Blowjobs...how often do you do it?

[ScottishStottie]

Curious to know what the 'normal' is in terms of frequency of giving blowjobs, and if you actually enjoy giving them??

For me, im not a big fan of giving them, but more out of laziness than anything else. Dp usually gets one when im on my period, although some months if its a bit heavier then my cramps are worse and i dont want to. So he maybe gets one every couple of months.

He would never say anything, but given how grateful and happy he seems when he does get one, i imagine he would like this to be more frequent.

Curious to know whether i am being lazy or whether its an acceptable amount? 😂

I have to be really in the mood. I have a low libido due to a medical problem so DP takes anything he can get. He usually gets maybe 1/2 a month. I don’t mind giving them, it’s not top of the list though.

I used to give them regularly but since DH isn’t willing to reciprocate that has dwindled drastically. I love doing it but I don’t see why he should get all the fun whilst I’m not.

He gets one when I get oral from him, so not very often!

Pretty much every time we have sex, not necessarily a long one but it’s good foreplay

Same as @Felicity

I can make DP cum within a few minutes of a BJ, and hes not huge so not a great deal to gag on, therefore I give them quite often, especially when I'm feeling lazy and I don't want to have sex and he does... that way I can get away with the whole 'oops, im so sorry, didn't stop in time'

Probably once a week/fortnight, depending on time of month and how sexually active we are....mostly how fucking knackered we are

As foreplay most times we have sex.

As a stand alone act. Just for him till completion. About once a year 🤣

Pretty much every time - I enjoy it, he enjoys it... all good.

There's no such thing as "normal". Everyone has their own "normal", don't they.

If giving him 10 BJs a week works for you both great. If once a week works again great.

Can’t remember the last time.

I find them boring now.

Last time was about 5 years ago, so pretty much never!

Can’t remember the last time. I find them boring now.

LOLS!

@Iwantcollarbones

I had that issue once upon a time
Kicked him out (it was not to do with just the lack of a sex act but it went towards it) .

@Iwantcollarbones But surely if you love doing it then you're 'cutting off your nose to spite your face'?

I’m submissive in the bedroom so every time he tells me too but I do love making him cum. It’s reciprocal so I’m not complaining. Sex has gone through the roof since lockdown. Garden is looking good too.

I’d struggle to give an accurate figure. I think there was a month at one point when it was a daily occurrence other times we can go months without doing it. I quite enjoy giving them (find it very relaxing so sometime offer when I’m struggling to get to sleep, I know that sounds bad but I don’t for d DH obviously, and also makes go foreplay). I really don’t think this is one of those things where you have a normal, just what works and what the two of you want.

I used to love them, dh used to joke that I thought a blow job was the answer to everything!

But his sex drive is significantly lower than mine, eventually he'd rejected my advances so much I told him I wouldn't try it on with him again but any time he wanted sex, I'd be up for it. We've dtd maybe 4 times in 3 years and I can't remember the last time I gave him a blow job.

If I'm honest though, so much anger and resentment has built up due to other relationship issues, I don't want to have sex any more anyway.

Included in foreplay, twice a week. As a stand alone thing, once or twice a month

My DH is huge and it's very difficult to properly get it in there. He isn't that fussed on BJs, says he has never understood why they are so popular. I do wonder if he doesn't enjoy them as much as some other men seem to because he's too big for anyone to have properly gotten in there... (if that makes sense, lol).

He loves handjobs. Would always much prefer that to a BJ. Sadly I don't do it that often. We usually just end up having sex and all the hand and mouth stuff is just foreplay. He gives me oral very frequently.

Your post has made me feel bad for my DH. He would go down on me at any moment I asked, for as long as I wanted, and the poor bugger hardly ever gets a much beloved hand job! I'm going to make an effort to do it more often.

Every time we have sex but rarely standalone. I love to do it too.

Haven't. Quite happy about it. I get mine, and we're both happy about it.

About 1ce a week. Cums quickly so it's not too bad, I also plan things in my head while I'm doing it, like what I need from Tesco etc so it's ok...

Once or twice a year maybe. He's girthy so I get jaw ache quickly plus he then wants to reciprocate which I HATE!

For us every time we have sex, until completion not very often at the moment as we’d both rather have sex as well.

Like a pp I am submissive in the bedroom so it's whenever it's expected, usually every time at the moment.