Anal sex

[feelinghothothot]

Any real advice on how to enjoy this without biting the pillows? I've tried it a couple of times but I know dp would love to do it more. I'm also keen to get into it. Lube, toys - can someone steer me right?

[UnsolvedMystery]

I enjoy anal sex - I have never been coerced into it.
Eeka's description was not bad at all - if you don't like it, just don't do it. It's not for everyone. Reassurance isn't exactly the right word, but I think he was trying to convey the need to communicate and keep checking that you are both ok and happy to keep going.

Start with a small toy and plenty of lube, only move onto something bigger when you are ready. The woman needs to feel in control so the man needs to keep still and allow the women to move as she is comfortable. Spoons is a good starting position. Take it slow, work up toward it over a few sessions. If you don't enjoy the sensations, stop.

[WhirlpoolGalaxyM51]

YY plenty of women like it.

plenty of men and women like a bit of anal action without going as far as something as big as a penis - some penises are pretty big indeed and as mentioned by a few posters size really does matter when it comes to this!

I'd say give it a go if you fancy but it's not a must obviously.

Thinking about it earlier the things that's interesting in het sex of the more standard type is that the things that are tricky / potentially painful are all for the woman. Is there anything that regular couples get up to (or try to get up to!) that involve the man trying to do something that is potentially uncomfortable / painful and having to grit their teeth a bit really to get to "the good bit" or whatever? I can't think of anything. Which is maybe why men's ideas about this are different from women's sometimes?

Dunno

OP you've had lots of advice here so if you decide to have another crack at it I hope you have fun! And if not, it's not the be all and end all is it.

[ChoudeBruxelles]

Dh would love to do anal again (very long time since we've done it - pre ds and haemorroids). I've told him that we can when he's happy to have a dildo or similar shoved in and out of his arse.

[Zillie77]

Who decides what is "too graphic" for the Sex subsection of Mumsnet, may I ask? Aren't we still working that out?

There is clearly sexism afoot. Don't deny it.

[sexboardname]

Today 17:36 BertrandRussell

" I found I quite enjoyed it."

I honestly think you should do more than "quite enjoy" something that's potentially painful and damaging.....

I wish I could be sure that many women are not being at best ""persuaded" to try anal sex because men want to do it..........

[BertrandRussell]

Sexboardname- the OP has already tried it and doesn't like it.

There is a lot of evidence that many women are being coerced. I don't think the BMJ is considered a feminist publication.

The aoap has been given lots of practical advice. She has also, I hope , been given enough support to say "no" if she doesn't want to do it. When often find saying no difficult.

[BertrandRussell]

What's your issue with my post, Sexboardname?

[sexboardname]

And "links ah hoy " we all need a good link don't we.

It's just turned into a pile in, and now we are talking about all the poor women who are persuaded into anal.

The thread was originally about asking for tips on anal.

[BertrandRussell]

Oh do read the thread, sexboardname!

[usualsuspect333]

One of the tips was 'don't do it if you don't like it'

Whats wrong with that?

[GeorgeYeatsAutomaticWriter]

Yeah, 'hats off' to your wife for submitting to uncomfortable sex. Christ.

[Eekaman]

Innocent - my deep / dark comments were actually about how it feels me as a male.

NOT, as you insist, how I reckon it feels for my partner, so on that score, it's another fail I'm afraid.

And to those with positive comments - thank you.

[AnyFucker]

"MNFeminist shit"

what's that then ?

people who say "only do what you really want to do" and if you have to be "reassured" into a sexual act you should think twice about what that person's motives might be ?

sounds like good old ^common sense" to me

[AnyFucker]

oh, and if everyone reported the creepy fuckers when they see them, we might get shut of them once and for all

[AnyFucker]

threads like this certainly bring them out of the woodwork

[BertrandRussell]

Wow, dadofsprogs-you're a real catch, aren't you?

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

The thought of daddofsprogs fucking his wife up the arse despite knowing she was uncomfortable is completely gross. Thanks for sharing