Blowjobs...how often do you do it?

[ScottishStottie]

Curious to know what the 'normal' is in terms of frequency of giving blowjobs, and if you actually enjoy giving them??

For me, im not a big fan of giving them, but more out of laziness than anything else. Dp usually gets one when im on my period, although some months if its a bit heavier then my cramps are worse and i dont want to. So he maybe gets one every couple of months.

He would never say anything, but given how grateful and happy he seems when he does get one, i imagine he would like this to be more frequent.

Curious to know whether i am being lazy or whether its an acceptable amount? 😂

Not often. It hurts my face.

@ravenmum

Thanks very much! So were your problems just due to having a narrow / small nose?

Also I’ve literally never given a BJ where I’ve had a cock shoved down my throat. The man I had sex with that relied on porn as a reference tool like that would not get a second chance.

We, as women were told it is "normal" to be having lots of sex, that we should be having it every year.

Is this a joke?

I’m also not a fan of being on the receiving end. If I’be really got the horn it’s ok, but it doesn’t work as foreplay for me. I’m far too aware of it - a friend once said to me, when it’s good it’s great, when it’s not it’s just a bloke licking your bits.

Oh god is that a thing we are supposed to do? I thought it was just for porn!

I dont deep throat. I dont think i physically could. So i just have the tip in my mouth and my hand on the rest of it that isnt in my mouth.

Men - get a lot more from sex than women do. They are entering the body of another person. That is why men want sex more than women do. We, as women were told it is "normal" to be having lots of sex, that we should be having it every year.

Is this true though? I would suspect that the majority of women replying on this thread certainly aren't being pressured into regular sex simply because their partners enjoy it more than them. I have a much higher libido than my husband for example, and I'm not alone in that. Plenty of women are the same.

@Muir23 Yes, and it typically gets worse with age, as everything in your nose gets a bit saggy and flops closer together, so they said (in more professional terms :) ) They did a test where they fixed a thing on my face and I had to breathe as deeply through each nostril as I could, then that created a graph from which you could see I only had a third of the air I should have been getting, at most.

Sorry for the diversion, but it is a bit relevant - when you can breathe well, bjs (and swimming) are a lot more fun!

Choking and deep-throat?

That isn't part of any bj I'm providing. That's porn hub territory, nobody enjoys deep throat other than the man and he only enjoys it because it's related to porn.

I won't go into details but we enjoy oral sex as part of our weekly sex life.

Is it just me who gags like crazy having anyone in their mouth too long? (that's not food)
I don't need anything to be hitting the back of my throat to be retching (not that DH would push that far). I can't even hold my keys in my lips when getting shopping from the car or hold a pencil or nails in my gob when doing a DIY job without feeling the need to throw up.

I don't do them. My partner feels that oral sex is disrespectful and degrading. He is Muslim so I don't know if that makes a difference.

My ex used to love them though and I would do it maybe once a fortnight and we used to have sex nearly every day. He always wanted me to deep throat which I absolutely hated. I don't even think he liked blow jobs that much because he never finished quickly, I think he just liked the idea of a woman having his dick in her mouth. He also used to love giving oral which I absolutely hate. Sex with him was not great to be fair, it was all about what he wanted. Glad to be rid of him.

Everytime we have sex.

I really enjoy giving them and have no issue with semen in my mouth or swallowing it.

In the early days of giving blowjobs (in my late teens) i did experience some of the problems mentioned but with practice and good technique i dont have those issues anymore

raven- Fabulous for you then. Anything I find disgusting in my mouth makes me choke and gag. It's nothing to do with my breathing. It's quite insulting for another woman in insulate it's my fault for 'using the wrong technique'.

I dont mind the taste of semen and am hapoy to swallow, its more the actual giving of the blowjob that puts me off a bit, which i think is due to laziness 😂

Oh god is that a thing we are supposed to do? I thought it was just for porn!

No part of sex is ever “a thing you’re supposed to do”

I do think your last comment isn’t in earnest.

Men - get a lot more from sex than women do

You can’t make statements like that as fact.

So, whoever decided that men get more from having sex than women then? I can’t speak for men, but l’m in my 40s now and still get so much from it; it’s about passion and it’s important to me. It’s not something (or shouldn’t be) that women give to men.

And for those who misinterpreted what l said earlier, l did not force any man to have a blowie against his will. I sought consent which was given. Consent, regardless of gender should be a pre-requisite of anything sexual. No exceptions.

Re retching /gagging (and only aimed at those who want to do it, not those who have said they dislike it)

I use my hand on the lower part and mouth on the top half (I'm probably providing wank fodder for the hairy handed now...!)

There's no way anything is going near the back of my throat. Also if you angle it correctly, I get a positive response from pushing into the inside of my cheek - be wary of teeth though!

I enjoy giving and get turned on by it

Everyone is different though and if it isn't something you enjoy, you don't have to do it.

I also totally diasgree that sex is just for the benefit of men. I have a higher sex frive than dp, one of the reasons there are so few blowjobs is i like sex.

Tbh i think that if you believe that sex is just for men, you've never had good sex...

It isn't the 1950s. Women are allowed to enjoy sex these days, it's actively encouraged I've found 😉

@ravenmum thanks very much!

I have to be in the right mood. He never asks but is always happy to receive them 😁 I don't do it too often because as he is quite big and It does hurt my jaw. He tries to reciprocate but I just don't really like it tbh glad others have said the same I thought I was in the minority.

“Rarely now. It takes DH forever to finish and he'll hold himself back to make it last because it's enjoyable.

For him.

Meanwhile I get terrible jaw ache, knee and back ache, I get tired of switching sodding hands and I'm constantly holding back throwing up because I have a really bad gag reflex.”

This too apart from he liked me to gag and I’d end up scratching my own hands with my nails using both hands to hold/jerk him. I’d be moaning/slurping etc doing anything to hurry it up.

I think I spent a large portion of my life doing sexual acts because I thought I had to.

Tedious.