Anal sex

[feelinghothothot]

Any real advice on how to enjoy this without biting the pillows? I've tried it a couple of times but I know dp would love to do it more. I'm also keen to get into it. Lube, toys - can someone steer me right?

[Fairylea]

Can't understand why on earth you're doing something you don't enjoy. Just say no. It's that simple. You've tried it, you don't like it. Done.

[Millie3030]

Why are some people so easy to say "you didn't like it, never do it again" If someone wrote "I tried giving a BJ but didn't like it, can I have tips, would people say never do it again? Or tried doggy style, on top etc?

If you are with someone you really like and enjoy experimenting with sex, why wouldn't you try something a few times to see if you liked it? Maybe there is a better way to do it for it to be more pleasurable.

People get so precious over anal, when you think about all things sexual it's all a bit gross in the cold light of day, gentials in mouths, sexual juices it's all a bit no! But doesn't mean it can't feel good.

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

Eekaman that post was a bit...ew
Tone it down a bit yeah?

[Effendi]

Oh good lord. Like having a shit backwards.
I once offered to stick something up his bum and he shuddered no thanks. But it's ok to do it to me? Get to fuck.

[fairnotfit]

OP, get yourself to Center Parcs. I understand it's practically mandatory there. Job done.

[Sparrowlegs248]

eeka that's really quite.....i don't know. Not nice.

OP. You need lube. Apparently its best to start with you face down on the bed (something to do with the angle) and if you are already turned on. Then, take your time. Really lube as needed throughout. I cannot imagine the horror of lubeless anal!!

[WhirlpoolGalaxyM51]

Agree with poster way upthread that this is a situation where size most definitely matters!

[headinhands]

Describing the scenario using the words 'man' and 'girl' makes it even creepier. Ugh.

[Fairylea]

The use of the word "reassurance" creeps me out. If I'm doing sexual stuff with someone I should be jumping at the chance to do something, not needing "reassurance". Creepy.

[WhirlpoolGalaxyM51]

Not just you! The reassurance part was particularly weird and icky. Made me think of an animal having something uncomfortable done to it, like at the vet, for some reason. Really really odd phrasing.

[suzannecanthecan]

I get the feeling Eekaman was typing one handed there and is really enjoying this thread ?

Or does he fancy himself as a writer of erotic fiction (if so don't give up the day job) ?

[HuftysTrain]

I'm frightened for my DD growing up in a twisted world where young boys have seen so much porn as to believe all girls want this and will happily provide it.

Why should a heterosexual woman be expected to do this but a heterosexual man routinely would not? Double standards as usual.

[gamerchick]

Well he might have come across as creepy writing that but he's still right in his description. That's a good way of doing things so there's no pain for the woman.. Which is the most important.

[WhirlpoolGalaxyM51]

Surely you get deeper penetration from behind so more potential for pain and are also less able to control what is happening, on the offchance your partner isn't such a paragon of absolute restraint as Mr Eekaman.

That aside, I don't see what about "reassuring" your sexual partner about what is going to happen is "right". It's weird and creepy.

[WhirlpoolGalaxyM51]

If I have to reassure someone about what I am about to do to them (because that's the connotation isn't it) then I'd be a touch concerned I was actually trying to persuade them into doing something they weren't that into.

Just my perspective obviously

Man reassures reluctant girl that anal sex will be hot, dark, and thrilling.

Lovely.

[itwillgetbettersoon]

It frightens me that young people see anal sex as vanilla. I'm older so I say no to it. I would imagine a young person finds this difficult as it has become so normalised. I had never even heard of it when I was in my late teens early 20s.

[BakingCookiesAndShit]

Having to reassure a girl that she wants to do anything sexual is not what is meant by continuing enthusiastic consent.

[Heckler]

Ugh at eekaman's post.

[Eekaman]

Well, OP was asking for advice. I gave advice from the male perspective and I'm glad at least one poster - gamerchick - understood my view.

No, I wasn't typing one handed. No, I don't fancy myself as a writer of erotic fiction :)

And I didn't use the term 'reassurance' by accident, to someone new to a practice they are unfamiliar with but want to try it out, surely reassurance is a good thing? And note, I said 'reassurance' not coercion.

And absolutely no, I wouldn't ever try to do anything my partner wasn't equally willing to do.

And apologies to those who thought it was fucking disgusting. It wasn't intended to be.