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Sexless Marriages Support Thread part 2

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AishaReturns · 21/09/2026 06:11

My last thread got full so starting a new one. This is a place to rant, support and share advice for coping in sexless marriages. All welcome, no judgment just support.

me: 40s female, been probably 3 yrs.

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thelastkingdom · 05/11/2026 12:43

Whammyammy · 04/11/2026 18:28

Been married 20+ years and we've always had a very active sex life. A few years back dh began losing interest and when I initiated intimacy he couldn't get or maintain an erection.
He was also tired a lot and became quite unwell a lot too. After months of tests and blood tests he was found to have almost no levels of testosterone in him.

Turned out to be a pituitary issue, hence zero testosterone. Hes now been treated and has regular testosterone injections at the doctors, as hus body struggles to produce it.

He regained sexual interest (and body hair) and his performance in that department very quickly improved- to a point im finding it too much lol as he now has the testosterone levels of an 18 year old and wants sex daily, if not more.

Men don't like to admit things, it was me that initiated the conversations and got him to make appointments etc. So glad I did as hes regained his health, libido and stamina.

Always worth that conversation and medical check up.

Wow I am so happy for you and glad its working! Unfortunately I have tried everything with my DW - suggested DRs appointments, counselling. To her no sex is not an issue. She sort of fires back "why should I go - there is nothing wrong with me"

Whammyammy · 06/11/2026 07:31

thelastkingdom · 05/11/2026 12:43

Wow I am so happy for you and glad its working! Unfortunately I have tried everything with my DW - suggested DRs appointments, counselling. To her no sex is not an issue. She sort of fires back "why should I go - there is nothing wrong with me"

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Sorry to hear this. From our experience it wasn't just he couldn't perform he just didn't want to and had zero interest, agsin this was medically related due to his testosterone affecting his libido.
I almost came to terms with a sexless marriage, was heartbreaking so I understand.

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