You can all call me an old cow but I'm fed up with SN board being used as resource for general advice

[Davros]

We seem to have had a spate of threads started by parents who have worries about their child's behaviour and development. Most of these don't seem to have looked through the SN archive (although I have told Tech it only goes up to D it certainly covers Autism, Aspgergers, ASD). I don't want to be totally horrid but I wonder if people could have a little sensitvity into our situations and check the archive or simply post in B&D where I think most of these threads would be more appropriate.
I wasn't going to say anything as I thought it was just a phase and would stop but then two more appeared.
OK, call me an old cow.

you are an old cow

moo!

Which posts Davros. I'll e-mail u as I was going to anyway!

But people want to ask somewhere where someone with some experience might look, what's wrong with that? If you want a recipe you'll post in recipes, if you're concerned about ASD you're likely to post in Special Needs I suppose, I don't understand the problem tbh.

Even I noticed, and it's none of my business. Thee have been loads, and the few I've looked at seem to be saying very similar things. It did strike me as pretty insensitive. Maybe every parent sees their own situation as different from everyone else's and wants individualised reassurance, but I can't really see why you should all have to be the ones to provide it. I agree, using B and D would be more appropriate.

I certainly sympathise, but there is also a trend for certain posts on the B&D threads to be refered onto here. Please don't blame the posters - they're looking for any help that they can get, and actually the archive isn't that helpful unless you know exactly what it is that you need to know, and how other people would have referred to it. They're just looking to tap into your hard-earned expertise.

HAve to confesss as the mum of 2 NT children I'd probably use the B&D board for advice initially, obviosuly if one of them was diagnosed with 'something' then I'd come over here - but I think in general it's a bit 'off' if people are just posting about what could quite well just be naughty little brats

DISCLAIMER - I haven't read any of the recent posts so I'm not directing that last comment at anyone in particular, although I did have a RL "friend" who's child was a brat and she 'blamed' it on ADHD - but it turns out he didn't have it, was simply badly behaved.

I should probably shut up as I haven't seen any of the threads you're on about!

ahhahahah!

This is what comes of having too many topics.

I told you so

Er we need special needs Enid. This is one of theimportant ones and a lifeline ot us mums with sn kids.

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and surely B&D is a completely different thing which also warrants it's own board - like how do I stop my DS2 climbing on the dining room table ARGHHHHHHHHHHH

no rickman, I don't think that's what people are saying, I'm sure many people that have posted stuff on here with concerns about their children have had them looked into further and discovered that it was just a 'phase'. Likewise others could be told that they're being referred for more tests - in which case they'd probably come onto SN as their child(ren) could well be coming into that category.

I'm all for MN being here to help people and I haven't actually posted on any of these threads which is always an option (mostly because I was too busy but because it was getting very repetitive). I know that lots of MNers read the SN boards but don't post as we all do in many topics. Anyone who did that would already have quite a lot of info and could still try the archive. I do think its rather insensitive. I spend A LOT of my time helping and advising other parents but find it frustrating when they've done little research for themselves and use me as a short cut. Giving advice does take its toll on you as its not something to be done lightly.

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Oh there u are. I have questions I need anwering cod

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I just want you to talk straight with me cod for once !!!!!!

I certainly don't think someone should have a child with a dx before coming to SN, in fact we have lots who don't. I don't know what I'm saying really, I just felt it was getting repetitive, we were being used as a short cut (which is fine on MN most of the time) but we have huge emotional, time, financial, practical etc etc resources used up by this side of our lives, it isn't the same as asking how to clean the oven (which I must check btw). I did say I was being an old cow!

Hey Cod, No 4!!

oh yes alright I suppose special needs is ok

Enid - do not mess with a sn mum. We are all well 'ard

yes you are

and there was me thinking the sn board was all good and everyone was lovely to each other and they never had any of the trivial bitchy arguments that keep the rest of us going, ah well comes to the best of us I suppose