Blowjobs...how often do you do it?

[ScottishStottie]

Curious to know what the 'normal' is in terms of frequency of giving blowjobs, and if you actually enjoy giving them??

For me, im not a big fan of giving them, but more out of laziness than anything else. Dp usually gets one when im on my period, although some months if its a bit heavier then my cramps are worse and i dont want to. So he maybe gets one every couple of months.

He would never say anything, but given how grateful and happy he seems when he does get one, i imagine he would like this to be more frequent.

Curious to know whether i am being lazy or whether its an acceptable amount? 😂

I enjoy giving them its just alot of effort though to have to move from lying position to blowjob position

Never, my dh doesn't like them
Can't say I miss them either

covidco: plus he then wants to reciprocate which I HATE!

Don't have it if you don't like it, it's not essential. I always preferred giving to receiving but when you've been married donkey's years, none of that is so important. There are plenty of other things that you can do to show love and affection.

Most times during foreplay but not often by itself. I really like doing it. He really likes my doing it.

Never. It’s grim.

Never. Dp hates them............he's happy to go down on me tho so I'm fine with that 😂😂😂

I’ve never liked it but always in the past felt pressured into it because it’s “normal”. Now I’m never doing it again! Happy to be single but if the right guy came along he’d have to realise it’s off the table and decide if he can live with that. I won’t compromise myself again in any area, including the bedroom.

Every time we have sex he reciprocated via 69

Yuk 🤮🤮🤮

Probably a couple of times a month. We have sex a few times a week but I only really do it if i feel the urge and when I’m in my period, so a couple of times a month it is!

He goes down on me more often and would every night if I wanted but I prefer other things.

Every time we have sex (so at least once a week). I really enjoy giving them and giving my DH that pleasure.

I actually find them comforting. Maybe l was deprived of a dummy as a kid. I once surprised a male friend when l asked him if l could, when l was upset over something. I’d had no previous sexual contact with him.

As part of foreplay (there has got to be a better word for something so important), more or less every time. Oral only sessions, maybe 3 times a month; l don’t count.

And reciprocation is vital for anyone crossing the threshold into my boudoir! Rules of the Chateau!

And there is nothing yuk about oral!

I find asking your friend because you were upset a bit yuk starlight. What were you thinking?
I like giving them, I don’t count it when it is part of foreplay though, so it is not that often anymore.

It's often part of foreplay (not always to finish). To finish? It varies maybe once a month?

Basically, at my age I'm not too into it, I do know it is something that DH really enjoys/likes ... and he is such a helpful, kind considerate partner in general life!!

@SiaPR - l asked. He agreed. He could have refused. Consent is important. In this case it cemented something special.

Never. Was made to do it in the past and now I just can’t

If I cba to have full sex and I sometimes get a head rub. Maybe once or twice a week I don't really know

About 5 years ago. He’s rather large and it really hurts my jaw but he’d actually rather have sex and I’m not complaining!! He doesn’t do the equivalent on me ever as I hate it.

Every 2mths ish. No marker on it lol sometimes less time sometimes more.

Hardly ever. I don't like doing it and I don't like being on the receiving end either (and no, it's not because I've never had a good one, I just really don't like it)

But it makes you sound so needy. I would never be ok with that. And what kind of man wants to have sex with an upset woman?

Every time we have sex although that doesn't mean all the way to the end, more foreplay. Sometimes I give him a BJ only and then I take him all the way to orgasm...sometimes before he goes to work if I'm feeling exceptionally loving! Means he has a smile on his face all day

Very rarely because I really don't enhoy it. I have been promising one through most of lockdown but we have both taken to lounging around in PJ or in DH case his smelly gym kit so I have said he has to wash it before it goes in my mouth

I don't give oral and I don't like receiving oral. I find it boring for myself and I don't like the power play with giving a BJ. Plus why would you want to shove it in my mouth (unwashed a lot of the time), choke me which is unpleasant for everyone, when you can just have sex with me? I find it quite degrading actually (similarly to choking/hands round the neck).

I did it a lot, and was actually pretty good at it, in my 20's with various boyfriends/partners but only because that's whats expected of women. My husband respects me enough to not push me to do something I'm uncomfortable with.