Wtf is wrong with me.. photo included TMI

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Woke up yesterday to a nawing pain where my knickers sit on my right leg. Thought oh I'm just getting fat and need bigger knickers.

Today I woke up feeling like shit. I can barely move my leg. It's agongy I cannot walk to see this monsteristy. There is a larged raised redness around it. I cannot get to the GP i have a meeting in the morning I cannot miss.
I feel really shit, keep getting cold as well. I thought infected hair folicie but it looks worse. Would show the large red patch around it but I'm embarrassed enough showing this. Please help 😭

Just come late to this thread, and all I want to say is you’re an absolute hero OP, putting your children first and fighting to do the absolute best for them. Hope your meeting goes well, and wishing you a speedy recovery.

This. Medical professionals can be really good at telling family members bluntly that they need to take some of the load from a recovering overworked woman. If you can engineer your ex getting you from the hospital or bringing the kids there you might be able to get him a telling off from a stern nurse! Always good for them to hear it from someone else.

They've said to ex if he doesn't start helping me more then they'll do a referral to social services for a disability worker and look at getting me respite a few nights a month.
Apparently I had infection turning into sepsis in the past with a miscarriage that I didn't even know about (i was really out of it and it was eight year ago now and wasn't on my dr history notes as it was hostipal) so its made me prone to infections when my energy levels are depleted.
Ex has suggested he moves back in for a month or so to help me with things.
The boys don't like staying away (we have one dc with very complicated sen needs and one with medical needs and sen) so he only has them in the days. Ive agreed to it. I could really do with the extra pair of hands not sure if I'm gonna regret it. 😂
Hes not a bad guy, we just got overwhelmed with the dc needs and spilt up. We are still pretty good friends when hes not saying im being dramatic lol.

Oh my goodness I'm so glad you went to hospital when you did (was reading this yesterday) and that your ex is hopefully stepping up. Good luck with the meeting today, hope it goes well!

I hope your ex staying will genuinely help you and not just add to your workload. Because it sounds more like he’s offered as he struggles with them on his own, so wants you there to help. But maybe he’s genuinely doing it because the kids would prefer to be at home and he wants them to be able to see you.

I am glad to hear you say you are friends as that could have been horrible otherwise!

Sorry about your miscarriage. I know it was 8 years ago, but I find if mine gets mentioned, ir miscarriages are talked about, the pain of it all comes flooding back to me - if you are the same I imagine that’s lot on top of everything else.

So glad you got this sorted, OP. Hope you're starting to feel better this morning.

When I had a a red rash on my knee rash appear on my knee I filled in the triage form online at around 10am and sent in a photo. Within a few minutes I got a call from the receptionist giving me an appointment at the doctors an hour later - these appointments are like gold dust!

When there, the GP took my temperature and pushed her thumb hard over the rash which turned white underneath, a sign that there was no infection. I was very relieved that it was treated seriously.

Your spot looks totally different but if you have a similar triage system, it might be worth sending in the photo to see what a doctor says, you might not need to go in is it does not indicate sepsis.

I know it prob won’t mean much from a stranger on MN but you really do sound like a fantastic mum and advocate for your children. I wish you all the best and that somehow there will be a way to lighten the load for you

Kudos to the healthcare worker who had a word with your ex. Wishing you all the best for a speedy recovery and hopefully a new level of support for you, sounds like you have a lot on your plate 💐

Hope you're been finding OP's updates educational. If you really are a trained medic you shouldn't be, with that attitude and so-called advice. 😒

OP, I've only just seen this thread but I just wanted to say I'm so glad you got it checked out and are getting support now! Sounds like you have a heck of a lot on your plate, hope things start to get easier now you've sought help for this.

I'm not sure how horrible @Confessionsofa40yrold is. I get the impression it's more a case of them being a sandwich short of a picnic.

@Confessionsofa40yrold I note you haven't responded to my questioning if you're a doctor (which I am assuming you are not). You say you're medically trained - what is your qualification?

Hope you feel better soon OP, and wishing you the best with all the stuff you’re having to deal with.
Mum of a sen child here too and actually getting a social worker and eventually getting overnight respite care was the best thing for myself and my child. Hopefully some support will materialise for you after this.

Thanks for your comment (nurse of 20+ years here).
Just because when YOU had worsening cellulitis no one mentioned sepsis doesn’t mean you weren’t headed that way.
Glad you’re fit and well now

When you’re ill it’s even more difficult to make a logical decision about your own health.

I get you on the fighting the LEA. It’s exhausting.

Ask the hospital to out the referral for a disability social worker in for the kids anyway. You need more support. A disability social worker is not a child protection social worker.

Wow, I hope he apologised to you! I hope you get better soon.

Honestly if you are good friends, and he has offered to come and help, you should let him. It's a win win for everyone xx

When I was hospitalised with cellulitis, it took them a while to find an antibiotic that would deal with it - made harder because I'm allergic to penicillin. I hope they caught the OP's cellulitis quickly enough to deal with it quickly.

Even if he's a bit useless, another adult in the house to go to the shops/answer the door etc will give you a proper rest, which is what you'll need.

" The minute it’s popped she’ll feel instant relief"

It's not a spot the OP is dealing with, it's obviously an infection which is spreading if you read her posts properly.

I think the posters who've had similar infections know that you can't mess around with them. No medic worth their salt is going to think their time has been wasted by a patient checking something like this out.

Just had my sons meeting they were so nice and let me switch the camera off. Said they were looking to diagnose autism but can't say offically yet but wanted me to know so I'm not worrying while in hostipal. Ive got a banging headache now and my leg is hurting a lot hope this is a sign the antibiotics are helping!

Fantastic. BTW I didn't think he was an actively bad guy- lots of blokes don't see how much a woman is doing til it's forcibly pointed out to them! Really glad he's now taking it seriously and I hope if you're unwell in future he'll remember this.

It's unbelievable the amount of people that still don't know (understand) that cellulitis can lead to sepsis. Cellulitis is a serious condition usually requiring immediate hospitalitasion to get IV antibiotics. Average time in hospital is around 5 days.

Many people think a boil is hamless. It may not be, not all boils are the same. A boil seriously painful, with a red area around it growing by the day while feeling unwell and with chills (even without a fever) is a medical emergency. If you can't see your GP, go to an A&E.

OP, I'm glad you are getting better.

Rest up OP xx

Looks like an infected hair follicle, call 111 or go to GP or A&E as a last resort

My tip once you're up and about in the day would be to take yourself off to bed early, before ex deals with bedtime. You'll sleep deeper at the start of the night and it's a good way to set boundaries and make him do something that will genuinely help you! If you try to get him to do the early shift you'll probably be awake anyway and it won't be as beneficial. You need a strategy here to make sure he actually significantly helps!