DH said I’m ’not unattractive’

[XNotquitereadyX]

My DH asked me if I thought he was attractive. I asked in what sense ie looks, personality, etc. I obviously said of course he is attractive and he is a good catch. I then asked him the same question. This was all said very casually.

he said I wasn’t unattractive. I’m older so have aged and I used to be much more attractive.

I told him he has knocked my confidence. He doesn’t really see that he has said anything wrong. I just feel like he no longer finds me attractive. We also haven’t had sex for ages which now explains things.

oh also I’m currently heavily pregnant so don’t feel myself at all.

What a cunt

What she said

How incredibly unattractive he's made himself, OP. Rude, idiotic insensitive arse 😡

I think you could do a lot better than your husband tbh @XNotquitereadyX

You can't be very old if you're pregnant.

You're hardly ancient and decrepit if you're pregnant, OP.

Yep it's rude and you should tell him so 😡

Why did he bring the subject up in the first place OP? It seems a strange thing to ask you if it was out of the blue.

What a lovely man.

How rude and mean of him

yep this, he sounds like a shallow dickhead that used your confirmation that yes he is attractive to not so subtly demean you, absolutely wanky behaviour and you deserve better ❤️

How dare you age ! It’s really disgusting a lot of women are doing it now
please stop !

We're all aging....I thought you were going to be really quite old based on what you said but if you're pregnant, you can't be.

Agreed. Why is he asking? This would concern me.

That's a shitty thing to say. Especially as he was clearly fishing for complements.

You said you're pregnant and now t feeling great. Hard to tell on an jnternet forum, but I would put money on the fact that you're blooming in they way pregnant women can (even if it doesn't feel like that) and he's feeling rather insecure that he's not the centre of your universe.

You're pregnant with his kid and he said you weren't unattractive? What a dick!

I hate the MN shorthand 'first reply nails it', but in this case....

Totally agree

Well he's clearly asked you the question and expecting you to ask it back, but to give that answer, why?? I mean anyone would be upset so he's clearly trying to upset you.

He brought it up, this wasn't something he awkwardly said because he was put on the spot, he deliberately asked you, I just don't understand why a loving partner would do that. And you're having his baby? It's piss poor.

As is often the case, the first post nails it

Tell him you wish to amend your previous answer, he is a deeply unattractive human being.

Why are there so many pricks in existence 🤦‍♀️
You’re pregnant you focus on you and not this self absorbed prick. Do something nice for you go out tomorrow get a candle, new pjs jammies, get a magazine and a nice snack and face mask. Block him out and focus on you.

once babies here if you feel he’s not treating you right do not stand for it and never let anyone make you doubt yourself 💗

1st reply nails it.

I'm also with @tipperttruck here.
what a Prince of a man.

How did this conversation come about op? I think it's important that he understands how big a thing pregnancy is on your body and your mental wellbeing and how low he's dropped the ball.

Where do you see things going from here?

This was my thought!

42 at the most, surely?!

Has he a wandering eye?

I've never had a partner or husband ever ask me that about themselves.