Blowjobs...how often do you do it?

[ScottishStottie]

Curious to know what the 'normal' is in terms of frequency of giving blowjobs, and if you actually enjoy giving them??

For me, im not a big fan of giving them, but more out of laziness than anything else. Dp usually gets one when im on my period, although some months if its a bit heavier then my cramps are worse and i dont want to. So he maybe gets one every couple of months.

He would never say anything, but given how grateful and happy he seems when he does get one, i imagine he would like this to be more frequent.

Curious to know whether i am being lazy or whether its an acceptable amount? 😂

The amount of women that give a BJ because they can't be bothered having sex

If you don't want sex then say no. Don't suck him off in an attempt to appease him

Totally unrelated but...

About 1ce a week.

In all the years (more than 20) I have used the internet I have never seen once written like this!

If I am giving oral to someone else it is always part of sex. Always. I get so turned on by it. I'm baffled at the people who give a BJ and are mentally elsewhere. What's the point? He isn't that special.

Never. He doesn't like it. He's definitely one of a kind.

Often, most times we have sex. But not lately cos I've been struggling with jaw pain.
We are both into it. I enjoy doing it and I enjoy receiving it.

@Annamaria14

Didn't we all believe that we "should be having sex often". I have realised that was another way to control women.

Men - get a lot more from sex than women do. They are entering the body of another person. That is why men want sex more than women do. We, as women were told it is "normal" to be having lots of sex, that we should be having it every year.

That was not true. It is perfectly normal to go many years without sex.

Think, how many times did you have sex because you thought you should be having sex, and how many times did you have sex because you wanted to have sex.

Sex does a lot to a woman. I have read so many books that said women have forgotten how energetically powerful sex is l. That if they knew how much energy of the other person they took in, they would be very careful about who they had sex with.

Be aware of how powerful sex is. Only do it when you want to do it. If you do it because you feel pressured to it - this actually hurts your psyche very badly

What are you on about. Talk about sweeping generalisation.

Guess what. Some women love sex and have high drives and get a lot from it. Just as men do. And some men have low drives and really aren't that bothered.

@Annamaria14

I am another one who will very happily go for five years without having sex

We do not need sex. We have been lied to and told that we do

How about you stop speaking for all women and speak for yourself. For some it is a need. Others not so much.

You guys do realise you are probably going to end up being quoted in the daily mail about this don’t you ?!

Is that you Jenn?!

As foreplay, probably every other time we have sex.

As a stand alone act to conclusion - never.

@BruceWilllis I wasn't suggesting that you were using the wrong technique. I was pointing out that breathing does in fact make a difference to me, because of the technique I use. You use a different technique where breathing is not relevant - no need to tell me, based on that, whether or not what I do is connected to breathing.

Daily or more - as a short or more extended part of sex overall. He's big, but I have honed my technique! 😁

I love giving them. I'll do them daily if he will let me or when ever I see him (obvs not during lockdown) I absolutely love giving them (not necessarily great at them) but can't have sex without doing it massive turn on for me. With previous partners ive never let them reciprocate but with my new partner I'm more then happy for him too.

Every time we have sex as part of foreplay. I love doing it and would happily do it whenever asked. My Boyfriend also reciprocates and is happy to go down on me whenever and as part of foreplay x

I've had one in the last 20 years of my relationship. She won't do it because that's where pee comes from. She'll happily receive it though!

Where pee comes from? Anybody heard of washing?

Sometimes daily, i love giving them, wether its part of foreplay or as a stand alone act, but he's happy to reciprocate too, so its all fair, we did go through a kind of sexual dry patch pre lockdown,

but at the beginning of lockdown we got chatting and were finally open and honest about our desires and kinks and now its awesome

It’s a regular part of sex for me. I would miss it if it stopped.

@StarlightLady

Where pee comes from? Anybody heard of washing?

Makes no difference apparently.

Maybe once a month as part of foreplay? DP always enjoys it but isn't fussed about blow jobs generally. He prefers giving me oral and penetration.

StarlightLady Wed 10-Jun-20 16:15:52
Where pee comes from? Anybody heard of washing?
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I agree, same applies to women receiving. Although women don't pee through their vagina they do pee from somewhere at the top of their vulva so same applies. However fresh pee is sterile unless there is some sort of infection. TMI :-).

Cleanliness is very important but I recently read a thread where people did oral sex immediately after full penetrative sex, one thought all the semen and juices was sexy. There's no accounting for taste (no pun intended).

Some of the responses in this thread are bizarre, if you don’t want sex/ think oral is disgusting what is the point of coming on the sex board ?

@Purplepussycat

Some of the responses in this thread are bizarre, if you don’t want sex/ think oral is disgusting what is the point of coming on the sex board ?

I originally posted it im chat (thought i would get more responses!) But im guessing mn moved it to sex topic. Which makes sense, but might explain some of the unexpected responses!

Ummm people could come to the sex section to get questions answered or because they have issues with sex? Or maybe they love other parts of sex but not bjs?

You don't need to be a sex fan to come here, do you? It's not like the pets section?

I also pick threads by browsing 'most active' - so I will come anywhere! I am sure others are the same.

And it's good - OP was looking for a spectrum of responses, not just a chorus from the fans. 🙂

@ScottishStottie didn’t realise it was in the chat at first

@BraveGoldie I understand having a range of responses and I understand peple enjoying one thing and some people not but not sure how it’s disgusting is a helpful response.

I would think it could be pretty helpful actually - there could be women reading this who find it disgusting, but feel obliged to do it anyway as they think everyone else is OK with it. Or guilty about not doing it. I think it is very useful for people to know that others don't like it and don't do it.

Most days if it's the right person. Otherwise nevvah.