Which Vibrator?

[Menomaman]

Hi,

I wonder if any other ladies out there might be able to advise.... I am currently going through the menopause, went onto HRT and as often happens during the menopause, my sex drive went off a cliff! And has been very low for the past few years....

Except... about two months ago I had an erotic dream and it triggered something and suddenly the urge came back so strongly! Honestly I am like a horny teenager, it's so weird and confusing! My husband got used to me never really being interested anymore, now he can't keep up lol :D

Sooo... I am looking for a vibrator. I do have a rampant rabbit that I have had for years but tbh it's way too noisy (don't want the whole house to know what I am up to every time!) and also where I used to find it really effective, I now find my body must have changed, maybe I am more sensitive and the settings are never quite right, either too intense or not enough.

I have heard about a toy called the womaniser which I hear is a game changer but it's quite expensive, don't necessarily want to splurge that much if it doesn't suit me... just looking for some viewpoints and thoughts really, what has worked for other people? And also the noise factor - the quieter the better!

Thanks so much!! :)

Poor men, the humble penis just can't really compete can it? 😂 I guess a sex toy won't bring you a cuppa tea in the morning 😆😆

I will update once I am able to use it 😁 I am currently on my period and also with living with my mum, brother and niece need to be sure to have house to myself to get to use it (hoping to move out soon!)

It'd be a lot more useful for stirring it though.

Understood. Hope the coast is clear soon - enjoy! ☺️

Ok, it’s a quiet Sunday here. So I’ve ordered a new toy, and given it’s the sales I got a free one too (bargain!)
I decided to buy the Airthrust from Bellesa. It’s basically a thrusting vibe with clit suction too. Turns out it was on offer, and they threw in one called the Thumpvibe too, for free. I will report back!

I think that’s the one I was considering too! Report back!

Will do @Gymbunny2025 !!
Looking forward to your Enigma review too 👍🏻

Will let you know!! I just wasn’t sure if love the thrusting action in the end. And decided seeing as I have a man that is pretty good at that I’d go for the vibrations. Would have got both if they were a lot cheaper 😂

Sounds like a Sunday well spent! Looking forward to reading all reviews! Still waiting for Nancy lemon toy. Just realised this morning that it's coming from Hong Kong! It will be a well-travelled lemon 😁 Hopefully should be here within the next week 😊

Phew!
I don't drink tea in the morning!

Yeah, tea is overrated... The mini-rabbit, on the other hand, is not!! Still absolutely loving it! I prefer it to the wand so far tbh.... dreamy!! 😁😁

Really pleased to hear you say that. At the price you got yours, I'd suggest getting another for spare!
I think I'll use mine now....🥰

My order wasn’t processed (thought it was strange I didn’t get an email) so I’ve ordered again, have a confirmation email and hopefully will have it by the weekend. Difficult to try in school holidays though 😂

Oh no what a pain! Watch out you don't get charged as that happened to me with something else (non-sex-related! 😄)

My Nancy lemon toy arrived today, it is sooo cute, also the packaging and QR codes with playlists to get you in the mood etc... not that I need any help with that, I am always in the mood these days lol 😆

It is charging, I will keep you posted... 😁🍋

🍋 💛

Well just an update on the Nancy lemon toy... I know some people have got it as you were the ones who recommended it to me... well thankyou, it does not disappoint!

If you haven't got it, read on if you wish for a review! 😀

First clit suction toy I have had and it took a bit of experimenting. It's a very intense feeling and I can't take very prolonged direct stimulation on my clit... so what I found best for me was using it on a lower setting and using it to directly stimulate my clit for a bit until it got too much, then just gliding it around the whole area, then back to the clit etc. - the advice was to use lots of lube, which I did, and that was a good shout.

And it really did feel so lovely, building up to a fabulous orgasm... I blasted off to seventh heaven for a while and even when I finally came back down, I had lovely tingly feelings throughout my whole body for ages afterwards.... hmmmm! A very very nice toy. As I said before, I can't compare it to other suction toys but this definitely worked well for me.

Only things I can think of are that I did miss a penetration element, I would like to try with a dildo or of course during sex. Also, it seems that if you want to change the setting to a lower one you just have to cycle through all 12 (or however many there are) to get back round again - is that right? I didn't try all 12 of them but it felt like they were getting stronger and stronger.

Just an update I have now used the thrusting rabbit it is very effective! Definitely the most intense of the toys I currently own

Ah no maybe I made the wrong decision getting the other one. It has arrived but no opportunity to unbox it yet 😂

how much does it/doesnt it feel like sex out of interest? The thrusting I mean

I'd say it's pretty accurate. I'm still getting myself familiar with the whole set up as it's my first rabbit toy 🙂. I do prefer the real thing but it definitely gets the job done when my boyfriend isn't around to do the job for me 😅 also I'm moving in with him next week 😁

Oh wow how exciting. He can meet your new friend too 😂

He's already met him 😂😂😂

I think my oh is almost as excited about me trying the enigma as I am 😂

Lol my toys are for solo use though as he prefers to keep that seperate from when we are doing stuff together. He also doesn't like the feel of the silicone 😂. Closest we've gotten to using my toys together was me pissing about with my dildo and slapping the suction cup on his forehead 😂😂😂 it stuck too!

That’s hilarious!!

My toys are mainly for solo use. I’ve said I’m trying it out alone (ie house to myself) first. But he’ll probably want to watch and join in at some point

@Kerkyra2024 glad the bunny is living up to expectations 👍🏼😊 Congratulations re moving in with your bf!! 🙌🏼

@Gymbunny2025 looking forward to hearing about the Lelo toy. I am pretty tempted by that although may have to take out a bank loan first! 😅

I think the lemon toy will be great for couple sex, perfect for that as well as for solo use - haven't gone there yet though as still getting used to it myself and what feels best etc. First suction toy - it feels like a teeny tiny hoover on my clit!! 😆 I like it though