response for a 14 yo?

[RhymesWithOrange]

DD is as well informed as I can manage on pronoun nonsense but we're both stumped for the best response if a friend asks her "what are your pronouns?"

Any advice on challenging/deflecting? With close friends she jokes (she's identified as a Samsung refrigerator, pronouns ice/tray, for a while now) but with people she knows less well it's harder to pull off.

Thank you

I usually refer to myself as I or me

Sex-based like my oppression.

'Please use whatever pronouns you feel most appropriate '.

My pronouns are me and I. Its rude to talk about people in the second person when they are present, so just use my name. I don't care how you talk about me when I'm not there.

I am an atheist so don’t do pronouns

None

‘Third person singular’

@GeodesicDome

'Please use whatever pronouns you feel most appropriate '.

This is the easiest one for a 14 yo, I think.

@JennieLee

Sex-based like my oppression.

This. Or “why would I give a hoot about what anyone calls me when I’m not around to hear it”

I always ask for qho (correct pronounciation with a glottalized stop please!) and if you do not know what a glottalized stop is you need to educate yourself.

Place marking as DD 12 gets a lot of this shit. Constantly being invited to the LGBTQIA+ group at school (which I have forbidden her to go to as it's a safeguarding nightmare). But luckily she hates the teacher who runs it so she has just used that excuse so far.

As an actual fourteen year old, I think I would have found it easiest to just say, I really don't mind - thanks though. There'd be some situations where I wouldn't be looking for an argument at that age, and it's hard to argue with a pleasant, truthful response ( I hope).

These are great, thank you 😊

@JennieLee

Sex-based like my oppression.

Excellent retort.

"We/our".

‘Whatever you like’

'what do you think they are?'

My normal response when asked a question that confuses me is just a blank stare while I try to process it. This often seems to be enough of an answer.

I'm not intending to be rude, just sometimes I can't get an answer out.

Miss 😂😂😂 on so many levels that would work

"oh" " that question is sooo 2021." "What are you looking forward to in 2022?>

@Bellusaurus

As an actual fourteen year old, I think I would have found it easiest to just say, I really don't mind - thanks though. There'd be some situations where I wouldn't be looking for an argument at that age, and it's hard to argue with a pleasant, truthful response ( I hope).

Agree. These pronoun threads always attract a lot of elaborate or confrontational suggestions. I am sceptical that anyone uses them in real life, let alone a 14 year old.

Yes, need avoid/deflection in some cases, without feeling like you're betraying the sisterhood!

Changing the subject works f2f, it's harder when someone messages you.

'Queen'

"Whatever you want. I believe all humans are of equal worth"