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Anal sex

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feelinghothothot · 03/07/2015 22:53

Any real advice on how to enjoy this without biting the pillows? I've tried it a couple of times but I know dp would love to do it more. I'm also keen to get into it. Lube, toys - can someone steer me right?

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Fatstacks · 03/07/2015 22:55

I think it's something that can become tolerable, but if you're not enjoying it fuck that life is too short.

InnocentWhenYouDream · 03/07/2015 22:58

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Magicalmrmistofeles · 03/07/2015 23:00

Honestly, you like it you don't. If you don't, life's too short. If you do carry on.

I don't think you can grow a liking for it!

Mamabird3 · 03/07/2015 23:02

I agree with innocent, if you are using lots of lube and are ready etc then what you're experiencing is likely to be the best of what you'll get. Try to make sure he is gentle and takes his time etc... But I've tried it with dh, he is gentle and makes sure i am ready but I still get nothing from it. It isn't painful, but I don't enjoy it really. It's pretty much nothing to me in the grand scheme of sex and there's a lot i would rather do. He doesn't really ask because he knows I don't like it, but on extremely extremely rare occasions I will offer because I know he likes it, as a treat if you will Blush

GinBunny · 04/07/2015 01:37

Sorry to be blunt, but IME anal is more pleasurable it the guy is small. I've enjoyed it in the past but also hated it too. Size matters in this case Blush

shitebag · 04/07/2015 01:45

You could try different positions, on the few occasions we've done it I found it more pleasurable to be on top as it meant I was in control and could take it at my pace.

In the end though we agreed that neither of us are really into it.

AlpacaLypse · 04/07/2015 01:55

I have a feeling that anal is one of the things that bog standard porn says women and men ought to be enjoying, but that in actual fact not everyone actually likes very much.

My own experiences of it was that it bloody well hurt and the second time it bloody well hurt even more. Despite tons of lube.

ScooseIsLoose · 04/07/2015 02:00

It's an exit not an entrance sorry tried it didn't like it too sore so never again

velouria · 04/07/2015 02:03

I tried it once, we were both very drunk, it went in etc fine. Wasn't particularily enjoyable tbh, Feel no need to try again, so ime get blind drunk and shove it up lol

NoMoreParades · 04/07/2015 02:35

It is actually possible to enjoy anal sex, and orgasm from it. I could have written this post a year ago; disliked anal sex found it painful and a bit degrading. But had a revelation with my new partner that it could actually be fantastic!
Try lying on your back with a pillow under your bottom and your legs up resting on his shoulders. Get him to go in slow and when there do shallow thrusts where he's not pulling out too much; if it's deep enough you should feel it on your gspot. Add clitoral stimulation and voila, serious orgasm potential!
Make sure you're mentally up for it though and get the muscles relaxed by getting him to use his finger a fair bit first.

zippey · 04/07/2015 03:04

Have you tried anal sex on him with a dildo or vibrator? Seam only fair for him to experience the pleasure.

BathshebaDarkstone · 04/07/2015 03:53

What Innocent said.

AcrossthePond55 · 04/07/2015 04:16

We tried it, I didn't like it as it hurt. DH kept bugging so suggested to him what Zippy suggested so he could see why I was balking. DH didn't like it either and he hasn't bothered me about it since.

AmIbeingTreasonable · 04/07/2015 04:51

I always think that the guys who are keen for this should be on the receiving end first, that would sort out the men from the boys, so to speak Grin

WelcometotheMH · 04/07/2015 06:14

Totally agree with you GinBunny. The only reason I like it with DH is because he is not exactly well endowed. Blush

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feelinghothothot · 04/07/2015 06:38

Thanks for this. I imagined that it was far more widely enjoyed than the feedback on these posts so thought there was a big secret that I didn't know! To be frank, I haven't tried the loads of lube thing - which I'm guessing is actually the only trick I'm missing!

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UnknownMoniker · 04/07/2015 06:47

It's all in the prep, I find it very pleasurable sometimes and painful others.

we started using a butt plug, I really never thought anal would be so pleasurable.

Leave the butt plug in for a bit whilst you do other things, it is quite strange but horny feeling. Then have him take it out gently, add some more lube and fingers then gentle and slow entry of his penis.

So Lots of lube, a small butt plug, very slow gentle entry, try to relax and not tense, it's painful when you can't relax. Try different positions.

Aridane · 04/07/2015 07:28

OP - lube is absolutely essential - don't even go,there without loads of lube

Redglitter · 04/07/2015 11:29

We actually found the lube was a disaster. I think I'm much more relaxed about it now and we don't use any and it seems far easier Blush

gatewalker · 04/07/2015 11:32

Redglitter - You're in dangerous territory not using lube. Seriously.

NoMoreParades · 04/07/2015 12:51

Another non-Lube user here, honestly don't need it. Sorry that sounds slightly smug, not meant to be.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 04/07/2015 12:57

If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. But if you think you might like it, then the important things are 1- condom 2- more lube than you can imagine being necessary 3- he goes extremely slowly and doesn't thrust at all
If those rules are stuck to it can be great.

flanjabelle · 04/07/2015 12:57

To me it just felt like doing a massive poo, that kept going back in. Not sexy at all. I must be missing something..

Dp is rather blessed though, so perhaps it wasn't the best idea.

flanjabelle · 04/07/2015 12:59

Nomore I'm not sure why anyone would be smug about having a naturally slippery arsehole. That is a weird thing to brag about.

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